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okay,i'm confused about a few things.
me & my boyfriend don't do much,
but we want to.
but we can't until i know a few things that i'm confused about.
i don't know how or when to get him hard.
like,all we've done is makeout & he fingers me,
and ik he wants a handjob,but i don't know one thing.
this is gonna sound reallly stupid,but he has to be hard before i give him a handjob or blowjob right?
i just don't know how to get him hard before i do those things,or when.
please don't say "if you don't know these things you shouldn't be doing them" or anything,
i really just need help.
thank youuu. (link)
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Ok listen to me...............First of all no he does not have to be hard......It can be a really enjoyable experience for a guy to become aroused while they recieve the blow job, And with the hand job remember to concentrate on the head of his penis ( that makes them cumm) Also cup your mouth when you begin and NO TEETH :D Wear something cute/sexy and surprise him with the whole experience........When you give him the blowjob don't let him finger you, instead concentrate on giving him a full ejaculation. Sometimes as women we have to be in full control of a situation to make it our own. So take your time and remember to have some type of lubrication ....... vasaline, ky jelly, baby oil. You will do fine if you use the advice and bring that sexual side out into the light. Tease him a little and pay attention to how his penis responds to certain things. Licking, slow/hard sucking, aggressive hand jobs or blow jobs.It can be sooooooooo fun/freaky at the same time. GL
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okay well i'm sexually active, but still a virgin. so theres this one little bump right above my clit, but not on it, and it like hurts when I push on it. I was wondering if its anything I should worry about? (link)
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Ok I'll tell you like this......... From what i am hearing you have either one of two things....... A hair bump or a boil....... and if not one of those maybe you had a little too much friction going on down there??????????? Anyway If i were you I would lightly daub alcohol with a cotton swab or q tip on the bump, now it will sting for a sec, Don't worry it won't last long. But you do have to remember that area is precious so treat it well and don't abuse it!!!!!!!!!!! Take Care and try to understand every little bump doesn't mean we have to panic :) Hope this works, Feel free to write me anytime!
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when your pregnant...do your boobs hurt within the first few weeks or is it later in the pregnancy? also, do you get menstral cramps. like before you get your period-the backpain the stomach...etc...do you get that during pregnancy in the first month or at all?
thankyou for any answers
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Well honey...............YES to all the above :) But hey don't you worry the pressure will soon become a part of you as your baby grows inside you, as for your breast, they may grow fast before you even reach 3 months because they are filling up with milk. Your nipples will be extra sensitive and your boobs will be tight like balloons:) So don't worry it will all fall in to place as your body adjusts itself for the baby. I have an 11 yr and my body has not been the same since, but everytime I look at him I realize it really ain't so Bad:) Good Luck and Don't worry remember how you feel will defenitly effect how your baby reacts inside of you. Write back anytime
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ok im having trouble shaving my vagaina. everytime i do it i end up bleeding from getting cut with the razor. i have no trouble going with the grain, but when i try to go the other way to make it extra smooth it gets cut and the next day it gets red and irritated and i think there are ingrown hairs. any advice? i want to be extra smooth and i dont want to wax either. (link)
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Simple........ buy an eyebrow archer and get in the tub or shower lather the cootie and it will come off smooth with no problem. And remember take your time ( it is your vagina so be careful :)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
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i usually have trouble starting striking conversations with my GF and i need help like avoiding akward silences or breaking them or just shownin my GF i care help? (link)
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First you need to figure out all interests/Likes,Also make sure you listen to what she says (completely!!!!!!) See I do know that men don't listen to everything women say, and understand it's not your fault it happens to be something men just do:) But if you commit to listening to what she says totally, then you will find your area of discussion more comfortable. See with women, we want to be HEARD......PERIOD. Now i don't know exactly how your gf acts, But I do know she is a female and it can be rather tricky!!!! So my advice to you is to send me a message with both of your zodiac signs, And I will then be able to give you the answer you need without a problem, I do have a great deal of knowlege when it comes to any advice. So send me a message and you will know everything :) Anytime
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15/f
ok so you no how you have the circle and then your nipple? well my "circles" are like... diffrent sizes? is that normal haha? and one boob is like bigger then the other.. i dont think anyone can notice it but im worried that my boyfriend will, like when were doing stuff?
so do i still have growing to do or is it going to be like that forever? (link)
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Look don't worry you have a whole lot of growing to do, but your breast will always be one size bigger than the other, and the circles around them are the (areola) they will become more visual once your body continues to grow. Now as far as your boyfriend noticing them ( he won't) Guys usually don't pay much attention to the little detail of our body we don't like!!! He will love your body no matter what you think, because to him you are beautiful regardless:) So don't worry you are going to grow and grow and one day you will be completely satisfied with what GOD gave you, Remember you are one of a kind no one else has your beauty, SO APPRECIATE IT!!!!!
