I'm a simple girl, I don't need a lot to please me. I love giving advice and the greatest pleasure for me is knowing that I have helped people out. I am often misunderstood and judged to quickly because of my age. But I have been through enough in my lifetime to understand and identify with many of the people who come to me with problems. I am willing to do whatever I can in order to help you all out, so anything you need, just ask :) I answer all questions honestly... no matter how much the truth hurts.
E-mail: xkelseyx12@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Age: 15
Member Since: June 6, 2008
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Last Update: June 19, 2008
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Couple of years back me and Anjy were best friends. We never fought in our five years of friendship and shared everything with each other. Then I changed school. Now things are different. We dont talk over the phone or im. We occasionally say a hi on facebook but that's about it. She got a bf after a difficult love life and got thru the best college and she did not even tell me. Now i go through her wall and see that she's been calling me a slut and stuff with my ex. Both of them are makin fun of me...I feel sad about the fact that she can do something like this.. I just wanna know how to get over her. (link)
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first of all you should really talk to her about what happened between the two of you, maybe you two can work things out and become friends again. but if she is mean about it and blames you the best thing for you to do is not let her know that she is bothering you. play it off like you dont need her, no matter how much you do. hang out with friends form your new school and sooner or later she will just seem like a distant past. but if you let her know that she really hurt you, she may continue calling you names and what not just to get a rise out of you. if she is not uup for fixing things, then just move on. if you get on with your life, she will see that you dont care whther or not she talks good or bad about you. and she will move on with her life too.
Good luck :)
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Well my ex - boyfriend like broke up with me a few months ago and his friend told me tht he hated me and i didnt do anything to him and i dont believe his friend . uhm well i think i may be starting to like him again but i dont know if i should like talk to him becuz it'll be pretty weird so i dont know wht to do but i really wanna be friends with him . (link)
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i unfortunatly dont really beleive in exes as friends.. in my experiance, it had NEVER worked out well. but you shoudl definatly talk to your ex about him hating you... because you dont want things to be awkward between the two of you. its okay to be friendly with one another... but for me getting back with my ex was never really a good thing, we just ended up hurting eachtoher more. I hope that things work out batter for you. But thinkk long and hard about it before you decide to still have feelings for him
Good luck :)
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I have moved once more. It is nothing but a pain though. I have moved quite far from my friends and I feel very lonely, and thanks to the school year ending, I have no friends here. I would walk around my neighborhood but I am afraid that I might get hurt since this is a new town and a new place. What should I do?
PS: My b-day is in like 4 days, I might still be able to hang with some friends then though. Key word: might. (link)
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I have moved around a lot, and i have actually learned to like it. You get a fresh new start and leave the old you behind. you can be any one you want to be, and no one would no the difference. a good way to meet people is to get a job.. and if you are not old enough for that, try going to places around your time where kids would be. Try the YMCA [or a local gym] you can also go to the park or something. Just make the most of it, and no matter what- dont sit in your house and wish you were somewhere else. this is going to do nothing but depress you. you have to look on the bright side of things, for all you know- this new town could be a great fit for you!
Good luck :)
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well, my bestfriend who is middle eastern hates where she is from 16yrs and says she dosent wanna date any guy from afgan, but she tells me (16 &asian) right now she only is attracted to asian guys maybe cause, r we hang w/h them too much.the problem is, she says no asians will ever fall for me! and im gonna b single 4 ever! i told her some asians are open to different race,and some asian guy will like her, what do u think?/ any asian guys out there willing to date out side their race? esp middle eastern? (link)
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race should not matter in a relationship. whether yout middle eastern, asian, white, philipino, hispanic whatever! it should not matter. however there still are some terrible people in the world that are rascist toward other races and wont date outside their race. as long as she is fallng for the good people and have good hearts... she shouldn't have a problem with dating people from other races.
