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ive been haveing sex with my boy for about 6 months and i dont think ive ever orgasmed..what could be wrong with me? we have tried different things but it hasnt worked...any suggestions? thanks (link)
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This is perfectly normal. Most girls in fact don't have an orgasm by sexual intercourse, although many girls do. There are a lot of factors that go into whether or not you will have an orgasm, it's more than just 'getting the job done', as they say.
First off, you have to be 100% relaxed and comfortable. Comfortable with yourself, with your partner and with what you are doing.
Don't concentrate solely on having the Big O, but rather concentrate on how things feel and how you feel when you're with each other.
Use foreplay, touching, caressing, kissing. Oral sex is often the best way for a woman to have an orgasm with her partner, and is a great way to 'get the party started'. But again, be comfortable and don't stress on having an orgasm. Take your time.
Try new things, and don't be afraid. Talk to each other, and together you'll figure out what you both like and the more you do this the better you'll feel, and in turn, the closer you'll get to that Big O.
Good luck & Have Fun~
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My boyfriend of 11 months and I sometimes will makeout and stuff with just his boxers on and just my underwear.. I was wondering are there any risks of anything happen when we do this? (link)
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In the heat of the moment, those underwear and boxers could more than likely come off. This is perfectly okay if you are both okay with it, if you have the right means of protection (for you both). If not, and you have unprotected sex, there will probably be consequences to your actions: pregnancy, STD's, not to mention sec is a milestone in a relationship and does change things a fair amount.
Also, you don't have to jump into having intercourse. There are plenty of other things you two can do, such as mutual masturbation, foreplay, oral/genital sex (with protection, your choice).
Just keep all of this in mind for just in case those underwear come off. Remember to have "the sex talk", because otherwise your decisions could change the rest of your life.
If you can't talk about it, you shouldn't be doing it, I say.
Good luck~
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You know that little piece of skin between you anus anus and your vagina? Well it burns when I urinate and it started bleeding. What should I do?!
*Scared* (link)
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Call your doctor and make an appointment to have him check it out. It could just be irritation from your laundry detergent on your underwear that is irritating your skin, or it could be a skin infection. The doctor would be able to prescribe something for you to ease the burning and stop the bleeding.
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Okay, I recently had sex and the next day I forgot to take my birth control. (We didn't use a condom and i've been using it for about 4 months) the day after that I forgot and for about the next week after that I didnt take it. Is there a good chance that I could be pregnet??
-Scared :( (link)
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Alright, hun. I don't want to scare you with this reply, but I do want to help make you aware of a few things. Though I doubt that you are pregnant, there still is a chance that you might be. It only takes one time to get pregnant, and even the Pill isn't 100% effective. A good friend of mine took her pills religiously, every day at the same time and never missed one. Right now she is in labor with her first baby. What I'm trying to say is that there is always a possibility, which is why even when taking the pill it isn't a bad idea to have your partner use a condom (if you aren't allergic to them) and this lessens the chances of pregnancy even more.
If you are really scared, and your period is questionably late, it would be a good idea to go and get a pregnancy test. You can buy them at your local drugstore/pharmacy, and take them the next morning the first time you pee.
Best of luck!! ~>
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Hello guys, long time reader but first time writer here. I really need some advice.
I've had this best friend for about ten years now (ever since the second grade) and he knows all my secrets. He has been the friend I've been able to go to for all my problems for over half my life. He's always been a great guy, but lately he seems a little different.
He came up to me the other day and told me that he needed to talk to me after school, and of course I told him it was no big deal. Well, when I got to his house after school he called me back to his room. When I got back there he was completely naked and said that if I didn't suck him off then he would tell everyone about my issuses with my sexuality that I had confided in him. I didn't have any other choice, I can't let everyone now that I have impure thoughts about other men since I'm in a private Christian school, but I'm not attracted to him at all. He's really overweight and he has hair everywhere.
Now he's saying that I have to give him head everyday or he will tell everone about my secret desires, even my parents. I don't know what to do, he tastes horrible. I can't keep doing this. (link)
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It is perfectly okay for you to have these thoughts about other men, this is your sexuality and it does not make you a bad person at all. But your "friend" using your secrets and sexuality against you as blackmail is immoral and wrong, it is definetly not okay for him to do this to you.
You should not be doing this to yourself, forcing yourself to go down on him just so that your secrets will be kept. He is not a real friend for making you do this, and chances are he will tell someone if he hasn't already. No matter what, he will eventually say something to someone whether you are giving him head or not.
What you do with your own time outside of school is entirely your business, and since you are still discovering yourself sexually, this is a very harmful act upon yourself mentally. It will drag you down, and in the future you probably wont have great impressions on sex and you may even withdraw from school, friends and family.
Tell this guy that he can't use your sexuality as blackmail, he can't use you for his own pleasures and if it comes down to it, tell him that if he doesn't stop blackmailing you that YOU will tell everyone that he's been asking you for sex and using you to cover his own sexuality. Because, if he wants oral sex from you then he is also gay. No ifs, ands or buts about it. When a man wants oral sex from another man, whether he admits it or not, he is gay.
I hope this was helpful for you, and I really hope this guy leaves you alone. But you have to do something to stop this, because he has no right to treat you this way.
Best of luck~>
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I'm and 18 year old female,not a newbie to having sex, about 3 diff partners including my current boyfriend... thing is, whenever I have sex, no matter who it is or what position (guy or girl-I'm bi) I just get nothing from it. Not even the beginnings of an orgasm. I do okay on my own, I'm satisfied anyway, but when it comes to sex I have to fake it since I just can't get there. It feels good, and I enjoy the act just no climax ya?
Anything I can do about this? (link)
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Don't stress too much on having an orgasm, because this alone can cause you to not have one. Just go with the flow, and just enjoy yourself and get in the moment of it. It will happen eventually, but don't push yourself.
Try to relax, and don't switch positions too often during the act especially if it feels good the way you're doing it.
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