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I am currently in my first "serious" relationship with this guy. My previous ones were just what I call meaningless flings where there was only a physical attraction. This guy is different though. I really love him, which I never though I'd say about anyone. We talked for a while before we started dating, and realized that we had a lot in common. When we talk to each other, I am beginning to notice possibly bipolar tendencies. He can be very depressed and suicidal at times. I've dealt with depression and suicidal thoughts for a long time, so I do not want to leave him at this time, yet it makes me feel shittier than usual.... Know that some aspects of this situation have been deleted due to the context rules of Advicenators.
Any advice?
lol, were in the same boat sweetie. my bf is amanic depressent, cant get medicine because of his parents, and is now become a polological liar because of it! But the fact is that you need to learn that its not you. Your not making him sad, its just the way he is. Plus, what really keeps me here is that i know my bf needs me, just as i bet yours will need you, you will help him be happier then if he was alone, hell have his bad days, but the fact is, theyd be worst if you werent there. the only bad thing about a boyfriend like this is the hole break up thing, it might drive them to do something exstremly horrible as to suicide. so youve got to weigh it out, try and help him, keep him happy, be with him, have a great relationship, or leaeve him before things are to deep, i dont suggest the last one, especially if you have feelings for him, since he could just be the one. And if you noticed this problem with him, it would be very easy later on to suggest medication for him, hed listen to you.
Welp this one girl angie was going out with a kid jon. While they were going out i sort of did things with jon =/ They broke up though and i lost my virginity to him. I asked him if he would ever consider going out with me becuase i dont want to be used. He said he would consider it but in his away messages and things it says how sorry he is to angie and how he wishes he could go back. i dont know if hes faking it? But i dont know what to do..somebody please help!
he used you. and im sorry to say it but he most definatly did. no offence but reality is you let him use you. he was still with your friend so he couldnt have liked you that much. i let something like that happen to myself and dont let him come to you and say its just cuz he doesnt want to hurt her because the fact is if he liked you hed go out with you. you lost your virginity so hes gonna mean more to you then he would to you. its a chemical thing in a girls body thatll make you like him more =).. but hoestly dont let him come back to you and give a bullshit reason like he doesnt want to hurt her or anything, because first hand, hes lieing and your friend will only get hurt and so will you. my advice is to find someone that you love and loves you back and respects you enough to know sex with you isnt special
hi i heard of cybering and i wanted to know where i can find ppl online to cyber with. websites? idk
hahahah. chat rooms.
im a 13/m
and i have a lot of pubic hair. is it normal to shave it?
guys have pubic hair. its not to usall to find a guy that shaves it on a normal basis, most guys trim, as so its not to bad, doesnt stick out of underwear. its your liking, but if your going to shave it all, you might learn the hard way why its hard for girls to shave 24/7 so i think you should wait n the shaving part and just take a pair of sisors and hide them after you use them so no one else has to use them =)
this isnt really sex but i didnt know what to put it under. anyways i trimed down there and shaved near where the blood comes out (i forget what its called) and now where i shaved has little red bumps. is this bad and how do i get rid of them?
welcome to the worst part of being a women.. razor burn.. it hurts. basically if you shave and shave within a two day period your gonna hurt yourself. something about the hair down there, lots of lotion, and not shaving everyday is what makes it go away. i usally shave fully every 2-3 days if you need to that much.. but honestly dont shave unless you really need to like boys.. being naked?.. bathing suits ya know. but lots of lotion, baby oil even after lotion. and taking breaks from shaving helps!