Hope everything works out for your friend :)
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im having a party and my friend just found out that one of our friends( a girl)like her and i told her that for my party she can infite someone at first it was her boyfriend but than when she found out that our friend likes her she said she wanted to infite her becuz she dont wanna hurt her fellings, shouldnt she infite her boyfriend insted (link)
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if she doesnt return the feeling for this girl, she definatly shouldn't lead her on. and if she doesnt have feelings but invites her anyways... chances are her boyfriend may be upset. and she doesnt want to ruin things with her boyfriend does she? if she really doesnt have feelings for this girl... then maybe you should let her invite both... and the girl can see that she is happy with her boyfriend.
Good luck :)
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Okay, Lee my best guy friend is a Soc Jock. What me and best friend Ashley call the kids that play soccer in my Highschool. Well my school plays In and Out doors soccer all year round, and are wicked competitive to our rivals The Chiefs... and theres so many kids that would KILL to be on the soccer team that theres rules to being on. No Smoking, and No drinking and the biggest ones tho that could get you kicked you off immediatly. Well in November was our start of Indoor soccer which Lee is on because he's amazing at soccer and they won there first game. So him and a bunch of Soc Jocks celebrated. Now I dont know the whole story because I was not there... this is what I heard from a crying Lee which you will understand later. After getting completly drunk and they smoked some Hash i think, he got in his car [alone] thank god and got into a car accident. Well he walked away from it, and his Father completely covered it up and baught him a BRAND NEW CAR! Well, Lee came to me a few weeks after and told me the whole story like hysteric because he was afraid someone knew his secrete and he would be kicked off the soccer team [[who garentees like 10 kids a whole year paid of Coledge which is crazyy]] Well for the past couple months now I have babyset him every Friday night... and 2 Friday nights ago i went over my friends Ashleys house whos parents were thank god on a second honeymoon. Well Lee... he's an alcoholic. His drinkings gotten worse and more frequent and he puked in an areopostale bag like nine times threw it up in the air aiming for the trees and it landed on his head... so i washed him ofcaose. Well then last friday he calls me around 10 saying he needs a ride.. and soon after I realise he wasnst drunk but wanted to talk to me. Well he told me a lot of stuf that I wasnt ready to hear and I left. It started raining and I was freeezing! Well Lee finds me on park bench and tells me my Dad has had a heart attack and im saposed to go to the hostpital. My doctor lectures my Dad, I lecture him to and Lee hears this...
I told my Principal Monday this. And the same day Lee Ralph and Ben the star players were kicked off the team. When I left the office Lee was at his locker and like I had I screwed you over written on my forehead he knew i told on him.. Mr. Broody said I was a loyal friend only doing what i thought was best because I didnt want Lee hurt or dead but I dont feel loyal. He hates me, I messed his whole future up he was depending on that scholarship... Ashley told he it wasnt my fault hes a drunk but no one would know. It is my fault. Lee wont get in a good coledge, or anything. Everyone knows Im the rat. and I dont care what a bunch of little highschool kids think about me or the soccer team. I care about Lee... and he hasnt talked to me. And Im afraid Friday he'll get drunk and wont call... and die. And It will be my fault he's in some ditch. I thought I was doing the right thing, but I didnt. I know his parents wont ground him.. they'll cry there all star is off the team and probably buy him something huge and expensive. He might get in a car accident and it'll be all my fault. (link)
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you did do the right thing! and i am very proud of you for that because honestly i dont know if i would have been able too. what you need to tell Lee is the real reason you told on him, i was a little confused throughout the hold thing... but is the reason you told on Lee because your dad had a heart attack and you didnt want the same to happen to Lee? well if that is the case, thats a really good reason. Lee may not want to hear it at first... but keep telling him. if he doesnt answer your calls, keep calling. leave hundreds of messages. it may seem a little stalkerish, but eventaully he will get sick of anooying your calls and call you back. of this doesnt work you can start rwriting him nots or waiting for him at his locker. even if he does think your a stalker, he will still be able to hear you tell him that you really just dont wanna see him get hurt.
