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i am a 16 year old guy i'm gay my boyfriend is 17 we are really in love we have been talking about having sex we have given each other blow jobs a few times i want to have sex i'm a little worried it will hurt he has a big penis so i'm a nervous about having sex
does it hurt a lot? any advice?
Apologies with the late reply to your question.
Its really good that you two are both talking about he possibility of having sex, communication is key throughout.
Its perfectly normal to be worried about having sex, eerybody always asks if it hurts, and to be perfectly honest it might just hurt the first couple times but just be sure to use plenty of lubricant and tell him to take it slow. Theres no need to rush your first time at all. Just talk about it and explore each other bodies.
Sometimes some gay men to tend to 'play around' with that area themselves, try gently massaging your anus and make sure to put lube on but see if you can insert a finger- or maybe even get your partner to do that first before penetrating you.
All in all I cant really tell you what anal sex feels like as ive never had it but you know that you're ready and want to take that step with your partner so talk about it and if its wht he wants to then go for it. Take it nice and slow and remember to communicate with him to say what feels good and what doesnt to you.
Again sorry this reply took so long but hope Ive helped you out in some way. Never hesitate to inbox if you need more advice.
AskSinz.
Alright so my bf is the best and we Well I need to ask something which is actually really embarrassing. You see we have been moving faster and had a little problem when the lights went out. We ended up giving up and going to sleep because we couldn't communicate. Help me please!!!!
As the other answers for this question have stated, perhaps leave a dim light on? Otherwise perhaps before having sex maybe you create signs/signals that you both can understand when in the dark or light to be bale to enjoy sex. For e.g. tug on his ear if you want it slower etc. Small subtle signs so it doesn't detract from the whole mood. Then you can even "test the waters" with the signs/signals it'll be a bit of fun.
Hope this helps,
AskSinz.
I'm 13/f and I've had my boyfriend 16/m for about 2 years. Yes, I know he is really old for me. Recently he asked if he could come over to my house so I let him in when my parents were out at night. We started making out but then he tried to strip me! I said that I wasn't ready and made him go. Now I feel like he is slipping away. He's flirting with other girls. I don't know if I should have sex with him or not. I'm worried about stupid things like what if the condom breaks, or he goes too hard, or what if I'm no good? But the one thing that haunts me the most is what if my parents found out? Should I do it?
The fact that your asking strangers if you should have sex with your boyfriend means that your not ready. You're only 13 so there is no need for you to rush losing your virginity. He's 16 so he's starting to become sexually active. If he leaves because you didn't have sex with him than he's not worth any of your time because it means he would have used you. You're 13, and its obvious that your not ready. If he doesn't like that then let him leave. Just enjoy your childhood.
Hope this helps xx
My curse comes and goes long is it suppose to leave ? Because I am dying 4 it to go?And I'm 27 and I hate being a girl Terrible huh
I believe your talking about your period? There's really not that much information here.
Now if you talking about how long they should last on average 3-5 days but for some it can last up to 7 or as little as 1 day.
If your talking about when does your period stop on its ownThe U.S Department of Health and Human Sciences defines
menopause as when a woman does not have a period for
12months in a row. The ovaries stop producing as much
estrogen and progesterone. While body is changing, and
until you’ve gone 11 months and 29 days without a period,
is known as the perimenopause stage. Menopause is in fact
only one day the day that is exactly 12 months since you’ve
had your last period, the time after that is the
postmenopausal stage.
There are also other ways you yourself can stop your period for example a depo provera injection stops your from having your period but it is used a form of contraception.
Hope this helps, xx
The U.S Department of Health and Human Services say that
the average age to start perimenopause is between 45 and
55 but some women will start the process as early as 35. The
University of Maryland says that that perimenopause can
start up to 10 years before actual menopause. According to
the University of Virginia there are some factors which may
contribute to an early menopause such as smoking and
never having given birth.
According to the Mayo Clinic, the reason that your periods
become irregular during perimenopause is because your
ovaries produce varying amounts of the hormone each
month --- sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.
