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Q: i'm 18 and still a virgin. i'm definetly not ashamed of it, actually i'm kinda proud. its not like i'm ugly, actually alot of people are surprised or don't believe me that i'm still a virgin i just refuse to give my virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it and i haven't met anyone worth giving it to yet (i know i'm old fashioned but whatever). i've had a few boyfriends and definetly many opportunities but i just didn't want to. but i feel like everyone my age and even a little younger has had sex. when i hang out with certain friends thats all they talk about. i mean somethings i can contribute because i've done everything else except actual intercourse. but i just feel like i'm alone. is there anyone out there my age virgins?

Yes, not me but i have a friend. she's 18 years old as well and she's just like you she wants to give it to someone who she really loves and cares about and someone she knows won't take advantage of her. i'm going to be 17 i'm not a virgin but i only had sex with one person and still am, since i was 15 years and 3 days old... LOL. but you know you're above everyone who has gave it up when they weren't ready and you know maybe one day i will regret it but i made the decision that i was ready that was with my current boyfriend and i hope i will never regret i hope he will be my first and my last but only time will tell, we waited a year before we actually did it and the time that i did it was the time that i was ready and trust me when your time comes you will know, just promise me that you will fall in love before you do it and i mean IN LOVE!!! like head over heals, give my all, unconditional Love.
Good Luck
- LiseJose

Q: Dear LiseJose, i noticed you do alot of sex questions so i have to ask you for my help, i have started having sex last week but now i am scared to, i use protection thanks to you, i read your answers to people and i take your advice. you are the only person i trust and i want to know why i'm scared, i think i'm afraid of getting pregnant or maybe i'm worried it will hurt, it didn't the first time, i just don't know? i'm scared and confused can you help me please! i'm desperate.

well zalalia, maybe your scared because you read the things i say to people, but listen just because i say them it doesnt mean it could be directed to you, yes you could get pregnant but your using protection so its okay dont worry too much, if it didn't hurt before then it sshouldnt hurt again, so stop being scared, just dont have sex again unless you know your ready okay.

thank you for asking me personally by the way.

-LiseJose

Q: ok here's the thing im a 20 y.o female, ive been in some relationships but never had sex, that was basically my rule like anything but sex.. not because of religion issues, but more like as in i have the biggest fear of getting pregnant, im still a university student , couldn't deal with a baby right now ... im in a relationship right now with someone i care and love very very much, and i know i want to have sex with him, and i know id have birth control and condoms, but still i have this huge fear , but i really really want to do never been more sure about this. like is it really probably to get pregnant that way? or what is ur recomendation for this ?

don't worry about it if you have condoms and birth control... don' be too worried.. just don't forget that you always need to wear protection, anyways just make sure u know ur ready

Q: Tell me if this is normal because i'm freaking out.

I'm a 17 year old girl. Junior in High school. I still can't wear tampons. Is that bad?? I only wear pads and i've tried soooooo many times to try tampons but they hurt too badly and feel weird all the time and i just overall hate them. I feel so different. like other girls can handle sex and stuff, but i can barely put in a tampon! is something wrong with me?? It will be a year with my boyfriend in May and he's always wondering why I don't want him to finger me. If i tell him, or anybody for that matter, i'll be so embarrassed and feel like i'm so different than everybody.

Helppp i'm desperate.. everytime i try, i start crying in frustration because it NEVER works out. I get about an inch in, and then it starts to feel weird and gross.

If it helps, i'm terrified of needles. so i think that putting in a tampon reminds me of a needle going in me. do you think that could be a reason??

there is nothing wrong with that that happens to alt of people, i have a cousin that has alot of sex but she still hurts when puting on tampons. for me i love tampons they don't hurt me but before i did and when i lost my virginity, they slipped right in. some people are able to get it in but then it hurts when taking it out. everyone's different. don't worry hopefully one day it won't hurt.

if you have anymore questions email me.