Good luck with him :) and remember you really did do the right thing!
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Okay, I am friends with this amazing guy.He is everything a girl could wish for.I like him and he likes me, but we have never dated before.We both want to date each other, but he always has a girlfriend.He tells me he loves me but sometimes I think he is bluffing! I don't know if I should keep waiting for that day or just get over him. (link)
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If he really loves you... he would have asked you out a long time ago. however, he could just be scared to ask you out becuase you are his friend and he doesnt want to ruin anything. you should definatly talk to him... and ask him what is going on between the two of you. ask him if he thinks there could ever be a future for the two of you. if he replys anything other than of course I have been waiting for you to ask me this forever... then you should probably just try to move on. You shouldnt have to wait around forever. I am really hopeing that he wants something with you though... then you should definatly go for it. Unless he has a girlfriend... then it is not cool for you to date him! That is drama that you don't need.
Good luck :)
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i'm a 16 year old girl..
my friend, who's also a girl and 17..well, she does the weirdest things that bother me. she calls me her best friend. let's just say that maybe she is.
well okay. this friend texts me about 10 times a day and tells me to "call her please?" okay, i call her. she spends 25 or so minutes rambling on about her problems, without giving me pauses in between so i could tell her about ME, and then, at the end she says "thanks for listening. bye"
i don't get it. i feel like she uses me.
another reason why i think she uses me is when i try and help her. i know it's hard on her..but her family's not too well off. they're having problems within and stuff. and well..i print stuff out for her and she kinda never thanks me. i insisted that i could help her out..and so now she acts as if its my obligation to print her stuff out and help her with homework AND listen to her problems.
also..i let her use my membership for the gym (my mom's) and she calls me and texts me sending me angry messages on when we could go already..acting as if its my responsibility to give her MY MOM's membership after I LET her borrow it for some days!
I mean, I understand she's older. But when things get to a certain point..they have to stop! Pretty soon, she might like start asking me for money or something. I don't know how to approach this situation. She thinks its my obligation to go to the gym with her when really its not. I'm just too weak to tell her. Am I exaggerating things? Cause I feel like she's using me. (link)
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It definatly seems like she is using you.. and you really need to talk to her about. just tell her, as nicely as possible, that you really want to help her out but the friendship needs to be two-sided. explaint to her that you really need someone to listen to your problems too. as for the gym membership and the printing out things for her, if her family is not well off you may be the first one to want to help her out. she probably just got a little carried away with her joy that she had someone that cared about her enough to help her. just tell her that it is not your responsibility to help her, yes you will when you can, but she cant get angry at you when you can't. it sounds like she is going through a really hard time so be supportive but let her know that you are not going to let her use you.
Good luck with it :)
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OK so herez the deal.
best friend+boyfriend= us over with
i like the guy, i've known him forever but i h8 them together. theve been together for about 6 months now and he has changed the hell out of her. she is a completely dif person. looks AND actions. she says she still wants to be friend and all that but she acts like she doesnt give a shit n e way. as long as she has him. things have been going completely down hill for me since it started happening including all my friendships, family, just about everything except for my boyfriend who i love with my whole heart.
i understand she thinks she loves him but what am i suppos2 do when she dumps everything else to change for him. i've tryed talking to her, i've tryed giving up, n e thing i do never works. i gave up for a while and then she got mad cz i gave up. i hold on and nothing effin changed. i dont no how to handle it n e more...i need help... (link)
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wow this is a crazy question because i have just recently gone through the same exact thing. like you my best friend started dating this guy I knew and she changed a lot. I know it seems like she is abandoning you right now, but she will come around eventually. even if she is spending all her time with her boyfriend right now and changing a lot, eventually she will realize that she still needs her best fried, you! just give her, her space right now and wait till she come to you. and when she does, just tell her that as much as her boyfriend needs her, you need her too. tell her that you respect her relationship but you still want her to make time for you. just try your best to be understanding and just explain to her that you still need her.
