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Q: i know this question is asked all the time but.
how do you make out?
like.. if he has hi tounge in your mouth what do you with yours?!

well while your kissing your tounge kind of go together and caress.

Q: i asked my bf for sex and he said no and so now im pissed off and im not talking to him.

is that a whoreish thing to do??

no its not whorish. but you shouldnt be mad at your boyfriend. he probably just isnt ready. but when he is.. it will be special. dont make him rush into something that hes not ready for, it might ruin the relationship

Q: do u have to use lube when giving a handjob?
if so,what should i use?
but is there anyway to do it without it?

ask the guys opinion.
lube would make it go more smoothly. and it wont be as dry. but you can do it with out.

Q: Whats the difference between cum, ejaculation, and masturbation??? and which do girls and guys do??

I know this is kinda weird but im just wonderin.

Thanks

cum is a mixture of sperm cells and different fluids. when a male ejaculates, cum comes out of his penis. its also maturbation.

guys-all
girls- masturbate.

Q: i know this may sound disturbing but my bf said that i gave him a boner and next time i should something about it..what does he mean and how? lol

it means that he is reallly turned on and that his penis is erected. you can do many things about it. you could give him a handjob, or blowjob, or sex. theres many things.

Q: 15/f
me and my bf have been goin out for 5months and 1week. and he lives 30 mins away so i only see him on the weekends for a day or 2. and last week i told him i loved him and he didnt say it back. that night on aim he explained he wasnt ready to say it. we have been to 3rd base and we go to 3rd base everytime i see him like twice everytime i see him. and everytime we do that i really just wanna do "it" but i know im to young and were both not ready but i dont know how to fight these urges. and i dont kno if i should tell my boyfriend that i've been wanting to or not. i just dont know how to handle this and get these urges away and if i should tell him about these "urges"....any suggestions....THANK YOU!

i dont think you should tell him.. cuz if he knew, hed probably make you or guilt or even trick you into doing it. i think that you should try maybe pleasuring yourself more often to fight the urges. hope i helpedd =]

Q: Im kind of shy so im not all that loud during sex and until recently it hasnt been a problem but the guy ive been seeing kind of thinks i dont like him or like having sex with him so since im not going to be loud or anything like that considering his roommate and my friend are on the bunk above us usually how can i show him or whateve that i do like having sex with him?

maybe while having sex, tell him it feels good and you like it. that way your not loud, and he knows.

Q: i guess i was just curious for a girl if having sex without a condom feels better than having sex with a condom? like having a guy cum inside you i guess? i'm not planning on having sex without a condom it's just a question, so please do not lecture me on using condoms, kthanks.

well of course it feels better having no condom cuz theres not as much friction or anything. but they both feel good.

Q: so my firend said that guys like asain girls, i asked why and she said its cuz their "tighter" im guessing tighter down there. Is that true? and do guys really care about that all that much?

many guys are different. it depends on what they are into. many guys do like asians but others dont.
and also, so guys like it when a girl is tighter, but some guys doent. it depends on the guy.

Q: Ok, im 16/f and a virgin. I really want a guy's opinion on this, but girls, if you know, you can answer to. Does it make a difference to guys if a girl is a virgin or not? Do you guys find it appealing, sexy, unusual, gross or what? Is it true that some guys sleep with virgins just becuase the want to devirginize them? Also, what is your opinion of phone/ internet sex? Thanks!

i think that most guys dont really care, but every guy is differnt. as for internet/phone sex, i personaly like it sometimes. it just makes you kind of horny. doesnt really do anything. hope i helped =]

Q: i'm 18 years old.

if your ready.. then go for it. if you need time.. just wait alittle.
if your not sure.. id wait for a little.

hope i helped =]

Q: 15\f

my friend told me that having sex isn't even that pleasurable! It was her first time though...
I was just wondering; is she right? the first time doesn't even feel good? and when does it start feeling good?

thanks

well for me, it hurt at first, but it got better. just take it slow.

Q: hi. i am 13, and i know this kid. hes lives in the next town, but him and his friends are really good friends with the boys in my group of friends. anyways, hes been telling me he wants to do stuff with me. i thought originally he ment like making out and stuff, but he recently told me he wants a handy. do you think i am too young? i need answers faast because we are hanging out tonight and i think it might happen. also, how do you give a handy?

well age is different for everyone. you will know when your ready. but dont do it, you dont really know this guy.

Q: do you think it's too fast to be past second base after 3rd week of going out?

i honestly think its a little whorish. i dont mean to be rude tho. and like if people find out about it your rep might be dead.

how old are you?

Q: I want to get a thong but my mom disaproves. how can i get one and not have her find out?
thanks---

well you can go to the mall with your friends and buy them and put them in your purse. when they need to be washed, when shes out hand wash them or do your own landary.

hope i helped =]

Q: Im 16/f and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. We have sex, but hes at college, so we're not doing it as much. But I still wanna get on birthcontrol, but I have no idea how to tell my mom. She asked me before, but I said no. Now I dont want you guys thinking im a whore, bc Im not. We were dating 5 months before we even TOUCHED each other, no lie!. So can you please tell me about how you told your moms, and what they did/said? Please and thank you!!!

PLEASE only girls that have asked their parents for birth controll, I dont care how your sister/friend did. I want to know YOU. If you say "well my sister did.." Ill rate you LOW.

When i wanted it i go up to my mother and just sit her down and told her how we wanted to have sex and that we wanted to be safe. and she was upset up she was poud how i went to her. so maybe hell understand. expecally if she asked you about it already.

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