So my boyfriend lost his virginity to me and we've been together for two years. For some reason he spiked up the urge to have anal sex and kind of rushed me into it. i don't mind anal sex too much, it's just i dont want all of my 'nastiness' to be on him or fall when he pulls it out. how do i prevent that?
also, i know that the anus is tighter but i asked him why he wants to do it all of a sudden and he said just to spice it up. do you think that could be true or would there be a most likely underlying truth ?
also, how can i , as a girl get orgasmic pleasure from anal sex? sure it felt OKAY the second time and it didn't bother me too much but how can i get myself to find pleasure in it?
how do i keep him from wanting anal sex all the time and turn him back on to my vagina? i feel like it's being totally rejected.
i know i asked a lot of questions but im really curious. thanks :)
oh and one more...does the anus self lubricate? -male and female
The anus does not self lubricate which is why its recommended to use a decent a mount of lube to help with penetration so it doesn't hurt so much, easier to go in and out and obviously no tearing.
There are taboos surrounding the various types of anal sex – and particularly anal intercourse.
These may arouse strong feelings of moral indignation, guilt and anxiety.
It is important to remember that while some people find these activities repugnant, others may find them stimulating, exciting, and a normal part of their sexual intimacy.
Research shows that, whether we like it or not, the anal area is equipped with many erotic nerve endings – in both men and women. So it is not surprising that many couples (including a lot of heterosexual ones) derive pleasure from some form of ‘bottom stimulation'.
How to have anal intercourse safely
Anal intercourse involves the penetration of the anus and rectum with the erect penis for the purpose of sexual stimulation. It is possible for both men and women to ‘receive’ it, although care is needed for it to be safe and comfortable.
Ensure the anal area is clean and the bowel is empty. This is important both aesthetically and practically. If the bowel is empty, there is no risk of the receptive partner passing faeces.
The 'receptive' partner must be able to relax the anal sphincter in order to accommodate the erect penis. The anal sphincter is a ring of muscle that can be contracted or relaxed under voluntary control. Forced penetration may result in tearing of the sensitive skin around the anus or the sphincter itself. This may result in severe anal pain or even faecal incontinence.
Try gently inserting a lubricated finger, perhaps covered by a condom or glove into the anus first. This will enable the receiving partner to find out whether penetration is comfortable and enjoyable. Having managed to accommodate one finger, you can run the finger around the anal canal - gently stretching it. This must be done delicately so as not to cause pain or injury.
Next, you can, if you wish, try and insert two fingers. If this is successfully achieved, the couple may agree to try with a well-lubricated penis or with a butt plug (a broad-based anal dilator), dildo or vibrator (see below about the risks of sex aids and anal sex).
Gentleness, care, adequate lubrication and anal relaxation are required, not the insertive partner pushing harder! If condoms are used for penile penetration, which is advisable to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, it is important to use a water-based lubricant. The insertive partner must control any thrusting, so as to give the receptive partner time to allow the sphincter to relax. With time and practice, this may become easier
As to get him to go back to vaginal sex rather than anal that involves you talking to him. You need to tell him that it's not as stimulating for you and you can't climax that way. If you are willing to have anal sex with him then you could say that your willing to have it but not every time because you prefer vaginal sex. There are plenty of other positions to help spice up your sex life however if you've only just started having sex there's no need to rush to 'spice it up'. You need to tell him that you wanna climax as well as have him climax but always going anal sex isn't all that pleasurable to you as it is to him. You've been together for two years so having a talk about this shouldn't be awkward or too bad. He should be understanding about this if your both willing to co-operate with each other and listen to each others needs. I hope this helps and if you need any more help feel free to inbox me, good luck!!xx
If you have sex slot do you get tired of it?
You don't really get tired of sex in itself, but you do get tired from sex, because you're doing it so often. For some people they do get tired of sex but mainly because its in some way boring, like they always do the same positions, or the guy doesn't last long enough and the girl never gets to finish which is why some people don't bother.
Hope this answers your question!!xx
What's lube?
"Lube" is a shorter, more casual way of saying "lubricant" or "lubrication." In general, lubricants help machines of all kinds, from bicycles to jet engines, run more smoothly. When I said lube, I referred to the products made to allow for greater glide during sex (thrusting), making sex more comfortable and pleasurable. Lubes come in three basic types – water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based – all of which have different properties:
Water-based lubes are generally considered most user-friendly and all-purpose of the three types. They don't deteriorate latex, so they're safe to use with condoms, dams, diaphragms, and other latex safer-sex products. For most people, water-based lubes are non-irritating, user-friendly, and easy to clean up. A number of these lubes also contain glycerin however, which may cause yeast infections in some women. They can also dry out relatively quickly, but adding a little more lube, water, or saliva will get you sliding smoothly again.
