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hey i'm courtney! :)
i'm nineteen and i live in ohio. i am currently not going to college, and just working fulltime.. i'm single and not really looking but,i love to go tanning, shopping, and seeing friends. i am very social, and love to listen to problems and help the best way i know how. i am a very happy person, and willing to be there for people who need me most, and i care for most in life. that's a bit about me heh.

advice

So, i'm like, a sexaholic with my boyfriend, and he used to be the same way, but we've been together for over a year now, and sex has become rare. MAYBE once a month, if i'm lucky. I constantly want it, once i get it i'm good for a day or two, then i want it again. idk if it's because it makes me feel attractive or because he's so good or what it is, but it's driving me NUTS that he doesn't want to do it anymore. he's always too tired or has to work in the morning or is sore or spends all night on his video game and doesn't get off of it till he's ready to pass out. I want him to want me! i've tried sexy dances, sexy clothes, talking sexy, everything! i even bought whipcream and handcuffs..... what can I do to bring his sex drive back? he says it's not a personal issue, no depression, nothing wrong with me, but idk. i don't know what to do.

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maybe he is just going through something emotionally, try connecting with him on another level. and ask him if how you feel like the sex is so great, maybe he doesn't. talking here is key.

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this question is directed towards people on the Depo Provera birth control shot or people who are very knowledgeable about it. 16/f i have been on the shot for about two months, and everything that i've read about it said that a condom is not necessary while taking the shot, so recently, i haven't been using one. is this unwise? ALSO, my boyfriend and had sex and then i went upstairs and i was bleeding A LOT! it could just be that he ripped me a bit, but if it was spotting, i wanted to know if you have sex while your spotting on the pill can you get pregnant? i think not but i just wanted to be sure. thank you so much,

i'm not sure about the pill thing,but if you stop taking it it won't work, even if you keep changing the cycle of it. also, you can get pregnant, ANYTIME. whether you're spotting, on your period or off. anytime. use protection, and make sure you regularly take the shot and pills when you are prescribed to.

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okay. yesterday, my bf and i kissed for the first time and today i have scrapes on my hands. do i have stigmata? can you get stigmata from kissing other people? also, does this mean i could be pregnant?

you aren't pregnant unless you had sex, and even then so, scrapes doesn't come from being pregnant. do some more research on stigmata on google or yahoo. maybe those are symptoms of that. but definitely not of being pregnant.

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im very young to be pregant.butt ive been geeting pains in my stomach.not cramps.i feel like vomiting but i cant.are theese symtoms?

get tested, buy one from the store. and if you're really young then you shouldn't be having sex. and you don't get cramps/pains until you're second trimester in being pregnant.

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16/f

my boyfriend & i have been together for a year & a half and we haven't had sex, but we do fool around a lot (been to 3rd base), and occassionally we send dirty text messages or emails to each other. okay here's the problem..his parents read an email i send him (DIRTY!), they told my parents, and he got his phone/computer taken away, and my parents said i'm not allowed to see him the entire summer. neither of us have our licenses, & now his parents hate me. i don't know what to do. he's my best friend & i can't not talk to him or not see him!!! any advice?

parents tend to freak badly at first, seriously give it a couple of days let him cool down, maybe sit down and talk to your parents, explain that you're growing up. and while you respect their opinions it's your life, and if you want to make a mistake they can't protect you for forever.

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Me & my boyfriend has been having sex, well over 3 months now. I love teasing him, but not prick teasing.
I do like to have sex afterwards.
Such as teasing for a while, getting him real aroused, then having sex.
I love this, it makes me enjoy it so much more.

I need some tricks though, to teasing.
I dont do strip teasing, or blow jobs, or none of that, its disguisting.
Tips please?

where sexy clothings, and maybe just use some fruits, like strawberries with cool whip or cherries, he'd like that.


well then you could make the kisses last longer. kiss his neck a bit, and maybe lightly suck on it, also if you kiss his ears gently he'd like that too.

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I was wondering for the first time what kind of condom feels the best for the girl? I was thinking like a regular one instead of a ribbed one since its the first time? But can a for her pleasure one feel good the first time?
and i just have a couple questions to sum everything up.
1.what condom makes it feel the best for the girl?
2.do the for her pleasure ones have to go on a certain way to make it feel better?
3.can you buy the for her pleasure ones in a 3 pack? i only saw them in like a 6 pack.
4.what kind is best for the 1st time? .. would for her pleasure regular or for her pleasure heating solutions be better?

ps how hot do the heating ones get?

thanks =]
srry so many questions =[

don't use anything that heats up for the first couple times, and other than that you can use any condoms, usually get ones with please for her, and maybe get ones that are thinner, it'll make it easier on both of you.

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15/f
me and my bf have been going out for 7 months and we are in love. for some reason i cannot get over the fact that he has gotten a bj before, one time [i think] from one girl. by the way i have never given a bj or aything before. idk what my problem is. we haven't done much sexually (were taking it slow pretty slow :] ) but i don't think i would be able to progress sexually with him until i am over this stupid issue. but like the whole thing kills me inside. he says he kinda feels the same way that ive gotten fingered before but besides him i've only gotten fingered once or twice by one other guy, and my bf has fingered numerous other girls before so its definetly not the same. idk does anyone understand how i feel or any advice of what i can do to get over this? by the way saying something like oh its in the past now and theres nothing you can do about it does not help :/

give you mind something to think about besides that. instead of focusing on what you hate that he has done, think of what you two have and how no one will ever take that away from you. also, if you tried a bj and liked it, you wouldn't be thinking of how the other girl did it to him. instead you'd be thinking of yourself.

