Almost eighteen...Darling, your life has not yet begun, and you wish to end it? Look, I'm not going to tell you that there's something wrong with you, or that you need to go talk to a doctor. There are support groups which are very good at assisting people who deal with suicidal thoughts and emotions. But that's not for everyone. Honestly, you posting your situation on here- whether you realize it or not- is a cry for help. I am very happy you have chosen to do so, as I know it is indeed a very difficult thing to do. However, I know what it's like to feel like you have nothing to live for. I've been there once before. What you need to do is be strong, and give yourself a reason to live. Find a new hobby, make some new friends, or even start talking to old ones that you haven't seen in a while. It's hard to go to a trusted adult, and it's even harder to talk to a stranger. But if you have a close friend that will listen, maybe you should talk to them about what's on your mind once in a while. It's hard in this case to tell you exactly what to do, because everyone is different. But I will tell you one thing: NOTHING is worth taking your own life. Keep searching, and don't give up. Planning something for the future is sometimes a very helpful technique. Picture in your head or write down a very detailed description of a possible trip you would some day like to take. Try to think of goals, and achieve them! You can do anything if you put your mind to it- including finding a reason to live.

Hang in there, kid.
- Elliott

Okay, I'll start with this. I'm going to take a guess that you and your ex did not leave off on good terms? If so, then she's really just trying to mess with you. There is usually a good chance of being able to tell if a woman is "faking" an orgasm. If a woman is enjoying sexual intimacy, she will be noticeably wet. THAT, my friend, can only happen with enjoyment from sexual desire. So, yes, physical things like that can not be faked. Your ex is probably just telling you the sex wasn't that great either because she's having trouble getting it, or simply because she misses yours. Don't let it get to ya (:

- Elliott.

Well, hey i'm not a guy, but i'm a lesbian, so, same thing. I'll give you some advice. I have whats called by some a p.s.d. Its just a long way of saying that i make a design by shaving parts of it out...You know, like a line straight down the middle, or a heart, something like that. And i'll tell ya, my girl HATES it. She likes it better when i'm totally shaved, but it makes me feel so...Well...naked. Lol. But anyways, if you're going for the whole "virgin" look, being completely shaved usually gives off that sort of vibe, which some guys may find sexy. But, again, it really depends on the guy.

When i came out to my parents, my girlfriend and i were together for about 7 months. She came over my house and we were "celebrating". When my dad unexpectedly walked in, i was caught in the middle of kissing her. Now, keep this in mind, my father is without a doubt one of the biggest homophobes in the world. no joke. So, of course right away he freaked out and started screaming and told us to wait downstairs until her mom came to pick her up. It was devistating. When she left, he and my mom sat down with me and he fought with me about it. That next day, we talked again and he told me he loved me no matter what i did and that even though he disagrees with it, i would always be his daughter. My mom instantly accepted me and my girlfriend from day one, but thats a different story. Since then, its been about 4 months and my dad has been gradually accepting it one step at a time. Anyway, the point is that i had no idea how he would react when i told him. I feared the worst, and it wasn't nearly as bad as i imagined it could be..so i realized that when people say their parents' reactions when they come out are totally different from what you expect, they're right. I've also learned this however, you only really get one chance to tell them. The perfect time, and when it comes, you'll know it, and act on it. but until then, dont rush yourselves into telling anyone until you both know you are ready. And as your friends go, they will accept you as you are now matter which gender you like, if they really care about you, they wont judge you. Good luck, and i really hope it goes well!

Well at least you know it isn't healthy. Otherwise that would be the first step for you. But anyway, i'll tell you this, before i began dating the girl i'm with now, i was a very jealous person, so i kinda know what you're saying. The best thing for you to do, is look at this girl, and then look at yourself. Make a list and point out qualities about yourself that she DOESN'T have. I'm not saying you should bash her on paper or anything, but it sounds to me like what you need to do, is to see things in yourself rather than in someone else...