Oil-based lubes like Vaseline or lotion are not recommended for safer sex because they break down latex. They can also leave a coating on the vagina or rectum that can lead to infections. Males masturbating alone, though, can use oil-based lubes as a way to avoid chafing or to simply try something new.
Silicone-based lubes are the newest on the market. Like water-based lubes, they're safe to use with condoms and other latex products, but they last longer. Silicone lubes can also be used in the water without being washed off. However, this means they're harder to clean up after: you'll have to use soap and water. If you're using silicone lube with sex toys, you may want to use caution, since it can damage sex-toys made of silicone. Using a condom over the toy or choosing a water-based lube can help avoid mishaps.
Within these broader categories, you can find more specific kinds of lube, such as flavored lubes for oral sex or lubes that contain a spermicide like nonoxynol-9. Note that nonoxynol-9 can cause irritation, which may increase one's risk of contracting HIV. If you have sensitive skin, you may want to do a spot-test on your inner arm or thigh the day before you plan to use any new lube in order to make sure you don't have an unwanted allergic reaction.
Overall, lubes are a great way to enhance pleasure during sex. There are hundreds of different varieties available, so with a little experimenting, just about everybody can find a lube that makes their sex life both more slippery and satisfying.
Hope this helps!!xx
How long do people have sex, how long does it last?
It all depends on the person, and how many times you want to go for.
Men seem to complain that they either last way too long in bed or not nearly long enough.
Very few people have intercourse that goes longer than 12 minutes
For men, essentially, ejaculatory inhibition, which is also called "delayed orgasm" has less to do with actual time than an inability to ejaculate when you'd like. And premature ejaculation, which is also called "rapid ejaculation" refers to intercourse that lasts less than a minute or two.
He can last longer by improving his technique through what he calls "masturbation". You could also try switching positions and varying the speed and pattern of thrusts, and then you might attain the required 18-minute minimum or even longer!
Hope this helps!!xx
Does your mind go blank and you can't think or do u only think about what your doing or what?
For the majority of people their mind is just focusing on what their doing the feelings they're experiencing, where they want their partner to go because they think that'll make them orgasm. For some others they can't help but think during sexual intercourse which really isn't that good. It means their not relaxed enough and aren't really that in the mood but just went along with it. You never know what your going to think during sex, things just happen.
Hope this helps xx
I'm 13 and my names Gracie. I'm not having sex and I don't plan on doing it anytime soon so dnt worry. I'm just curious
For a girl it can be painful the first time, and there can be some blood due to a small piece of tissue called the hymen, when you are penetrated the hymen can be torn slightly or completely torn off which causes the bleeding, this is where the whole name "popping your cherry" came from (this is perfectly normal!). Be sure to use lot's of lube as sometimes there might not be enough lubrication from your vagina and it can chafe and really hurt you down there.
Be safe if you plan on losing your virginity because the last thing you want is to become pregnant at a young age or even worse contract STI's/STD's.
Becoming sexually active attaches you to a person on a higher emotional level, so make sure you like or love this person a lot as you will remember this person as the one you gave your virginity to for the rest of your life.
Hope this helps xx
Do you feel different after you have sex for the first time? Does it change you? What about all the times after that? Ps: my names Gracie and I'm 13
Fist of all it's OK to be inquisitive about sex at your age, however the age of consent for sex is 16. Having sex before that age is illegal and is definitely looked down upon.
When you've had sex for the first time, if it went right then you feel happy, you feel great and satisfied. But then again it all depends on the person. It doesn't really change you all that much but for some it does give them more confidence and self esteem; however that is not the reason to have sex. Generally after the first time you gain more confidence in that department and feel more at ease when you do it again and you learn to explore etc. If you have any more questions please feel free to inbox me.
Hope this helps xx
What's a orgasm? What does it do? Does it help pole get pregnant?
An orgasm is an intense feeling of sexual pleasure that happens during sexual activity. It’s sometimes called coming or climaxing, and both men and women have orgasms.