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i'm a 15 yr old who's lives in new york and i was wondering if theres any way that i can get birth control without my parents finding out.. i don't have a job yet so i don't have too much money.. is there any way?

search for planned parenthood online. it's a place for girls who can't afford to pay for insurance for birth control. search for the website online. it's free, and good birt control. you could find a place near you.

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My parents snooped through my stuff. they said that i hadnt been acting myself, and yes, i wasnt. i was really depressed and i had written some suicide letters. well... they found them.

they took me to the hospital for a mental health evaluation and now i have to go to a cousler. I dont tell my parents anything so why would they expect me to tell a total stranger whats going on in my life? I dont know whether i should open up. or if I should just keep my business to myself. Any adive on coping with depression would be nice. and answeing my question is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

honestly you're in way over your head here. if you wrote suicide notes then on some level of your subconcious you wanted someone to find them and help you. the counselor isn't there to judge you, just help you cope, they are there for you to vent, them also could give you really beneficial advice for feeling depressed.

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okay well me and my boyfriend have sex alot but we had sex while i was on my period then right when i came off of my period and both of those times he cummed a little inside me beacuse he didnt pull out in time .

i cant remember if your more likely to get pregnant while your on your period , right before or right after your period ? some people say you cant get pregnant if you have sex during your period ? i need to know when your most likely and least likely to get pregnant !

you are likely to get pregnant the same while on your period or off. truth is all woman ovulate only like five days out of each month. which means technically there is only five days out of the month you can get pregnant. you also have to be tested to know when you are ovulating. so you could be pregnant right now, you need to wear protection. as soon as sperm hits air though, it dies. so if he tried to pull-out of you and did a little i wouldn't worry as much.

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Can you take a shower or bath on your period..?
Because you think that it would turn red because of the blood..?

SO can you..?

Thanks in advance!

you can do either or. and of course you MUST wash of some sort while on your period, or you would smell, and people could smell you, and it's disgusting. i mean to wash up, you should shower. but some girls like to take baths because they don't feel good, and laying in water helps them feel better. but yes, use lots of soap down there, daily!

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Im 16 if anyone is wondering. Okay, so the last day of my period was saturday night, and my boyfriend and i had sex WITHOUT A CONDOM that day and the day after when i was just getting off of my cycle, but however he did cum inside me BOTH OF THOSE TIMES, and im NOT using birth control. stupid i know, i feel dumb as hell. but i know its really easy to get pregnant when your ovulating but im not to farmiliar with all that, so I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! im going to take a pregnacy test if i dont get my period atleast a week after its missed.
but another thing, its getting kind of itchy down there and i started bleading again this morning!! what should i do!?

maybe you thought your period was over with this time around, and it wasn't. clearly, or you wouldn't of been bleeding. you have to take a test from the doctors to know when your ovulating. because there are actually only like four days out of a whole month that women can get pregnant. and it doesn't matter if you had sex while on your period, your chances are still very high of getting pregnant. just if your period is late next month, get a pregnancy test and take it! good luck.

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Can you get pregnant while having sex during your period? I didnt have sex during mine, but im on yaz and im supposed to be getting my period today, but it hasnt come yet? But that has nothing to do with it.

you can get pregnant anytime. even while you're on your period, or about to start or were suppose to start or whatever. anytime is possible, because you don't know what days you're ovulating.

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When you get your cherry popped, is it true that you can't feel it pop sometimes? Ex: Playing sports.

you're skin 'cherry' cannot be broken through by playing sports, it has to be physically broken through with. like possibly even using a hand wouldn't break the skin, a penis would. so yeah sports wouldn't affect it at all. and you don't really feel like get popped when you have sex anyhow, you just take it easy during, and you know you're sore.

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I'm a girl, but I don't think I've ever orgasmed. Like, me and my boyfriend have sex a lot but I just... can't. What's a real orgasm like and how do I get one? haha.

try doing different positions.. sometimes it takes awhile to orgasm, and not for the men. just try new things.

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hi do morning after pills work..and if the girl takes a pill instead of the guy useing a condom so the guy can cum in side her whats better??

morning after pills DO work or they wouldn't have them. but you should just use a condom is safer and isn't affecting your body. or get put on birth-control.

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wen me an my bf are going to hav sex i cant make my penis go up..how can i make it go up and stay up..it goes up but then it jus goes back down in no time..an none of those pills lol..im 17..thanks

maybe you need to find a way to make yourself hard longer. find out what turns you on more, and maybe then your stamina will stay.

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when my boyfriend fingers me, like a lot, i usually tend to bleed...but when we have sex, i don't.
why is this?


and its not because of his fingers nails, they are really short..

sometimes i bleed when my boyfriend fingers me and then not when we have sex. it isn't unusual. so don't worry about it. but i can't tell you why. sorry.

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This might sound wierd but hey...who cares :-D
Do you know any tips for masturbating...like sorts of ways to do it to make it good?
Im a girl by the way before you start giving me guy techniques lol.
shan xx

it depends on what your into.
what you prefer. try imagining something that'll turn you on. it's what i do. or watch a porn lol.

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