All my friends seem depressed expecially my one friend who talks about "Killing her parents with no remorse" on her xanga. Im really worried for her. Thing is, she says she would do it but I know she wouldnt. She talks more about suicide and how terrible her life is. Her life really isnt bad, her parents just have really strict limits which I know can drive a teen crazy. She doesnt seem to know that there millions of kids out there with way worse situations than her who make it through everyday. She keeps repeating it alot probably for attention (Maybe shes asking for help, I dont know) Im just really not sure what to do anymore...
well depending on the age of you guys and her personality. i had many of friends explaining how bad thier lives were and parents were horible when in fact its the kids that dont say anything that have it worst. strick rules are things a kids talks about but having parents that beat you or mentally abuse you, you neer hear about if there doing it, so if a kid so saying it often, usally and most likly it aint that bad. i had a friend whos my sister now, shed move in wit me if she could get away from her parents, its a nitemare i know for a fact, but i didnt find this out till about ayear into everything... you dont cry wolf if therse a problem, worlds f*ed up like that. plus the age. theres a age where everyone in sa certain grade all of a sudden belives that thier parents are the worst. and it tends to be a spreading disese or sumthing for some time.. it stops eventually as you grow up
I was just wondering what kind of things women did with their pubic hair. For example, I don't want to wax or shave mine, I know there are creams you can use, but I don't really want to get rid of it all. Do people trim theirs? Do they use scissors? How short do you do it? I know everyone is different, but I would like some kind of idea anyway.
There isn't really anyone I can ask this without sounding stupid and I don't really want to google it, I can imagine the websites it will bring up!
Thanks for any help people can give me.
i know yu dont want to shave but in all honesty if you put a little soap on it, just a little so it feels like it, not faomy, and lightly take a razor to it, very liguhtly, it makes it thiner almost, dont gotta go near the skin at all, i like how it almost just thins it, that and you could use sissors, but its what you feel comforrtale, specially if a guys gonna be down there, women tend to feel better if the hairs really short if hes down there, but i suggest the light razor, less you cant use razors or sumthin..
how do yyou know your ready for sex? im a virgin..and when im with this guy and we do stuff i really want to do it..but ik its cuz im horny or w/e...
ask yourself one thing. if he breaks up with you anytime, are you gonna regret it? sex doesnt have to always be about romantic love, it could simply be that you know this man is your best fing friend and hell never fu** you over. its what your saving yourself for, if your saving yourself for love then you have to know that hell never leave you and you KNOW that for a fact, but love youll find yourself, if its not that kinda thing to you, make sure the guy is a best friend, not just a boyfriend. and as long as you want to do it because you like him, and you wanna do it when your not in the moment, it usally means your not just horny
i knew i was ready because my bf even tells me that if he says he wants to break up, ignore him. if he hangs up on me, he calls me back within 15 mints. i can really count hah =), he needs me, and i kinda do need him to be happy. i know no matter what hes not leaving me. he loves my body, and was the first guy to really make me love my body too, he loves the imperfections and i know he does, and it takes alot to say you KNOW he does. if you say no to sex for awhile, hell be okay with it., and usally time helps, but i know i knew i loved my bf the day i went out with him, but i waited a year with him, not to sound stupid or anything...
im 16 and i have a small penis and im a worried
what my girlfriend will think does it matter to girls that much?
no it shouldnt matter that much to a girl...
Okay, I'm gonna obviously make my own decision about this, but I'm curious as to what y'all think. I'm 16/f, if you wanna know.
My boyfriend and I have been...experimenting lately. In the beginning of the relationship, we'd both said that we weren't into oral, but all of a sudden he wants to...y'know, give it a try. I mean, he wants to try it on me. I originally refused because I thought it would kind of obligate me to give it to him, but he said that wasn't the case. (I'm really, honestly not into it, and I always feel like he does more for me than I do for him.)
Also, the thought of kissing him afterwards kind of...bothers me...