Well, see i dont know how well i'll be able to answer this, but i'll give you the best advice that i can. And i'll start by saying that everyone is different with sexual desire, so something that might work for me, might not work so well for you...Know what i mean? My advice to you would be to take some time out and watch some porn. I know it sounds perverted and maybe stupid, but i'm not saying to get off to it..I'm just saying observe what other people do, and try it out when you're alone...Believe it or not, it can actually give you some ideas. ALSO, keep in mind that fantasizing is very important if you want to get the most pleasure out of what you're working with. Try being creative, it's the most effective- TRUST ME ;]

Well, think of it this way; my girlfriend and i have sex almost everytime we're together...BUT, this is because we don't get to see each other a whole lot due to various reasons. We've been dating for what will be 10 months in about 2 weeks. Here's why it's okay- The reason we do it is because we love each other, and that's one way of many that we show it. The most important factor is that our relationship is NOT based on SEX or LUST. It is based on trust, honesty, and happiness. Now, you and your boyfriend have been together for quite some time...And to really answer this question, you have to know what your relationship is all about. Do you both care about each other enough that you can do this sort of thing AS WELL as other things that couples do? Like, say...Watch movies together, or just plain hang out? Or is it the type where you only get together when you want to have sex? Because, if you base everything on sex, you'll have a problem. It's something to think about, but i hope you make the right decision.

One word:
Cinnamon.

Haha, Alright, this is a good one. Well, since every girl has different likes and dislikes, it's kind of hard to say because it depends on her. But, there are however, some tips i can give you to improve your kissing skills.

1. Let it come NATURALLY! =]
When you begin kissing, just let your lips and hers guide you; At least to start.

2. Take your time.
Think about it, during a "make-out session" you're taking the time to explore the mouth of the person you're in contact with. So don't rush, enjoy it.

3. Don't swish your tongue around like a windmill.
Like i said, every girl is different, but i can tell you that NO girl likes it when there's a hurricane going on inside her mouth! Just be sensitive, and really get into it. The feel is the charm.

ALSO!
There are different types of kisses you can give. In other words, you don't have to use your tongue every time.

Lip Kisses:
You may or may not know this, but you can kiss the top lip, or the bottom lip when kissing. You may not realize this unless you really take the time to tell the difference, but i'll tell ya, the girl can definately tell!

The Ear Kiss:
On a girl, the back and side of the ear is a very sensitive place...Imagine how a soft sensation of your lips would feel to her.

Kissing the Neck:
When you're kissing a girl's neck, you want to make sure you take your time with it. Almost like you plan to kiss every inch. Start at the top, and work your way to her collarbone; Trust me...She'll love it. =]

Well, for starters, let me explain that there are two types of orgasm: Clitoral and Vaginal. Now, depending on what sexual acts you and your boyfriend are engaging, it will determine which type of orgasm you may, or may not get. Believe it or not, about 70% of the time, women climax but do not orgasm during sexual activity. In general, an orgasm is a pleasurable feeling caused by sexual desire and satisfaction. Due to your description, what you are feeling is certainly sexual satisfaction. But to determine if it is truly an orgasm or not, is entirely your call. You see, when a women enters her climatic peak during sex, she feels a sensation caused by a rare feeling known as desire. So, really, your desire is surely effecting you, causing you to orgasm. The time it takes to be aroused and complete an orgasm depends soley on the woman, and how well her partner is feeding her needs. So, you can't really control when you get it, how you get it, or how long you want it to last. That's why the majority of sexually active couples are usually intimate more than one time in a single day. And keep in mind, you don't necessarily have to cum to have an orgasm, every woman is different.

Hey there everyone =]
My name's Elliott, and I'm here to answer all of your burning questions! And since I'm getting to know you, I think it'd be a good idea to let you know a bit about me. I'm just a 16-year-old girl, and a Junior in high school. I'd say with my story, I have some experience in answering many of high school's most common questions(See my Favorite Categories). Generally, I love to play the guitar and the piano. Writing, whether it be lyrics, short stories
or poetry, well, I've always had a passion
for it =] I'm News Editor for my high school paper, and Poetry Co-Editor for the magazine- So if you have any English questions, be sure I'm the one you ask! Haha (: If there's anything else you're curious to know, then just go ahead and ask! I won't bite, i promise [= Ask for my cell number too if you want, I'll share.

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