I really dont know wether this would go under Sex or Love Life. so, here it goes. i figured, since your thing said your a mother, that maybe you'd be able to help me.
OK, first, i should probably tell you, i'm 16 years old and i'm female.
I've been dating m boyfriend (we'll call him "L") for the past year. he's 17.
he's been really sweet... you know... about the whole sex thing, but he's starting to kinda push. and he's getting very...well, he hit me, the other night, when i made him stop, like, taking off his clothes and touching me. its not that i dont love him, you know, but im just not ready. for that.
the thing is, this isnt the first time he's hit me. its happened before. 3 months ago, he bruised my shoulder cause i was talking to some guy he didnt like. 2 months before that he shattered my ankle cause he pushed me, and we were at the top of, like, 4 steps, and i fell. i had ta tell my mom that i fell when i was outside with our dog, cause he's a BIG dog, and has caused harm while playing before, nothing like a broken bone, but some pretty hefty stuff, so it was easy for her to believe. i didnt tell my mom cause L kinda threatened me. nothing serious, he just kinda threatened the other ankle.
i really wanna leave this relationship, but im afraid. i still refuse to have sex, but he's still hitting me, and latly the threats have been becoming more alarming and menacing, like, "kissing isnt exactly satisfying, anymore, bitch, so you better come up with something new, fast."
i dont know if thats a threat against my physical being, or my virginity.
im really really scared and i dont know what to do. im afraid that if i break it off, he might get really angry. i know he has a gun and im afraid he might come after me if i do break up with him.
i dont wanna bring the police into it if i dont have to, and same with my mom and dad, cause i know they'll be pissed that i've gotten myself into this. but it kinda looks inevitable.
please help.
im terrified.
i'm pretty sure this isnt how first love is supposed to turn out. :(
Scared Beyond Belief,
Julie P.
okay julie it's time for you to leave and report all violence to your mom and dad and the POLICE or as Madea say's Po PO and carry you some mace or something for your protections an be sure to let your parents know everything that been happening. right now it is no time to be playing with your life i am sure your parents will agree to, believe it or not they are here to protect you no matter of what.so let them know now before it is to late, i hope this is helpful
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Hi i'm 16 and i have had sex almost a year ago and i have lied to my mother she has no clue when i go to the doctor i lie about it ya i know its bad but just recently i had sex with a guy who was 18 he then got a gf the next day and told me that he was just using me because he was lonley and wanted someone and since he is 18 and he kind of tricked me into doing it with him because that day i had no intention in doing it with him is it rape should i tell my mom he doesn't speak to me at all anymore he ignores me what should i do
you should never lie to your mom nor your doctoryou could tell your doctor anything he can't say a word unless he get serve with papers, and no it is not rape you gave in to him willingly, next time be care and tell the truth and shame the devil, for mre questions holla at me www.dear-askshay.com check out my new book on 2/20/09 Ask-Ask Shay
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I can't get turned on! I DON'T KNOW what it is! What happened?! Am I thinking too much about it?? Is there something wrong with me?! HELP ME!!
okay you need to there is nothing wrong with you
you need to experiment some try different tecniques and poitions,or even an dance like belly danceing or exortic dancing when you find that person believe me he or she will turn you on so high it will be hard to turn you down just keep your thoughts in the right places and you just might find the way to get turn on..
