about

I'm 16 years old. I'm in 11th grade. Most of my friends that I give advice to have done pretty well.. either they took my advice or I made them think about things they haven't thought about b4.
I'm good at answering questions about sex. not that I'm like a fein.. but I like to know about it so I can be safe, and now if you ask for advice you can be safe and informed too.
I'm also good with frienship issues.. or anything in that matter! I'll be straight with you and tell you what you need to do or what you should/shouldn't do if its that type of question. I won't hold back.
I'm also not going to judge you, if you're 13 and having sex.. HEY! that's your business! I'm just gonna make sure you know EVERYTHING ABOUT IT!! or if you cut or something going on with ur family or watever, I'm not gonna make you seem like you have a disease.
I hope you all can trust me and leave me one in my inbox and I'll hit you up with the best advice and information I can.
Love Always,
!~$*AMANDA*$~!

advice

Me and my bf are 16 and when we have sex it doesn't last that long the first time he couldn't get it up he has a very small penis just over 3 inches long he really embarrassed about it i told him it doesn't matter to me but he still worried about it could that be part of the problem?
im not sure what to do i don't want to make him feel bad what can we do are their certain positions we could try that would help?

hi. sorry ive took so long to get your message answered. ok him being worried about his size and embarrassed is most likly 90% of his problem. hes not confident so basically hes sittin there in his mind thinking "get up" (talking to himself downthere) or "i wonder if she likes this because im small?!" or something of that nature. and by him doing that hes not getting an erection. and im not too sure on what you can do on the posistion factor. but ill let you know that only about 4 or 5in (or it might be 3 or 4in) from the openining of your vagina and up has nerves. so say you have a guy that was 7in.. you wouldnt feel it anymore than you would feel a guy thats 4 or 3. you get where im going at? (unless you are not tight down there then i would tell you to do kegal excersises. and if you want to kno more about that ill give you the webiste and you can just leave me a message in my inbox.) and maybe you can do something to get him to have an erection. it is always best to have a little fore play before you have sex. some people are differnt. with my bf we just kiss and make out and we are able to have sex. because he can get an erection fast because hes not worried about himself. nor does he have to be. so id say for you and your boyfriend... if you want him to get an erection do some other stuff that will lead to sex and see how it goes. and just always inform him that his size doesnt matter to you and you love him the way he is.
hope i helped.
please rate.
Manda

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whats a good place to have sex where there are no parents?

ummm if you are friends with someone and youre cool with them and i mean really cool with them... talk to them about it. maybe when you are off of school and they mom and dad are at work you can use their house. thats what i do when i can see my bf.

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during any type of sexual activities, how long is it supposed to take before a guy has an "orgasm"? i think i have a problem, because in less than a minute i already bust. whats wrong?

dude thats normal. when i was reading this book and it had Q's one guy said it takes about 5 min then i bust. and the lady told him thats actually longer than most guys. so ur normal. im not a guy but my bf can control his somehow.
but ur normal nothings wrong.

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Recently my bf and i were mucking around
and i accidentally kneed him in the balls
and he was in pain for a few minutes i felt bad
have i caused any damage it wont harm him from
sex or having kids?

hey.. to unknown,
im sorry i took so long to reply. i havent been able to get to this site for some reason. neways, heres my answer..
i dont think it will harm the guy from sex or having kids. unless u knee him in the balls all the time lol. but chances are nothing will be wrong. i kneed my bf a couple times in his balls. never stopped him from havin sex.. the kid issue.. i dunno about bc he uses condoms.. well he did on me. but yeah. there probally wont affect nothing.
Manda
hope i helped.