When you have an orgasm, your heart beats faster and your breathing gets quicker and heavier.
In women, an intense, pleasurable release of sexual tension is accompanied by contractions of the genital muscles. A woman may have more than one orgasm if she continues to be stimulated.
In men, muscle contractions cause semen containing sperm to spurt out of the penis (ejaculation). After this, there’s a period of time when a man cannot have another orgasm. This recovery phase, in which the penis and testicles shrink back to their normal size, can last from a few minutes to a few hours.
It doesn't really effect pregnancy all that much. To get pregnant a man just has to release that tiny bit of semen into your vagina and there is a potential.
Hope this helps xx
16/male i am gay my boyfriend is also 16 we have been together for 6 months we love each other a lot and recently we were in his bedroom we were making out and he put his hand down my pants and started touching my penis it felt good and then the other day we gave each other a blow job i liked it he is starting to get very sexual im a little nervous i love him a lot but uptil now we have only made out all of a sudden he wants to get sexual does that mean he wants to have sex?
what do you think?
It may not necessarily mean that he wants to have sex but he wants to move your relationship onto the next level by doing sexual acts, like a blow job or a hand job. If your not comfortable with it then talk to him I'm sure he'll understand. However to actually find out for sure if he does want to have sex with you, you could start talking to him about sex and seeing where he stands on that with you and if he says he wants to then you tell him where you stand on it and move on from there. Remember that you don't have to rush into it and you should only have sex when you are ready and comfortable too. I wish you and your boyfriend the best of luck, hope this helps, good luck xx
im 16 and i had only done it once but when i did it i just bleed a little. my friends and i were tlakin about this today and they said that they bleed a lot? is it true? and they were saying that i might be still a virgin. so wait i dont get it!. em i still a virgin? or wat?.. and my boyfriend and i feel is time for to have sex. em i gonna bleed a lot this time or wat?... helpp me plizz!! ;)
Once you have committed the act of sex, which is the guy penetrating you. You are no longer a virgin. You hymen breaking is what causes the bleeding which is why it takes up the term "popping the cherry".
However, many young girls split their hymen doing strenuous sports, horse riding or using tampons etc without even realizing and so the initial first act of sex does not always cause bleeding.
Sometimes you may bleed a small amount which could be due to a small tear on your hymen and the next time you completely break the hymen which causes more blood. You don't bleed an awful lot but it is enough to cause a mess.
Inbox me if you have any more questions, Hope this helps!!xx
Hey(:
So Im Sixteen.
And Ive Never Given A Handjob Before.
Me And My Boyfriend Have Been Dating For A Year And We Want To Have Sex. So, Due To That Decision, We Have Been Getting To Know Each Others Bodies A Little Better. The Other Night, He Was In Town And We Hung Out At My Friends Place.
We Were Fooling Around In Her Room.
Now, Me And My Boyfriend Are Like BEST FRIENDS. So Nothing Is Ever Awkward Between Us. And We Can Laugh About Everything Together(:
So He Was Just Messing Around And Somehow His Boxers Came Off? Haha
And Then We Were Still Fooling Around And I Like, Touched It A Lot, But It Wasnt A HandJob.
Since Ive Never Given One Before, Im Not Sure How I Should Do It. Should I Grasp It Tightly And Go Slow, Or Lightly And Go Fast. And How Tight Is Too Tight? Thanks(:
HAND JOB: Most definately use a libricant! What works with one guy may not be good for another, and often the best way to find out is by asking! Encourage him to show you how he pleasures himself, then take the lead and be creative. As a basic starting point, however, grip his penis gently with your hand/s and slowly stroke it up and down. Be sensitive to the way he responds, and you'll soon find the confidence to try out different techniques. Ultimately, the only limit is your imagination, so here are a few ideas to get you thinking;
The Ring of Pleasure
Instead of using your hand around his shaft, form a donut ring with your thumb and forefinger and get a rhythm going just under the glands at the top of his penis.
The Comb Over
On every other 'upswing' or so, take your thumb and rub it over the top of his penis head before bringing your hand down again.