-LiseJose

Q: i would tell my mom but she has this thing where if i say somthing she doesnt like she will tell my dad and not talk to me for weeks! Now my dad doesnt care at all about me except for if i do somthing wrong but hes kinda abusive! my mom and dad never got married and live in different houses and i stopped going to his because of his abusiveness but if i tell my mom i no shell tell him and im scared of him! But i need someones help and someone to talk to but who can i trust?

you can trust me i promise email me at either chanae_123@yahoo.com or my advicenator email please email me.

Q: ok so my bf and i were messing around yesterday and he was hard but he told me that he wasn't about to nut, and i wasn't wet at all, so i got on him for literally like three seconds, and then got back off and his dick felt kind of wet, like he had nutted just a little bit, but he swore that he hadn't at all, because he said he wasn't even close to nutting. he said that it was probably wet because i had gotten wet but, and that it definitely wasn't cum. so my question is, is it possible for that to just have been me getting wet, even though it was only 3 seconds that i was on him? can i get wet in just three seconds?

if you knew you weren't wet them you probably weren't. pre- cum can happen as soon as a guy gets hard. even though its pre-cum it still has millions of sperm. not as much as actual cum but you still have a risk at getting pregnant. if your really worried get checked if not than just be carful before it happens

if you any other questions email me at lisejose_advicenators@yahoo.com

-lisejose

Q: Im a female and only thirteen but has had sex for the first time with someone i thought i really liked and i thought he really liked me back. But like after we did he told everybody lies and stuff like saying I was gonna cry and stuff. I will admit it hurt really really badly but i wasn't gonna cry. Also he broke up with me and now it feels like i have the weight of the world on my shoulders because i know he is gonna tell everybody but i feel really guilty because of my mom and i wanna tell her but shes all i have and I dont wanna hurt her. So should I tell her? and if i do how can I?

yes you should tell her, but start off slow and tell her what happened at first make it sound like its his fault and in the end if its your fault at all let her know. but don't blame yourself because things happen like that alot and from the story i'm hearing that guys a jerk. i hope that you used a condom because that kind of guy sounds like he does that alot. i really want to help you more and your welcome to email me at lisejose_advicenators@yahoo.com

don't be afraid to ask me anything and i hope everything goes great with your mom. i know your afraid of telling her but she will be happy that you told her. just be careful of the next time because you'll never know. please email me.

-lisejose

Q: This is not a physical sex questions, it's more of a request of an explanation. You'll understand after reading the question.

I had sex for the first time a couple weeks ago. Since then I've been having a lot of se dreams, and by sex dreams. I've been having dreams of me having sex with like every guy I know, and it's kind of weird. Like I even imagined myself with my best friend's boyfriend, and I don't even like him at all, and he's not that good looking either. I've recently gotten over a "boy issue" and I know that's cause me to have weird reactions to some things, but sex dreams? I've never really been interested in sex before, I found it kind of revolting. The sex a few weeks ago, just sorta happened, I was drunk at a friend's party and well, me and a guy were talking and then one thing led to another. So basicaly I'm curious as to why I'm all of a sudden horny all the time and dreaming of having sex with lots of guys. It's getting out of hand.

Thanks in advance.

well. it could just be that you liked it alot. since your horny all the time that just means you want more so if you dont have anyone special in your life you should wait until you do, if you dont you could get taken advatage of and your future could get ruined. if your not happy about losing your virginity then forget about it regain your virginity dont do it again until your ready. get yourself busy so that you have other things on you mind and if you still have dreams just fight it, listen to yourself if anybody comes around that makes you horny.

bio

I am 18. I like giving advice about love, I feel as though i have a clear idea of love in some ways, at the same time as i feel love is not explainable i can explain it, but in weird ways. I also like to give advice about sex questions, although i'm a big hypocrite when it comes to this topic, I always say the right things although i do the wrong ones. there are a few topics that i answer that aren't in my favorite categories but if the question interests me then i answer it. I hope you can trust me and i hope you can appreciate what i can try to do to help you.
- LiseJose