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first time you have sex is it better to have it with a virgin or a already experienced guy?
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i would say with an experience guy cuz that way he knows what he is doing....but then againa virgen would be good too that way you both take each others virginity and you can experiemtn with each other and see what feels good and what deosnt


Last night my boyfriend fingered me. I really uncomfortable with it at first, but I just thought what the heck and was okay with it. At first he only did one finger, then he tried two. When it was only one finger it was alright, pleasurable in some ways, but when he got two fingers in it becaome quite uncomfortable. It hurt a whole lot. I started wincing and became all tense. I think that he got the wrong impression and though I was liking it, but I wasn't it hurt terribly. I don't know what to do because I know he'll try two fingers again next time. It's not supposed to be comfortable like that, is it? Why was it go painful? (link)
well if your still a virgin thats hows its suppose to feel because your cherry is not yet popped...but if your not a virgin then your just not use to it maybe next time he treis 2 fingers if it still hurts then tell him that for some reason its hurting

he should understand and if he cares about u he'll go back to one finger


So ok i had sex um like two weeks ago....Down there is kinda like all red and it looks like someone like burnt the first layer of my skin off. See after i had sex it got real ichy(i thought maybe he cut me with his finger nails down there does that make you ichy?) But today after my shower i seen that there was like a lump but its like a pimp but its not one its just a blister looking type thing. I herd from people he had STD's and he does fuck and isnt safe...Are thease signs of a STD? (link)
oh shit gurl you need to go to see a doctor this could be dangares....go and quick


I've told 3 guys that i would have sex with them sometime in high shcool, and i feel like kind of a whore. I know that a lot of people have sex and everything but i feel like it would kind of be a slutty thing to do. What do you think? (link)
if your still a virgen



Dont Do It!!!!!!

just cuz everyone is fukkin dont mean you have to do it too


but if your not then think before you act....do you want to have a reputation of the gurl that fucks every guy she talks to...i dotnt hink so cuz then noone will take you serious

just back away from it plus words are carried away by wind...sooner or later they'll forget ...trust me there guys pretty slow


13/f this is gonna be long. in the past two years i've had three really intense sex dreams where i wake up and i'm really sweaty and kind of shakey and i feel all tingly and stuff. the weird thing is that about a month after i have these dreams i have another dream where i will be in the delivery room at a hospital having the baby. one time i even woke up with cramps in my abdomen. this has happened for the first two times but i only had the last dream like two weeks ago. Are these dreams just a weird...really really weird coincidence or could they mean something?

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they could just be unused ideas you've had...or they could be a warning of telling you not have sex yet or a unplanned baby can happen


I dont want to sound like a jackass or anything, but why do most women (most being the ones that ive talked to on the subject taht are in HS or graduated around the 17-21 age range) not like birth control. Now it seems to me that birthcontrol isnt to bad at all, and that these women dont understand that seriousness of having a baby. Can someone pleas like to explain why someone would rather risk getting pregnant and having an unplanned baby or having an abortion, instead of takin a pill that would save you from alot of trouble.

Sorry about the length, but its a serious subject, 18-m (link)
every women at a point of their life wants to have a baby of their own ..and taking birth control pills can damage ur reproductive system and can make it harder to have kids even after taking them


does thata nswer your question


my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we're both religious and waiting for marriage before we have sex. recently we've been really open and getting comfortable with eachother. we've been talking about sex a lot on the phone, not us doing it, just positions and what feels good. last weekend I jerked him off, and afterwards I got really upset. then yesterday we had dry sex. it was just like the real thing just with our pants on. After every time we do that stuff we promise eachother we won't do that again, but everytime we're in a bedroom it happens. Please help I'm so upset & disappointed in myself and it's so hard to not do these things with him cause I trust him so much. But we're only teenagers and I dont want to do it, plus its against my religion. He never forces me to do anything, I just do it... help =[ (link)
i know wut you mean with being disspointed... becasue me and my boyfriend (now my ex) always talked about not doing it and keeping it and stuff like that and we did dry sex too and that just worked us up and i gave it up to him..and i was dissapointed but now it dont bother me anymore since we broke up i should feel like shyt but i dont i dont regret doing it because i trust him so much too

i dont know its weird but if you feel for his guy then you should do what your heart tells you


Is it normal for a girl my age to like another girl? I mean, i don't think i'm a lesbian or bisexual, but i heard it could be normal for someone my age (which is 15 btw) to be... "curious"? am i just weird? (link)
being curious leads to bisexual...just face it and get use to it cuz if you like a girl now and a guy later you'll like both...thers nothign wrong with dat


okay this miht be a bit wierd but like wen ever i get my period i feel all wierd like its leaking thru my pants or something at skool and i really worry that it might be leaking! idk what to do? i mean if some one saw that there were blood stains on the back of my pants and especially if it was a guy i liked wat would i do? thats like sooo embarassing!
help!
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try putting a tampon then u wont have to worry...opr u could just wear big shirts dat cover your pants while your on your period


ok this is my friends account cuz i dont have time to make my own right now...

ya know how everybody thinks that guys just wanna get down your pants and all they think about is sex? well is it normal for a girl to be like that?

and also i have this weird stretchmark things on my boobs, is this normal? (link)
it is totally normal for gurls to think like dat too..

trust me thats all i eva thought about with my b/f


and abotut eh boob thing im not so sure did u get it check out by a doctor


ok sorry...weird question...but if you have sex while youre on ur period, like the last few days or w/e...what are the chances that you'll get pregnant? sorry if thats kinda weird/gross (link)
you shouldnt have sex while your on your period...its kindda nasty but yeah i always wondered that too...but i think its just the same as doing ti while your not on ur rag


is it like.. unhealthy to not have sex for your entire life,
i want kids, and i want alot, but i want to adopt. its not a spiritual thing..i just.. am weirded out by the idea of sex...
please help..
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you're weird out by the idea of sex because you havent found the right person yet...but when you do and you have sex with him...you are going to love it and you will want kids of your own

how old are you?? if your in your teens years then dont even worry about that ir will come if your in ur twenties then you have o start looking for the one....trust me sex is good..its nothing to be weird out about ...you need self confident thats what guys like and even if you dont have it then you can always pretend your comfortable with yourself...if you do you'll be glad u did


okay...this guy told me that i had sex appeal today and i dont know if i should have taken it as a compliment or an insult.

so could someone tell me what sex appeal is and if its a compliment or and insult.

BTW: im 13/f and i rate 5 for NONsmartass answers. (link)
its a compliment ...its simple saying dat you looked good and that anyone would want to fuck you


NEED HELP AND fast!!!!



how long after having sex should you take the morning after pill? is there anything i can take so i dont get pregnant because i had sex last night and he accidentally "went" in me and the condom broke.. please try and help as soon as possible! (link)
you should of taken the pill before doing it


ok well most people say that boys prefer it shaved so does that mean like all shaved off or can u just leave like a little bit of pubic hair but then it goes all prickely so................? (link)
Shave everything!!!!!...unless you go and get a bikini line then you can make a cool design but if not then yes shave everything guys really like that


ok im 14 about to be 15 and all i have done is pulled is that bad?what is a good age to have sex? (link)
what exactly do you mean by pulled??...i say there is no such thing as a good or bad age when ever you feel ready and your sure with what you are doing then you can




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