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Im female 17 and my mom is very very overprotective...I dont go out at all. Only to school, saturday mass with my family, and school related things which arent many. my mom doesnt like me to go out, doesnt let me go out with friends, she even scares my friends away by calling them and insulting them. I do have one good friend though that stands it all...my mom told me not to hang out with her anymore. It really sucks cause Im in my house all day...I feel like im throwing away my youth i dont want to party all night but i want to hang out and have fun with my friends now and then. She even locks the door with a key. I can count all the bad things that i´ve done in my life with one hand. My sisters did some really bad stuff...but thats not my fault...im not like them. Im always quiet and I dont rebel...I dont know how long I can live like this. She lies to me to get me to tell her whatever it is that she wants to hear, she blackmails me, shes created problems for me both with my teachers and my friends...I could go live with my dad, but i know that she would never talk to me again. Im also afraid because of college. She´s always critizing me...everything´s my fault in her eyes...im evil in her eyes she´s told me herself...she doesnt even act like a mom giving sarcasms and harsh critics and just been plain mean.....i´ve thought about suicide...but the people that love me keep me going. Other people i know have done so many bad things and their moms arent like this. Its not my fault that we´re not rich and that she married my dad. I just cant have a day of peace because she has to make me feel like crap at least once a day. please help me i feel like im dying in the inside
okay breathe ,relax, now that you have done that i can relate because my husband does the ame thing with our childrens but that's because it is alot that goes on around our way, but when he's at work i let thm go out with and check in physical every 2 hours they seems cool with that, but any way, have an mommie / daughter day with her that's an day you too get to know each other on the ohter side like paint eacher nail, watch an movie and so on let her feel more relax around you, stress free and ask her one day if you and her can talk, express your feelings in an calm and respectful way let her know that next year you will be going to college far from home but in the time that you are here you want her to let you breathe some and you are willing to call or physical check in every two hours or whatever you just want to spend some time with your friends the days you too are not hanging out, if you can get her to hang with you for awhile she might feel more at ease and easy to talk to , and as far as you goes try to meditate and relex , stress free, you will be in college soon having an blast okay if you need to talk to me more don't hesitate to email me when you need an friend i am here for you okay remenber you are almost there to have fun and do girl stuff just hang in there and meditate it will release a lot of stress and maddness...
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My period is 2 weeks late and I'm really afraid I'm pregnant. My friends say that it's near impossible - especially because I am usually always late to begin with. My period is completely irregular. I've even skipped a month about 2 times since i've started (about 4-5 years ago).
I've never had sex. My boyfriend fingers me a lot but he has never even ejaculated around me so I don't think any of his fluids could have gotten into me. What are my chances of actually being pregnant?
Also:
-what if he had masturbated earlier that day or something and there were still fluids on his hands? is that possible?
-what if he had precum on his hands and then put his hands inside of me?
sorry. I'm just worry a lot. Thanks in advance.
okay in order for you to get pregnant he will have to gome inside you to reach your ovaries so there is no chance of pregnacy but you should go to the doctor for they can give you some homomes pills that can make your cycle come on time the ones i know that work is call estrogen so she if you can get those but there is an chance they will give you some that they think will be good for your body just practice safe sex next time alright
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Is it normal when a guy when having sex like his penis comes out of the vagina? and how often does it happen because i had sex the other night and his penis kept coming out of me and he had to put it in...it happened like 4 or 5 times...is that normal?
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if that happens then he is really enjoying his self try to grip and let him enjoy, have fun
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i started birth control the end of november i took it up until december then i ran out n couldnt get anymore cuz of the holiday. i started taking it again 9 days ago so i was off the pill for about a week or so.. i've been on it for about 9 since the week gap. i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend today.. what are the risks of me being pregnant its been heavy on my mind.
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no you still had the homones in you but to ease your mind take and home test to be sure and if so then make an appointment for your obgyn.
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i was unresponsible and had unprotected sex. when should i take a pregnancy test? i know 5 days before your missed period but i don't really understand because i don't know if i'm like going to miss it for sure. i'm almost positive i'm not, i just want to be totally sure.
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If you know you had have unprotected sex and you miss your period you think you are pregant, take the test, then make an obgyn appointment as soo as possible.
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i was supposed to get my period a week ago. i have been spotting for the past 3 days and then it all just stopped. i was wondering if it is possible that im pregnant.
if you are sexual active and had sxe unprotected in the last week before your cycle was suppose have can down and it didn't then there are an chance you can be pregant or your homones are changine make an appointment to see your obgyn and see okay,
hope this help and happy new year
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Hello, I missed my period for last month and I don't know why. I have a steady boyfriend but we haven't had sex, he has fingered me though, only once this month,and that was after I was already late. But when we do those things I always go first and then I do him second, with my pants on and wash my hands.