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This might sound a lil weird.. but im 15 and i was wondering when is the best age to start having sex?

everyone is saying when u get married! i think the best age is when u are in love and u want to remember that person forever and u kno that they love you and want to be with you and when u kno everything u need to kno about sex!
If u need to talk leave one in the inbox or IM me at aim> softnsexy489
MSN> softnsexy428@hotmail.com

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For everyone I wanna know how old were you when you lost your virginity, how did it go, was it to someone special or do you regret it, where were you when it happened... and so on. Thanks

i was 15 when i lost mine. it was to my current bf that ive been with for 9 months now going on 10. it was very special. (AND PAINFUL MAY I ADD!) maybe not the place but i got 22 mosquito bites from it. lol. it was on a roof in a park. at nighttime so no one saw us. and im known to be a girl that would think thats SOOOOOO NASTY. im very conservitive. but see we didnt have no where to really do it and the threat of us breakin up bc of my mom and family bc hes black and im white, made me want to loose it to him bc i love him. i would do anything for him i would die for him. and with my mom and stuff it made me love him more. and i wanted to loose it to him bc he was my 1st love and he meant so much to me. he was my 1st real bf, my 1st boy to hold hands with, the 1st boy i allowed to get close to me, my 1st kiss my 1st everything. i love him soooo much and ill never regrt it. i now have my one true wish. which was to always remember him. and now i can. u got me crying lol.
Manda

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i had sex with a guy a few times and now im looser down there. is there any way to get things back to how it used to be before i did anything with him ?

umm theres exercises called kegel exercises.
for more info on that go to www.talksexwithsue.com
when u get to the site enter it and all that. at the top ull see 'sexual information' click that.
then ull get a long list of things. they go in alphabetical order so go down to the K section and look for 'kegel exercises (better control of genital muscles)' and click that, then read what to do.
hope i helped. rate me. and if u got lost tryin to find it IM me on MSN or AIM or leave one in my inbox and ill help u out.
Manda


DANG THESE PEOPLE SAYIN NO WERENT NO HELP!! THEY HAVE ALOT TO LEARN,

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Does sex always hurt the first time? My friends say it does... but are there any ways for it to not hurt at all?

everyone is different. some of my firends said it didnt hurt. all depends. like have u even been fingered b4 stuff like that. with me it hurt like a bitch even though i was fingered once. i was "tight" and it hurt so bad. but i kinda took the pain bc once the pain is over its heaven from there!!!!
amanda.
ps. also depends sorta on ur man's size.... or so ive heard.

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Okay, I'm gonna obviously make my own decision about this, but I'm curious as to what y'all think. I'm 16/f, if you wanna know.
My boyfriend and I have been...experimenting lately. In the beginning of the relationship, we'd both said that we weren't into oral, but all of a sudden he wants to...y'know, give it a try. I mean, he wants to try it on me. I originally refused because I thought it would kind of obligate me to give it to him, but he said that wasn't the case. (I'm really, honestly not into it, and I always feel like he does more for me than I do for him.)
Also, the thought of kissing him afterwards kind of...bothers me...
Should I let him or not? I mean, it's kind of an...interesting...idea, but nngh - I dunno. What d'you think?

well like u siad its totally up to you. i thought the same way b4 it happeend to me. i thought it was sooo nasty!! and the kissing thing too! but! we (me and my bf) would talk about it and id be like "its ur mouth, if u wanna do it go head. but dont think ur gonna get any from me" and he still hasnt. and hes cool with that. i mean he wishes i would do that for him but i think its totally gross. but he can do it when ever he wants on me lol its feels so good!
and u can also tell ur bf that after he does that to you to go wash out his mouth. i tell my bf that too. well he does it anyway. but some of my friends say it shouldnt matter bc its u and u kno ur clean. but hey watever u wanna do lol.
i still rather him wash his mouth out personally.

