I look like my mother in this picture...is that a good thing?! Lol.
I often feel like I have been through far too much for my age. I've battled depression (several times), emotionally abusive relationships, men walking all over me, an eating disorder and a suicide attempt and I still pulled through. And if I can then you can too.
I'm a great listener, so feel free to ask me anything, I WILL reply to you. Be warned though, my advice is very blunt and I'll say exactly what I think! But then 9 times out of 10 people need to hear the truth rather than be wrapped in cotton wool!
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okay, well my friend got fingered for the first time the other day and now she's been worrying about it. she think's that she is pregnant but i'm telling her that she can't be because it's totally impossible because she didn't have sex or anything. and she hasn't gotten her period and she's 2weeks late. i told her that i think it's because she doesn't have a regular period, because she hasn't had it for over 2years and normally that's when it starts getting regular. her boyfriend only fingered her, she didn't do anything to him so i'm really not sure what to tell her except that she isn't pregnant. what do you guys think?
PS. when she got fingered after she bled alittle, and i told her that maybe he scratched her or something because you never know. (link)
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Although all the advice given so far is very fair, I'd just like to add here that your friend clearly knows nothing about sex. This certainly isn't meant in a nasty way - it's just that she should not be fooling around with her boyfriend if she doesn't know what the risks involved are. I took the liberty of researching a couple of websites where she can find out more about sex and contraception.
http://teenadvice.about.com/
http://www.sxetc.org/
http://www.sexualityandu.ca/eng/
If she's not clued up then at some point she DOES run the risk of getting pregnant, and I think she's lucky to have a concerned, wiser friend like you!
Hope I helped!
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14/f. My boyfriend just turned 17. I am a virgin, he isn't. He's had sex with 2 people. We have been together for probably about 4 months. He respects me and I know he loves me and always wants to spend time with me. I know that he wants to have sex but tries his best to repect what I want. I sort of want to have sex, I know he loves me and cares about me. But there is another guy who I talked to before I knew him and he was in love with me. For some reason I stopped talking to him. And I'm just confused about what I want. Please give me advice, and when you have sex, do you immediately start to bleed your first time? and how much? I will rate. (link)
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Being best friends with Vikki normally makes me immediately inclined to disagree with her, lol! But she's absolutely right, it's really not a good idea to be having sex at 14. Apart from your age, you don't seem like you're sure that you even want to have sex with him! At the moment you say you "sort of" want to have sex, which to me suggestes you're not ready for it if you're not 100% sure. Remember that you can NEVER take back your first time. Sounds like you have a very understanding boyfriend, and by all means have sex with him further down the line - but only when you're absolutely sure that it's what you want. And you're more than welcome to ignore my advice and do it anyway, but I definitely would suggest that you sort out how you feel about this other guy whatever you decide to do with your boyfriend, as it's clearly messing with your head, which is never good! Hope I helped! :)
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I'm 17, thinking about going on the pill, I understand you need a doctors prescription to do this so I'm wondering what happens...
I've done research into side-effects and effectiveness so I'm clued up on it but will they make me have a pelvic exam or visit the gyn? I'm not really sure how it works, I live in the UK and know it works abit differently to the USA, could anyone help me out on what kind of things I'll be asked by my GP and what I should expect?
Thanks for your time! =) (link)
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I went on the Pill when I was 17 and they basically just take your weight and height, blood pressure etc etc. I'm not aware at all of having to have pelvic exams, I'm sure that I don't know anyone else who did either. Your doctor will give you probably only a month's prescription and then get you to go back after that for a check-up. It's natural to gain a few pounds when you go on the pill, but I gained 9lbs in about 3 weeks - so obviously this is somethign to look out for, and the doctor will most likely change you if this does happen. Other than that you shouldn't have many side-effects. Don't forget that the Pill isn't always 100% effective, and doesn't prevent STIs so always use condoms too just to be on the safe side. :)
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okay i am 13 years old...adn there is this guy that i really like and he likes me. the only thing is that hes 2 years older then me...to me it doesnt seem bad or anything but to everyone else it does. everyone keeps telling my that he does drugs and stuff but whne i ask him he says no. and people are telling my that he only wants to go out with me to make out and have oral sex. when i asked him about this hes like i would never make u do anything that you didn't want to. and i said good b.c i would never give you oral sex. and he said fine...
should i go out with him???
please help...thanxx (link)
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As long as you're going to stick to your resolve NOT to give him oral sex you should be okay. You seem like a pretty smart girl and you have to promise yourself to walk away if he DOES start to pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable with. Sometimes rumours are just rumours, but if people like his close friends warn you that he is doing drugs then they might be worth listening to.
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