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my boyfriend used to scratch my back and bite me a LOT during sex, i loved it!...but now, he barely does it. though when he does, it's extra hott, but i've tried telling him he should do it more, but i think in-the-moment, he forgets. plus i'm always on top so it makes it a bit hard to bite my neck. i'm VERY into vampiric sex, and he's into whatever i'm into basically. i just need to know a way to get him to do it more often. we are also out of ideas on new things to try. new positions, new ANYTHING. what all is there to do that makes for hott sex?

If your man used to do those things alot but has slowed down with it, maybe he was concerned that you would be bored with the same old thing. The scratching and biting does make for great sex but it doesn't call for it at all times. Maybe your man realizes that and likes to give you different feelings during each encounter you have.

Maybe by him not doing those same old things, he is actually giving you more. That is definitely makes for hotter sex. You can anticipate what he has in store for you next but since you do like for him to do those things, try this...

While you two are in the moment, whisper to him, really close in his ear, exactly what you want him to do to you. It will excite him and please you. If at any time you want him to touch you in a way and he is just missing all the cues, feel free to gently grab his hands and place them where you want them to be.

Another idea, since you like it wild, dont be on top so much, try standing. If you are flexible, standing can lead into many positions even a sitting or laying position and it's not as restrictive as being on top.

Always having open communications will always lead to great sex also. Hope some of these ideas help you and you find a way to enjoy every experience to the fullest.

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15/f

this so gonna sound really weird but how do girls orgasm? or like how do u know if youve gotten an orgasm? help?

At your age it's normal to be questioning about this thing but I was really thrown off guard.


When a woman orgasms, its a feeling that is felt in side and it kinda feels like a tickling, tingling feeling. It feels a bit uncontrollable and extremely good. It is also very hard to achieve so if you don't have one for along time to come, don't blame the guy, your body isn't ready to register that feeling yet and no one you will be dating will know how to give it to you.

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I don't mean to get graphic... but I've been on the pill for about three months now.. a little more... i've still got two weeks before my next period but I have some symptoms of a pregnant woman. My nipples are extremely sore and sensitive.. it will bother me so much that I can't sometimes wear a shirt to bed without a bra. This doesn't occur this badly before my period anyways. And I'm not so much tired, I'm exausted. I haven't noticed any nausea. Should I wait to take a pregnancy test? Could I be pregnant?

The symptoms you noticed could simply be from the pill. There are hormonal changes that will occur when taking them and you mentioned some of the same things I had noticed in my first couple of weeks on the pill.

Never wait to find out, Please go get tested right away.

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Okay... I've been off the shot for nearly six months. I had sex unprotetcted over last weekend and I'm wondering if its possible that I'm pregnant. I think it is but im not too sure. My sister said it took her nearly a year and a half to get pregnant, as well as my sister in-law. My other sister that was on the shot is having a problems trying to get pregnant. Do you think I am or What? Im confused~!

Well, you could of coarse be pregnant. The best way to tell is to go and get a blood test. Everyone has different reactions to the shot. For me it took about 8 months off the shot to get pregnant which was way shorter than the time it took my sister to get pregnant.

You never want to wait around to find out. Go and see for sure and do it right away.

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I have been with this guy for a really long time but I hate that he thinks the sex is so good because it makes it hard to really tell him what I want. What do you suggest?

Well if you have been together for a long time, I would like to think that he is open to listening to you. It is hard if he thinks it's all good but he only thinks that because he doen't know any better. If you sit him down maybe over his favorite meal, with his favorite drink and bring it up as if you want to make it better, not just fix what he's doing wrong, then I believe he will be more apt to listening and absorbing, rather than being defensive.

Assure him that you like what he does but want to keep things new and fresh. If he is the type that likes to talk about how good he is, he will definitely want to be the best he can be!!

Good luck to you!

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