Should I let him or not? I mean, it's kind of an...interesting...idea, but nngh - I dunno. What d'you think?
do you have any idea why the whole thing turns you off anyway? it feel pretty good, withor its the guys first or 10th, its not the hardest thing to do lol but its your own heart, if your worried he does more for you then you do for him, thats not the case, if a guy is really into you he shouldnt really care all that much, plus ive heard guys get some good pleasure out of our faces we make while there doing it =p and dont worry about the kissing thing, a guy should definatly understand after something like that, dont feel weird if you dont wanna kiss him, my bf gets up and washes his mouth if he wants to kiss me afterwards lol
Ever since I was LiL I would masterbate. Im not addicted to it I just do It once in a while but I remember doing it when I was 5!!(of course I didnt know what I was doing at 5 but all I knew was that it felt good and that I was going to do it) I was caught a lot when I was little and I remember one time my mom asked me if it felt good and she was really dissapointed in me. And I hated myself for it because every 5 year old wants their parents to be proud of them. But now I know what I'm doing and I havent been caught in like 5 years(im 14) Is there something wrong with me? Is it not normal to start sooo early?
yeah its normal, im thinking that your a girl and girls always mature faster then boys, i must admitt i used to do it at a very early age but its normal, especially since your 14 now youve got stronger hormones, everyone does it, girls and guys, old or young, its a part of growing up
iv had sex but it hurt at the begging then it felt good...is it posible for me to rip a little?if so what do i do?
of course its possible, actully most likely, you dont have to do anything, youll just get used to the feeling, your first time is usally how everyones goes
when is the best time to have sex without having to worry about getting pregnet?
how old are you!?!?!?! before you get your period so when your like 5 years old, but other then that? never theres awlays a chance, go get birthcontroll
do most girls shave on the pussy lol?
its your chooise, i couldnt stand it if i didnt, at least trim though, guys are usally what will make you do it the first time when they ask why you dont =p since most like it when you do
sexiiKt -i just asked the sex q..what are red wings?
i dont get why guys would even wanna have sex with us when we have our period, let alone why a girl would want to, most of us usally feel like crap when we have it lol
what is an emo?
one of the few animals that can not fly. dont even ask about the other meaning.
my boyfriend wants to have sex but I don't know if I'm ready what should I do?
tell him that, if he cant appreciate that, then hes not the one for you, theres not reason a guy cant wait a lil longer
I've been having these dreams that are really weird and I don't understand them. First, last night I dreamt that I was being very intimate with this guy. It wasn't anyone that I know, but this is kinda weird but I dreamt that I was kinda having sex. I've dreamt it before and I just don't understand. Maybe you could help me out? Please..these are really bothering me and I've been having them more often now. Also I dreamt that I was going to marry this one guy that I know and he lives far far away from me. But the thing is I barely know him! So I'm confused. I don't exactly want an answer about that dream just the ones where I'm being very intimate. Thanks for your help!, If you need anymore info, IM me at AnnaxBanana45 or email me AnnaBanana146@aol.com *Love Me*
lol ive had a few of them myself, does anyone really know why we have dreams, some people guess. have you ever had sex before? maybe its your bodys way of telling you it wants to ! lol they guy that you marry, is he hot? maybe youve never thought about him that way but your self conciouse might.
im 12 yrs old i dont know anyone who has had sex (well people my age and a couple yars older) but when i read some of these problems on advicenators most of the people are like 13 or 14 and say that they have sex a lot its kind of creepy my sisters 14 but she hasnt had sex im wondering if these people are either lying about their age or more mature than me. i feel like when im 13 or 14 that il be soo pressured into sex and stuff. i hear these unbelievable stories of guys and girls having sex since they were 12. its so perverted and i mean is it weird im not ready or as into it as other people are?
Just take your time, dont do anything you dont want to, i was pressured into it the first time, and it sucked, just wait till your ready, not when your friends are or stragners your age
i went to a party at the end of skool in the middle of june. i got drunk n was unconsious. i've been throwing up and noticed a little bulge below my belly button. could some guy have fucked me while i was unconsious?HELP PLZ!
If it was in June, then you should have had your period by now... if you havent, you need to tell your parents, unless your usally late or something. if you havent even gotten your period yet.. you dont need to worry about being pregnant, you should have a bump after a month of being pregnant though