Manda

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hey. how long does the pleasure last when ur having sex? i hope it lasts longer then masterbating cuz the pleasure only lasts lyk 15 seconds when i masturbate. i rate high!

its kinda the same. only some guys reach thier O way b4 girls. its like we take about 5-7min to reach ours. when they can cum within 3-4min! when im having sex and i reach that point it comes and its there for a bit like i cant move then its over. but it sure is nice! :)
and it also depends on how "horny" u are and the person u are too.
Manda

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hi im a 13/m and i dont masturbate by like just putting my hand around "it" and pushing or w/e i just take a pillow or w/e and sorta push on that (sorry if thats 2 graffic). is that abnormal or not?

its normal. guys tend to have different ways of pleasuring themselfs. hey do what pleasures u!!!
Amanda

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im 16 and my penis is not that big and im worried
what my girlfriend will think should it matter?
does it matter to girls?

well ima be honest with you... it does matter to some. im not quite sure what to say bc i dont have this problem bc ima girl and bc my bf is sized pretty well... but its not a matter of how small it is.. ITS HOW U WORK IT!!!!! ;)
and if ur gf really loves u then it also shouldnt matter. u can still satisfy her even though its small. trust me.
Manda

ps. my bf and his friends say that they used to be small but then he started to masterbate and it grew... i dunno if thats true but u can try it.

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My bf and i are thinking about having sex were 17
and my worry is his penis is quite big and im a bit worried it will hurt a lot does it hurt?
And can his penis be too big?

ok thats what i was afraid of too that it was gonna be too big. see my 1st time it hurt... ALOT. not to make u scared but when everyone told me "yeah it hurt really bad" i was like "it cant hurt that bad" but i was wrong. and i dunno if his penis can be too big. some have told me that thats true.. but when i did it, i was a complete virgin, never been fingered or anyting. it wasnt even pleasureable all like that the 1st time.. it was more pain than anything. but once the 1st tiem is over it wont hurt so much... just make sure ur "wet" like some call it or use extra lube if u want. so it slides in better. and it might be ezier for u to be on top so u can make urself go down on it at ur pase instead of him thrusting it in you... or if u want him on top let him kno u wanna go slow. but i think ull be fine. it will hurt if u are a virgin or if its been a long time since u had sex. but im pretty sure ull be ok. jus be safe and use a condom and have him check it b4 and after ur done so u kno it didnt break. and just take ur time. if u need anything else answered u can ask.
hope that helped.
manda

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When after having sex and if the sperm ejaculated in, what kind of pills are good to take to avoid prenancy from happening?

its called Plan B or "the day after pill" and when i got it they said u can take it within 3-5 days after unprotected sex. go to ur local health facility and ask for it. its confidential and no one has to kno about it. it might make ur period come later or earlier.. or might not effect it at all. i hope u get this in time.

If u need anything else be sure to leave one in the inbox.

Manda

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i want to sleep with this guy, im a vrigin and im lil nerveous but i know im ready should i?
i rate good

well in my opinion i think ur ready when u know ALLL about sex. like about condoms and checking them when ur done and birthcontrol and plan b. plan b is 2 pills u take within 3-5 days of unprotected sex or if u kno the condom broke. u jus go to ur local health care place and ask for it. its confidential and no one but u have to know. and i think everyone is nervous about thier 1st tiem.. i was. but ur ready when u are with a guy who u want to take ur V and always remember them. bc u always will. trust me. and you can trust this guy so that he wont tell people about ur business unless u want him too.
Hope i helped. feel free to talk to me!.
Manda

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Okay,my friends bf told my friend that he made a "uh oh".And he went to his ex-girlfriends house last night and they had sex and like he said that he made her pregnant.And my friend is really pissed cuz he cheated on her and she is also not really believeign that he made her preg. Cuz like how long does it take to know if you got someone pregnant?Well thx for the advice.BYE

it takes longer to find out if ur pregnant... but it does only take ONE time to inpregnate someone. what the girl could do is go to her local health place and she can get Plan B... its 2 pills u take within 3-5 days of unprotected sex and it stops ur chances of getting pregnant. its confidential and no one but her has to kno about it...
hopefully this girl gets PLAN B. id highly recommend it.
Hope i helped
Manda

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