The Pastry Worm
Sandwich his penis between the flat of both hands, then roll one hand forward and the other back. Repeat the motion back and forth as if you were playing with pastry, and not trying to light a fire with sticks. Aim to extend your attention to the head of his penis as well as his testicles - two very sensitive areas of the male genitalia. Rubbing your thumb around the rim of his bell end and/or gently cupping his balls while you work is guaranteed to make his toes curl with pleasure.
Hope this helps!!xx
last week my boyfriend and i were having sex. we used a condom spermicide gel but during intercourse intercourse the condom came off but he kept going anyways. i realized that it felt different so i told him to stop because i didnt want to do it without a condom. do you think i might pregnant?
No matter what you use there's always the slightest possible chance of becoming pregnant through birth control but in 99% of the cases they always work.
Because in your case the condom came off and your man kept going yes there could be a chance that you are pregnant simply because of a thing called pre-cum. Pre-cum is pre-ejaculatory semen. It is the fluid that ejaculates from a man before the "Big Bang." Pre-cum is pre-ejaculate is the clear lubricating fluid that is issued from a man's penis when he is aroused. Which means him pulling out doesn't really prevent anything.
If your really worried I suggest waiting two weeks from the time you had this sex session till you can take a pregnancy test as this is the time you must wait for anything to show up on the test.
Hope this helps, good luck xx
is my 3 inch penis normal p.s. im 14 male
Hi this is perfectly normal for a guy your age, your still growing so being 3.5 inches right now isnt so bad. You still have time to grow And also the penis when erect can sometimes be considerably large than when flaccid, it all depends on the person. Try not to worry so much about the size your only 14 you have time to grow.
A non-erect penis usually measures between 8.5cm and 10.5cm (3-4 inches) from tip to base.
The man whose non-erect penis is smallish will usually achieve about a 100 per cent increase in length during sexual excitement.
The man whose non-erect penis is on the largish size will probably manage about a 75 per cent increase.
This means the great majority of penises measure between 15cm and 18cm (6-7 inches) when erect, with the average figure being about 16.5cm (6.5 inches).
So you can see that even if a man has got a 'small' penis, he's got a built-in compensating factor that will bring him up to about the same size as the guy who appears to be 'better equipped' in the shower room.
So you are perfectly normal :) hope this helps!!xx
what does it mean when they say the term "wetter" ? like that if a guy and girl are doing it, she gets wet? what exactly does that mean?
Getting wet is the way a womans body responds to sexual excitement and desire. When women are sexually excited it's common for their heart rate and blood pressure to hike up, their nipples to get hard and breasts to enlarge. Blood flow increases to the genitals so that the clitoris swells and the vagina lubricates itself which is called getting wet, if a guy says he wants you wetter he wants you to become more sexually aroused, sexually excited he wants you to relax and enjoy what he's doing to you so you can get really wet, i hope this helps!! xx
Long story short, my boyfriend and I messed around a bit yesterday. We didn't have sex, but he fingered me.
While he did it, my legs were trembling a lot. That's never happened before when I have been fingered. Is it normal? Was I really that turned on and pleasured to the point where my legs shook?
It is perfectly normal, and happens to quite a few people! It happened to me too when i was being fingered, it just means that you are extremely turned on and your relaxed to the point that your letting all these pulses run all over your body! In fact the saying goes, "you know its good sex when you tremble" :) hope this helps!!xx
The last time i had sex was about 2 weeks ago, and altough the guy washed off each time we had sex, i never went pee or washed off or anything. A few days ago i noticed some wierd odor coming from down there, i googled if it could be a uti or a yeast infection, but it doesn't hurt to urinate, nor does it itch. I notice some light burning, but not too much. The main problem is the smell and that's the only symptom pretty much. What could it be? I don't know if i should go get it checked out or to relax and see if the odor fades.
The first thing you do is make sure you wash that area well, don't douche because that messes up the ph balance, and its best not to use soap either unless its a really mild ph soap so as not to affect the ph balance. If you feel a slight burning sensation then it could be a UTI, drink plenty of water and good hygiene downstairs and also cranberry juice helps a lot. However you won't know for sure unless you go to the doctor to get checked out, UTI's and Yeast infections are very common so don't be embarassed to get checked. They're both very easily treated so i suggest you see a doctor but in the mean time take in my tips and then it shouldnt be so bad, Hope this helps, good luck xx