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Q: my bf randomly broke up with me because he needed space and time.He told me im the most amazing girl he's ever met and that im his first real girlfriend and ive put him through the relationship experience but now he sees me as a friend and wants to go out and experience his "high school life". We are on good terms and still hangout once in a while, but im still crazy for him.I can't stop thinking about him and i want to get over him or atleast show that im over him! tips!?

He could be scared. You mentioned that he want's to experience his high school life, which might mean he's just not ready for a relationship like the one y'all had. It sounds like you truly love him and that he started to feel that way for you and just ditched. In my opinion, he's afraid of loving you; y'all are in high school, no one expects to "fall in love" in high school, this isn't hollywood. Talk to him! Trying to forget him just makes it harder everytime you see him...TALK IT OUT!! You never know, he could be waiting for you to talk to him...talking never hurt anybody....if you do it appropiratly, like no yelling or accusing, just talk!

I hope this helps

Q: i couldnt believe my eyes. there i am talking and laughing with my boyfriend telling him his room was a mess i start putting things back in his underwear draw but suddenly i see a bunch of papers so i start taking them out and lauging at his handwritting suddeny i see a letter all the way at the bottom all folded up real tight i open it up and there it was a letter written to an ex it said Dear evette i miss you, i miss the way you smile, i miss the way we'd talk when we'd stay up i miss hearing you snore(yeah i know) i miss your voice your eyes and talking to you , i miss you so much i really do.. those were some of the things i read i confronted him and he got so nervouse he ripped and threw the letter out the window. i felt so bad i wanted to cry. after i kept searching to see if id find something else turns out he told me he wrote the letter before he met me but how was i to believe him.i found another papper this one said dear ivette with the date august 19 2008 ... we started dating september 16 2008. that girl goes to the same school we do. and it hurt so bad.. i dont know if i shoud believe he wrote that letter on that date.it hurt so bad.why would he keep something like that? weve been together for 1 year and 7 months i found that in january after a year of being together. when i confronted him about keeping the letter he said he didnt know it was there should i believe him? after all him and that girl messed around for 2 years but he says she was nothing but a nasty girl(if u know what i mean) he tells me he hates talking about her but its funny how she brokeup with him on a summer of july and we went out on september when he met me in school..i mean maybe he was so hurt he wanted to show her he can de much better. but a guy whos trying to get back at a gir he wouldnt last with her for very long now would he? at least not 1 year and 7 months. did i mention he has 2 tattoos of me and is planning on getting a third i dont know i am so confused was i he's rebound? yet he fell in love with me? i feel hurt what should i do? hes 19 and im 16 and i do love him but im devastated.hes going to college soon and iljoin him in 1 year if all goes well i love him so much yet i am so confused please help!

ok, i'm gonna keep this short and sweet...i hope. Look he could've just been trying to get those thoughts out of his head by writing them down, so maybe your over-reacting. Or he could still feel something for her because it looks like you said she left him, so he probably wasn't ready to lose her yet. You never know he could love you more than he loved her and that scares him because he hasn't gotten over her yet. You can't really get advice on here because what you really need to do is just talk, no yelling and fighting, just talk!! I hope i was some help!

Q: Hi. Okay so this is my problem.
I have a new boyfriend. But I love my exboyfriend, and he loves me. My exboyfriend has a cheating problem (he's cheated quite a lot). Finally, I told him I was done and I got a new boyfriend, who I really like, but not as much as my ex. My ex has been telling me that he never knew what it felt like to be put through what he's put me through, and now he's convinced that he's never gunna cheat again. I want to be with him, but I also don't wanna break my current boyfriend's heart. I really don't know what to do because I'm torn between the two of them. I'm scared that if I stay with my current boyfriend, I'll go through what I always end up going through with my ex where we just don't talk for months and I'm miserable until we start talking again. My current boyfriend is more loyal, but he also lies alot.. he's famous for telling girls what they want to hear instead of what's really happening (he told his last girlfriend he loved her when he really didn't). And he's really bad about like talking to me. We barely talk at all unless we're hanging out, otherwise we almost never talk on the phone or text or whatever. He's also really late all the time which I can't stand. I really don't know what to do. I love my ex, but I don't wanna go back to him just to get my heart broken again. He seems legit this time. But I also don't want to hurt my current boyfriend. What do I do? I'm 16 by the way, and they're both 16, if that helps anyone.

Don't take him back unless you are sure that he will not cheat; he will feed upon your uncertainty. If he is able to tell that you're doubting yourself, who says he wont use that against you? A lot of people will probably try to tell you that if you really love him you should endure the oain from him betraying you because soon he'll see you actually love him and maybe he'll change. MAYBE!!!!...how can you be certain that once he realizes you love so much that you're letting him cheat that he won't do it more often? He is a tool, a user, a(exscuse my french) a douche!! But thats just from your description, you didn't say anything nice about him except that you loved him leaving me to believe he isn't really that great, then again I could be wrong. You say you're 16...how do you know what love is? Don't get me wrong, I'm 16 too and i'm actually in love, but you never described why you loved him you just said he did. Did he make you lose your breath just by looking into your eyes? Did you gasp everytime his fingers brushed against your skin? Did you cry everytime he kissed you, because it was so passionate? Did you wake up at night longing for him to be beside you? Did you?

If this second guy treats you the way you claim then get rid of him too!! You sound like an amazing person and you deserve a guy that shows up on time, call/texts regularly just to say hey, a guy who has the balls to tell you what you don't wanna hear but atleast it's the truth, a guy who DOESN'T cheat on you!! You can't worry about hurting your current boyfriend when he is CURRENTLY hurting you!! You come first, and not in a selfish way! If someone is causing you so much stress and pain you owe it to yourself to get out of that relationship!! What you need to do is find someone who loves you before you go and fall in love with them!!!

but that's just what I think!

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Ok, first off, HELLO! My name is Andrew, a.k.a BrokenAndrew, and I write an advice column for my schools newspaper. My principal, since its a private catholic high school, will not allow anything "bad". I'm tired of my advice columns being about a big test coming up or getting along with a teacher...I WANT THE REAL QUESTIONS!!! If you have anything you need advice on, feel free to drop me a line and I will definetly get back to you!