BE HAPPY AND DON'T WORRY SO MUCH
WRITE ME ANYTIME, I WILL BE HAPPY TO HELP:)
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hi i was wondering a few questions. is it normal for almost all girls to finger them selves?
also, when a boy fingers you and pops your cherry, what happens? do you bleed? does it hurt? ....i need to know =)
thanks (link)
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Well Yes!!!!!! It is normal at one point in time in a woman's life as she develops and explores her body it will happen. (It is normal). But as far as boys doing it.......... well I don't suggest that just because fingers are rather dirty ( especially when their not yours) But if you do decide that you want to anyway, make sure it's a clean situation going down, and KNOW if you bleed from getting fingered something is not right!!!!!!! And remember with all sexual acts you are in control and should not experience any uncomfortable feeling or pain. Hope I Helped:)
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I'm looking into getting my nose pierced. I would like to get feedback from people who have their nose pierced or have done so in the past.
1) How can I tell if the place that is doing the piercing is safe and using acceptable tools?
2) On average, how much does it cost?
3) I know there may be swelling and stuff, but how do I know if there was an allergic reaction or something dangerous like that? How do I know if it's gone wrong to the point of removing the piercing and seeking medical attention?
4) How was the pain scale?
5) How do you know to pierce the right or left side? I'm leaning towards my left side, but I wanted to know what you thought.
6) Does thickness of the nose matter?
7) And if you could just explain what they did step-by-step for your piercing I would appreciate it.
Thanks so much! (link)
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hey,
i only have one thing to say........ go to a tattoo parlor (a recommended one) and remember when you do pick what side that is the easy part......The hard part is finding the right crease in your nose and making sure it's not to far up or too far down near the tip of your nose. And yes it is a quick pinch that makes your eyes tear terribly, and last but not least You may have some swelling (not all people do) but everyone is different :0 So my advice is to take a deep breath and get it done, It will be over with and you can enjoy your new piercing :) by the way I just got my first tattoo last summer and it is on my neck (wow!!!!!!!!!) I was scared, but hey it was just fine and it healed witrhin two weeks, So go ahead and do it you will be fine.
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f/16
I'm almost sure I'm starting to get stretch marks on my inner arms and I don't know what to do. I already have them on my legs...so getting them on my arms is like the last straw.
I feel so frantic and I want to use lotion and stuff on them but I'm not sure if it would even help since they're starting to come in. You can barely see them unless you really look...but I don't know that theres anything I can do at this point.
I know lotion helps the elasticity, but is it too late? I'm really scared. I know its just vanity, but I feel like I should be allowed to have a couple unscarred parts of my body. I'm not even overweight x.x
Pleaaase please help. My mom is being so useless about this.
Thank you (link)
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Hey girl,
Look this is what you do............First you get some cocoa butter, then you get some concealer. Ok once you get these two items relax................. Now use the cocoa butter and rub it in heavy in a circular motion on every stretch mark spot. Then take the concealer and dab it around in the areas where the stretch marks are or any other scar you might want to cover up. Remember though when you buy concealer you have to pick the color a little darker than your skin tone like a natural or nude depends on your complextion. Within a few weeks to a month you should see great results if used daily. The reason I recommend these produts is because I'm almost 30 and still go through the stretch mark phase. Trust me things will soon blend and you will be just fine honey. Let me know how things go after a week or two. Good Luck Don't Worry :)
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Female 15
Hello,
Umm i was wondering does anyone know how i can enhance my breast size with out taking pills or getting implants like certain foods i can eat or something? Or like certain tea i can drink?
Please and thanks. (link)
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Ok look you are just a late bloomer, but understand once they get some excercise (like squeezing your arms together, elbows touching doesn't matter if you use weights or not!) And if that doesn't work try some SOUL FOOD THIS SUMMER!!! And by the time school starts you will have the package you need + some:) Don't forget to drink alot of water and excercise! Good Luck
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This might be long:
14/f
So a couple of weeks ago, this guy that i know and that i used to mess around with took y virginity.
i wasnt really planning on it, but it happend.
and the time before that one that we were going to have sex, he told me that he wasnt the type of guy that sexs girls and stops talking to them.... well thats exacly what he did. we stoped talking ):
i talked to him like 2 days after we had sex, and he told me everything was str8 and that he wants to be friends and what not... and now everytime i text him or call him he doesnt answer.
i know i should just forget it and him and just leave him alone, but i cant. i find myself thinking about him ALL the time and wishing i could just see him.
advice? PLEASE!!!!
thanks! (link)
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Hey girl,
Look I'm going to talk to you like the lady you are, because having sex is an adult thing, and since you have experienced it I hope what I have to say will help! First let me tell you the guy you had sex with was anxious enough before you had sex with him, and now feels as if things went exactly his way!!!!! But that is where the role reversal takes place :) What you need to do is act like it never happened ok, next when you see him act like you don't even know he exists, Next step it up on you dress skills (come with a basic professional look, you do want to appear more mature, and not desperate!!!) Last but not least know one thing honey WOMEN RULE THE SEX DEPARTMENT JUST BECAUSE WE HAVE THE PACKAGE!! MEN WANT. POINT BLANK. And the next time you decide to have sex, whether or not it is with this guy or someone else....... take a minute and think about how you are in control and no one can take that from you!!!!!!!! That guy will wish he didn't act like it was an accomplishment, but an honor to have a clean woman 2 b with. Trust Me things will change once you change for you!!!!!!