I'm responsible for my actions and the dangers. I just don't understand, it does not seem possible, it seems more possible that I got pregnant from a toilet seat than my own boyfriend.
I had messed up my month of birth control, so I only took like a weeks worth. Could that have done something to my cycle? I am also stressed with school.
Is there any other reasons I could have missed my period?
Happy New Year., yes stress can change your cycle and bith control pill can change you cycle expecially when not taking them regularly also your homones can change your cycle , but to calm your nerves schedule an appointment to see your ob gyn and she/he might change your bithcontrols to some that can bring your cycle down in ady or week, i hope this help.
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my boyfriend used to finger me for how many times, ang im wondering if im still virgin? am i?
Happy New Year,
will yes you are still an virgin unless you have actual sex with him., if you go to the doctor for an regular check up and he ask are you sexual active you can tell him / her yes but not physical but becareful when doing finger sex because if his hands not clean before you to start you can get an bacterial infections ok.
hope this help.
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i cant belive im actualyy saying this but i cant give a hand job if its not hard i just start laughing, im ok with blowjobs well if hes alrady hard but i dont no the best way to do it without laughing? how can i do it? i just dont like the flobbyness lol
okay take an deep breathe just think of and ice cream bar or something with an stick on it relax and star with an hand job to get him hard be sure to use some favorable lub. once he is hard then do slow motion with your mouth and all you should taste is the favor lub and hes aleady hard so there should be no flobberness
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I've had sex with my boyfriend and i love him more than anything but i don't like the thought of giving him oral. I have gave oral to another guy before i started going out with my recent boyfriend so he never really lets me live that one down. Now i'm kind of easing up and would want to give him a bj but if he cums does that not mean we can't have sex? like i wouldn't want to give him one and it be done with. When i done oral for the first time the guy warned me when he was going to sum so he didn't do it in my mouth which i was so relieved about. Also if i have my mouth down there and then we have sex i don't think he'd want to kiss me which is also kind of offputting. Is there a happy/medium anywhere lol
I think my question is alot of questions in itself so answers to any would be grateful.
if you are uncomfrontable then don't do it and as far as him cumming doing bj or hj get him back on hard and have fun,.
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Can you get pregnant on your period?
YES any time of the months you can get pregnant
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A few monthes ago me and my ex had sex. It was both of our first time and it only happened once. (I wasn't sleeping with him to get him back or anything). The whole thing just kind of happened, but I felt good about it.
A few nights ago I was talking to him and he said sleeping with me meant nothing to him and I got really depressed about it, and started regretting the whole thing.
How can I make myself feel better about this whole thing?
okay i don't know how old you are but you sound like you are still an teenager, i have 2 girls that's into there teen years and i tells them to tell me when they are ready to be grown so we can make the right decisions, but in your case you made that decision already, the best thing i can tell you is don't sweat it what happen ,happen love yourself no matter what and
when you find the next person you will remeber what happen to keep it from happening again and the person you choose will be special to you as you will be special to him.
hope you be alright
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what's the best way of going about giving a guy a hand job while making out?? Also any tips?
the first thing is you need to decide on which on hand or oral, giving and hand job is total differnt the an oral job, 1) hand job- getting the mood started kissing and grinning ask you two are kissing each other depending on position if you are on top give him an little ride i am sure that will make him hard as hell.2) oral sex- after you two are finish kissing each other get you some flavorable lub.rub his shaft with it nice and slow will kissing his body blow into his
penis hole nice and slow as you are stroking his shaft then insert it into your mouth and go deep
also call(deep throat) and stroke his penis as you doing that,then go slow doing an circlur motion on his penis with your hand and mouth it should start feeling really thick and big then stroke his balls once you start feeling his veins MOVE jump on and finish the last touches.
enjoy the ride.
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