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Q: Okay well a like a month ago, me and my bf had sex, and he didn't wear a condom. he lets call it "let go" no in me but a little lower than my lower stomache. Now see my period was supposed to start today, but it didn't, and i'm sure it'll come soon, but the thing is about 5-6 days after we had sex a month ago, i got my period.

Can i still be pregnant by any chance?

and i'm 14.

thank you.
ANOTHER 14 year old having sex?
Jesus, what is this world coming too?

YOUR WAY TOO YOUNG TO BE HAVING SEX!

But, to answer your question.. no you arent pregnant scince you had your period.

Be more careful next time you have sex, even if you DONT get pregnant, you can still very likely get STD's.

Bailea

Q: My Mom read my journal/diary and found that i had had sex before, (not anymore) and she went ballistic. She is now taking me to a gyno tomorrow, and i really dont want to go, (besides, im not haveING sex, I had it once before) and shes putting me on birth control. I was wondering , does she have any right to force me to do these things? She cant force me to go to the gyno, and she cant force me to have birth control right? (Birth control being a shot of hormones) I dont want these things to happen.. Do i have a say in what happens to me? 14 yrs old and obviously female if that helps.
Umm.. Your 14 hun.
And your having sex?

Your mom have EVERY right to go ballistic about this. Your lucky you have a nice mom. If i were your mom..you would have been dead. You could get so many STD's from having sex scince your not married. I think that it is outrageous that you had sex at such a young age, and you have already lost your virginity so it wont be "special" when you have a husband. You should have though long and hard before you go off and have sex with someone. Sure it might have been an invasion of privacy that your mom read your diary but, why the heck would you put that in your diary in the first place?! Just because you had sex once doesnt mean that it no longer matters .. it still happend and you lost your virgingity because of it. Next time, be a LOT smarter before you go off and have sex with someone.

Bailea

Q: Hi 15F. Just because im a girl means that im supposed to have a BF. and i dont by choice and becuase im ugly. but that still doesnt stop
family or friends from asking if i have a
BF.
usually when they ask i say no and leave it at that but they still ask other questions like why not? or do you think your gay?
its sooo annoying!
is there a way to say something that will make them stop asking these things i want to be polite yet firm.. i rate 5s. thanks.

~~No Boyfriend. No Problems.~~
If you have no problem with not having a boyfriend just tell them that.Just when they ask you say it like you mean it for example..lets say they ask you ," Hey do you have a bofriend yet?" all you have to say is ,"no and i dont want one right now." And if your family or friends ever ask you if your gay that is just wrong.Tell them no and tell them that just because that you dont have a boyfriend doesnt mean that you are gay.I dont have a boyfriend but i cannot stand lesbians they are just plain creepy.Also, if the same person keeps asking just say, "I told you like 5 times already i dont have a boyfriend!"That actually makes people stop asking that because it embarasses sometimes so they will stop.If they still continur to ask, just tell them etheir that you just broke up with someone or you like someone.(i know that its lying but it will make them stop.)

I hope that helped :)
♥ Bailea

Q: i just got an account on iconator and have been asking people sincerely how to make them, but no one has answered me? Its been a few weeks now. Please explain it?! ill give credit on all of my icons if you'd like. please. i need help! and any tricks on how to get some program w.o paying? thanks
Ok, first go to jasc.com and sign up (its free) then go to the demos and find the animation studio or something like that.Then download it and put all your slides in the order that you want them and upload them onto the program.Its really easy to follow and when it runs almost out of days (for the trial..its 30 or 60 days long) just set the clock on your computer back and it should give you more time

I hope that helped :)

♥ Bailea

EDIT:
This is how you make an icon..

Im just going to make a simple icon so that you can see how it goes okay?
I am going to make a heart with a grey background and the letters 'i love you' will appear individually
1.Go into paint or some paint program and make the bakground as small as you want the icon to be.
2.Once you have to background go ahead and save it and then draw a design in that box.
3.After you have done that save it.
You know how cartoons are done in individual slides?Well icons are the same way so start drawing off of the picture that you started with here is an ex. http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a61/lilbay/Heart1.png
Click on the link or paste it into your browser.
now this is the way that you make one of the letters..
http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a61/lilbay/Heart2.png
now save this as something different than the first one.
if you want the letters to appear one by one and not go away until the word is spelled DONT DELETE THE LETTERS! But if you want the letters to appear and dissapear erase them and put a new letter wherever you want.If you want the letters to change colors one by one then color the first letter a differnt color and save it everytime you do that.Just play around with it and you will get it.
Hope that helped and i hope to see your icons on iconator!

♥ Bailea

Q: I have this really good guy friend that I've liked ever since this summer. Recentlly I just found out that he's gay, and I was one of the few people he trusted with this. I really want to get over him, but recentlly I've been in denial and thinking that i was just imagining him telling me that, and ive been sleeping a lot more than usual. Is there anyway to get over him faster? I'll rate high for good answers
Err..
This is a hard one.
I guess the way i get over guys that i realy like is that i think about the bad things about him.In this case,hes gay. Find another guy and like him so that you get your mind off of your friend.

I hope that solves your problem.
Bailea

Q: i need to know if grils like geting secret antmirers gifts on valin time's day( i'm giving her a cristl heart) and if i should insribe some thing on it, what should i do.
Hmm.. if i were to get a gift on valentine's day, i would not want it to be from a secret admirer because it would make me probably go for all of the wrong guys.You should give her one that says something like "I love you,[insert your name here]"

Bailea

Q: I'm 13 years old...Ever since I started liking guys...I've noticed that ever guy that I liked never liked me back. And when I just reached the point where I thought this guy that was "perfect for me" I got up the courage to ask him out and now he's being a total jerk to me. Is there something wrong with me or am I just not good enough for anyone?
You sound alot like me..
I have liked alot of guys and they never like me back etheir. But, i have realised that usually the guys that are mean to you after you tell them that you like them are just not worth it.Go for the guys that are nice and dont care if you like them or not.Its not you its them and some guys are just to immature to have girlfriends.As soon as i realised this i began looking harder and i found someone. So, just try to give that guy up and look for someone else all he is doing is making you feel horrible.

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