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this is totally random but I just wanted to know some good emotional songs or party songs. I don't really like rap that much but I'm fine with Chris Brown and T-Pain. Can you just list songs that you like listening to? I'm just looking for some good songs in general. Rock is also appreciated. (link)
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toni braxton: Libra album
buck cherry: song, I'm Sorry
maroon 5: song, Wake up call
amy winehouse: Back to Black Album
my chemical romance: helena
john legend: heaven only knows
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* be prepared, its kinda long.
ohk, so my best friend, who i have known for about a year and a half, we've been really rocky lately.
let me explain:
she is a VERY clingy person. she will cling to 2-3 people for long periods of time. it annoys the shit outta me, but i live with it. we're friends. ive tried telling her, but whenever i try, she always gets so mad + gets VERY defensive. so wuht should i do about THAT problem?
wait, theres more.
2 weeks ago, she had a movie night, she didnt invite me, + she always does, i didnt do anything to her, i wasnt mad at her or anything, + she invited kids who she barely talked to, which i really didnt undertstand. i texted her asking her, + she was just all pissed off, so i just didnt text her anymore.
we rarely talk anymore, + if we do, its alkward. wuht should i do about THAT problem?
theres more:
++ then, we were on the bus coming back from a basketball game, this girl, asked me, "hows yer boyfriend emily?!, i said really good, and then my friend pipes in, and goes, "EW, HES SO UGLY!" + she said much more stuff about that, and i got REALLY mad. wuht should i do about THAT?
two more things:
im nothing but a friend, and a good person to her, and all she does is treat me like shit, so i told her, that ive never gotten so much disrespect from a person, no one has ever treated me with so much disrespect like she does, and that she should be ashamed of the way she treats me. was that good to say?
+ one more thing:
we are going to philladelphia, for a class trip, and i wanted to room with her, so i asked her, she said yes, and then she got put with me, and got all pissed off, because i guess she had already made arrangements with her other friends, which she didnt because i was the first one that asked her, and she keeps denying it. + she wouldn't talk to me + she got all pissed.
wuht should i do about THAT?
thats it, but from wuht i have observed, if she needs to cling to people, shes really insecure, + has low self esteem.
but, i need some help + peoples opinions.
thanks SO much everyone.
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Hey I gotta be blunt on this topic.......
First of all females are some of the most funny acting people in this world old/young it doesn't matter that are moody. I feel that your friend has lost the title of being a friend (because friends don't act like that period). You seem to be like myself.....a very loving, kind, generous individual who has some very funny acting friends in my life. I would say you need to distant yourself from this girl for a couple of weeks maybe even a month, and let her see how it feels to not have you around. And look at it like this she could be telling her so called other friends you are the clingy one, and you are always around. But trust me after they get to know what you know, they will run for the HILLS!!!!! goodluck
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M'kay well...
I'm 13 and I'm going into High School next year
I'm about 194 lbs
But I don't look it!
To me I like like 150 lbs
But anyway...I wanna be thin.
I want a flat stomach because I'm tired of loosing every guy I like to 'skinny girls'
Not to be mean to thin girls
Hell my best friend is thin
But thats off topic
My Mom wants me to go on diet pills.
But I'm stubborn and say 'no'
I try to eat right
But I just cant help but eat my snack foods
Can you someone please list some way I can get thin by September of 2008?
I don't wanna go into High School fat and have people make fun of me.....
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Hi,
Look to be honest with you I went through the same thing as you are going through about 10yrs ago. First let me tell you diet pills are a complete NO!!!! You have to understand you are a young woman and your body is going through all these weird changes that you have to adjust too.
Clothes don't fit exactly like you want them to, and everyday seems different. Ok but look you can control your size with no problem listen closely...... First remember when we have our periods certain things can bring weight gain, such as red meat, heavy salt, and soda. Now that you know what may cause the fat to stick around you can watch what you consume during that time of the month (before it comes and after). Also walking is an excellent easy way to lose 10-25 pounds if done on an everyday basis. Dancing and singing can also help with weight loss and it can be fun and make remarkable results. I want you to know I understand completely what you are going through. Things will begin to change once you change your outlook on the goals you want to achieve for yourself. Just remember you have to gain control of what you eat and remember if you have a moment where you go overboard with snacks, just know you have alot of water to drink and alot of dancing/walking to do, Keep a balance between what you eat and your physical activities.
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