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so i met this kid about two months ago at a concert. weve gone out like 5 or 6 times. things are moving pretty fast and im fine with that. things just get really hot when we're together. were hanging out tomorrow, and were going to spend most of the time in my car. i know we're going to hook up, so far weve been to third base and he really wants to go all the way. im a virgin and i dont exactly know if i want to just yet. i do want to, but then i think about it and talk myself out of it. should i go for it?
16/f if it matters (link)
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If you "don't know just yet" then DON'T DO IT!!!
If you weren't a virgin I wouldn't even be answering this question because after I lost my virginity and got majorly hurt by the guy I gave it to, sex was more casual for me.
Do not do anything until you are completely sure and when you are that guys' girlfriend. From the looks of it you are just casually dating and I can say with 97% certainty that if you give it up to this guy that fast then you will never hear from him again. Believe me, I've been there! Do not do it until you are exclusively dating for a while and when you don't have any question in your mind about doing it!
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Ok.. so normally i get really wet but last night me and my boyfriend were having sex and it hurt and i had A LOT of i guess u could call it discharge it was wark i couldnt tell you if it was clear it was dark but pretty sure it was clear but it felt like a gush kind of like when you get your period i used a paper towel to like wipe and it soaked the paper towel.. what could be wrong with me i never had that happen before. (link)
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I don't know about the hurting thing...he may have just been too rough. But with the gushing, there is a possibility that you could've "squirted". My sister-in-law does that sometimes and she tells me it feels like she peed or just got her period. It's the same stuff that comes out normally...it just kinda squirts out. Next time it happens, however, make sure you inspect it to make sure that it is clear...if it is any other color you should go to the doctor and get it checked out.
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Okay,
well ive given a handjob before,
but like theres this guy im with,
and i just really want to do it...good. lol
um well guys,
can yew explain to me how yew like it.
And girls can yew give me some tips.
Thankss! (link)
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I personally hate giving hand jobs (mostly cuz my wrist and arm start to hurt after a while). Anyway, I would say that your best bet to get him to like it the best is for him to demonstrate how he hold his penis while he masturbates. All men masturbate differently and if you do the same technique he does he will like it A LOT more because he's used to it. :D
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Ok well there's this guy, named ummm B. Yeah, it was a wednesday that I met him. Sometimes I instantly like people. Sometimes I instantly dislike them. Besides that though he was one of the ones I liked. Well we started dating later that night or whatever. See he doesn't live in the city I do. It's kinda the next one over but it's kinda close. Well Friday I asked him to come to my school's football game. I'm 15 and he's 17. So he graduated already. & he showed up and everything was good. Later Friday night though he tells me that we rush into a relationship. Which I understand. & That he'll need time getting to know me. Well the only thing he's asking is for me to send him "pictures". Only because he wants to see if he trusts me or I trust him. Some bullshit.
Am I being used though? (link)
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Yes you are definately being used. Do not send "pictures" of yourself to anybody unless you are wanting to pose for playboy or you are doing it as a gift to someone you are engaged to be married to.
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So I have a friend with benefits who has a girlfriend.(She suddenly decided to deny him physical contact of any kind) I know that's against some people's morals on here, but that's what it is. Anyway, my roommates know that there is chemistry between the two of us and that we both want one another, but they do not approve of him hooking up with me while he's in a relationship. Basically they're being really strict about him coming over. We all have our own rooms and share a common living room, but when he comes over they won't let the two of us go into my room alone. Is there any way to compromise with them? I'm getting really frustrated. (link)
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I would say that you need to go to his place if your roommates are being really pushy about their beliefs. I too have done the same thing you have...just make sure you do not become emotionally attached to this guy because he is very much so emotionally unavailable. If you are fooling around with him in an attempt to one day have a relationship with him...it won't happen. He is just a jerk of a guy who's really horny but loves his girlfriend too much to leave her for you (the person who sexually pleases him). If you are in it just for the sex....then by all means go ahead and have fun girl! I've done it...it's no biggie without emotions!
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okay how can i prepare myself for this? ive been dating him for a month and im ready. im 19 years old. ive been fingered/everything else besides sex. how much more painful is it going to be? i remember my last boyfriend when he would finger me i think he may have used 3 fingers because it hurt for the first time. is this how sex will feel? i dont mean to sound like a 12 year old who doesnt know anything but im nervous. helpppp!!! and also.. do you have any tips to make it seem like im really not inexperienced? and what position will be best for this? any other advice would reaaally be appreciated! (link)
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I know this isn't what you want to hear because I'm sure you've heard it a million times...but make sure that you are emotionally ready before you have sex. I was 17 when I lost my virginity (now 19 and married...not to the same man) and I do not regret it (surprisingly) but it wasn't very good and it wasn't special at all. Just because you are 19 doesn't mean you have to hurry up and have sex...there is nothing wrong with waiting until you are emotionally ready to have sex.
Anyway, I do not really know how to make it less painful. My first time wasn't painful at all. Earlier that day my boyfriend at the time and I were fooling around and he actually "popped my cherry" with his fingers. I have come to know that when you are actually really aroused and very much into having sex with a person you get really wet and it doesn't hurt. My first time I was on top and I didn't feel anything and it really sucked...and I have come to find out that when I am on top now I still can't feel anything and it really sucks...so obviously that position isn't right for me...but thats the least painful posistion I have ever done. My favorite and most pleasing posistion would have to be "doggy-style"...but if you do do that one make sure that you do not have any excess air up in your vagina otherwise it will hurt and will hurt very badly...but thats not from the sex...its from the air being pushed up there.
Thats about as far as my advice goes with the pain factor....if you are in foreplay and are worrying about how bad it will hurt...you won't get very wet and it will hurt. I suggest waiting until you are very comfortable with who you are with and so you won't worry about it hurting and then you'll be very moist and then it won't hurt.
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