I hope this helps you, is you need anything else just let me know :)
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Hey guys. I'll be turning 16 on the 29th and I was planning on having a party with about 17 or 18 people, both boys and girls (5 guys, 12 girls or something like that). I don't live in a neighborhood, my house is pretty secluded, and I don't have a pool. So I was wondering if anyone had some good ideas as to what we could do. We can always watch a movie, but I feel like that might be too boring to do the entire time. Thanks to any suggestions! (link)
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okay both these ideas may seem a little lame.. but i have attended both kinds of parties and we all had so much fun :)
... a murder mystery party. this can be done at home.. you can go the folllowing website and it plans the whole thing for you and sends it to you via FEDEX.. it is about $8-10 per person, but like i said. it was a lot of fun and totally worth it!
www.host-a-murder.com
... also if you dont want to have it at your house. i went to a laser tag party. it may seem kinda immature for a sixteenth birthday party, but i promise if you are there with friends it doesnt matter how old you are.. it is so much fun!
hope this helps.. if you don't like either of these ideas, try googling teen party ideas.
:)
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I know this guy who I have been friends with for almost a year. I heard he liked me but I kinda laught at the fact he liked me. Now I feel bad for laughing at him and actually start to like him. I don't know if he still likes me but how do I get him to like me again without feeling like an idiot? (link)
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Well life certainly would be easier if you could make people like you, but unforunatly thats not exactly the way it works. Although you can't force someone into liking you, you can certainly let them know you are interested. Let him know that you are starting to like him... and see where it goes from there.
Good luck :)
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Well my name and Jenny and me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 2 years now, and we are perfect. We take long walks, we lay on the beach, we laugh together. We're totally young and in love. We're both 15 by the way. Well, me and my boyfriend have been best friends with a boy since 6th grade. Me and my best friend have always been like brother and sister. And since he's my best friend and everything we talk about alot of stuff and help eachother through problems. He admitted to me that he likes me, and that he's tried to stop but he cant control it. He says when he sees me and my boyfriend together he gets sad, he said he feels like my boyfriend is the luckiest boy in the world. I told him that he already knows i'm in love with my boyfriend and i will always see him as my best friend, nothing more. He knows that. My best friend said he was never sure about his feelings for me before, but now he realizes that he likes me...alot. May even love me. He describes me as his perfect girl. This was a shock to me because we have always had a brother and sister relationship and i couldnt believe he felt this way. Now i dont know whether i should stop talking to him, so he'll get over me. Because he has to get over me or else he's just gonna be hurting all the time seeing how in love me and my boyfriend are. Or should i keep talking to him, because we feel that if we stop talking, it'll ruin our friendship. None of us want that to happen. He really is a true friend and is always there for me. I dont know what to do...he cant just shut me out of his life because he said its too hard. And its too hard for me as well. (link)
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well i think that most teenage girld will agree that we've all been in a similar situation. He is probably admitting it to you now because he is seeing you in a different light because of your boyfriend. It may seem easiest to stop talking to him, but that will most likely be counter productive. He will just think about you more if you don't talk to him all the time. The best thing for you to do is clearly tell him that you love your boyfriend and then help him find a girl for himself. Also, be careful how you act around him. My best friend is a guy, and i know that with me and him, we are very close. Many poeple mistake us for a couple because body language and everything, so when you are around him try to back off a little. You don't want him to get any wrong ideas.
Good luck and I hope all goes well for you
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pss. he is probably just now realizing that he likes you, so that is why it is so hard for him. Especially if this is your first really serious boyfriend, he probably didnt know it before but now that he can;t have you... he really wants you! Lets face it, boys are absolutely clue less. and many times they dont see how wonderful us girls are until they cant have you anymore. He most likely tried to keep it from you at first because he cared so much that he didnt want to ruin your relationship... but afetr two years it's probably killing him to not have you. No matter how hard it is for the both of you, he most likely felt like you just had to know.
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