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Hey, I'm Brianna. I'm 18 years old. I like giving advice. I won't give you any of that petty advice like "look at the bright side." I mean really, that's wack. I hate when people tell me that. I'm here to try and help you with any of your problems. I'll give you honest advice that hopefully will get you on the path that leads to the right decision. I'm not going to sugarcoat anything. I'm going to give you straight advice. It might not be what you want to hear, but that's advice. Take it or leave it, it's totally up to you. I sign on everyday, usually a few times. So come on, drop questions into my inbox! I try my best to always get back to you within a few hours. Don't be shy, everyone needs a point in the right direction every once in awhile. :D
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ok, i/m turning 14 in like a few weeks.. and my mom wont let me go out w/ this guy i like alot... i liked him 4 like 4 months n now he stared to like ask me to go to the mall n stuff.... n then when i asked my mom she said yes.. and then me and my best friend n i got in a fight... n when me n my bff went to the mall w. a bunch of pple.. shes like.. u'r gunna get raped.. n i didnt get touched!!(only followed) but then shes like.. i would rather you and anthony go together.. i trust her more then maddy (my best friend) soo yesterday he asked me to go bowling w/ him.. n i asked today.. n shes like.."sure you can, but i need to talk to his dad so i know that he's going too..." ITS SO EMBARISING!!! PLeaSe help..
First of all, your mom is right. She does need to talk to his dad. Why? Because you are only 13, going on 14. There is nothing wrong with your mom wanting to talk to your friends dad to see what is going on. They need to discuss who is picking up, who is dropping off, what time, etc. I'm not sure where the embarassment is, because she is only concerned about your safety. I'm sure that your friends dad wants to talk to your mom about what is going on as well. There isn't really anything you can do considering you are a minor and she isn't doing anything wrong. You should be happy that she is letting you go.
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
I've got this guy I know at work and he seems really depressed at the moment and I'm scared that he'll hurt himself. I want to help but I don't know what to do. I'm 16f he's about 18/19
You should talk to him, ask him how he is. Just strike up a converstaion first and see if you get anything out of it. If you continue noticing that he seems depressed, ask if something is bothering him and see if he wants to talk about anything. He might not be depressed and just something is bothering him. If you know any of his friends, tell them you think something is bothering him or if you know is parents/family let them know you think something is bothering him. There really isn't much else you can do since you don't know if he is depressed or not. 18/19 years old is a stressful age so he may just be stressed out about college.
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
hi
my fried has not been eating anything for lunch for the past month and says she is just on a diet. she says she does not have breakfast either. i am worried she has an eating disorder. she says she is fine and is just losing weight but she usually eats like a horse. when i ask her about it she either replies with what i have put above or she just bites a mouthful of her sandwich then chucks the rest of her lunch in the bin. how do i get her eating again without damaging our friendship?
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beth
aged:12
You need to tell your friend that you are really worried about her eating habits. You need to tell her that its very unhealthy for her to not eat and that she could become sick. There is no reason for a 12 year old (however old your friend may be, I'm guessing she is the same age as you) to be on a diet. You also need to get someone older involved. Tell a trusted adult that you are worried about your friend. That she hasn't been eating properly and that you think she might have or might end up getting an eating disorder.
She might get mad at you for telling an adult, but you need to tell someone. You can't do this alone. In the end your friend will thank you. She will thank you for caring about her. For helping her with this problem that she has.
You're a great friend for wanting to help your friend. She is very lucky to have someone like you caring about her.
If you need anymore help with this or anything else, you can inbox me anytime.
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
so my best friend and brother just started dating. i hate that so much! i cant be a bad friend to her though and say how i really feel about them. i just dont want to lose her because everytime we are together she is texting him and they are in the same house and she wants to go to his room to be with him when we are supposed to be having "best friend time" however everytime they are together she never texts me or even splits her time between us. she promised me he would never ever take her away from me but i feel like he already is..what should i do?
You would not be a bad friend by telling her how you are feeling with the fact that she is dating your brother. If she really is your best friend she would listen to what you have to say. You are allowed to tell your best friend how you are feeling. Thats what they are there for. They are there for you to confide in, to tell them how you feel, if you are happy, sad, or mad. You should tell her that it upsets you when she comes over to hang out and then goes and hangs out with your brother and that she texts him 24/7 when you two are supposed to be hanging out.
Don't be afraid to tell her how you are feeling. She should understand if you are her best friend. If this was the other way around, if you were dating her brother and you ignored her when you two were hanging out, how would that make her feel? You should ask her that.
I know I wouldn't be happy if my best friend was dating my brother. I would despise it to be honest. You are a great friend for letting her be with your brother even though it kills you on the inside because you feel like you are losing your best friend.
Talk to your best friend. Tell her how you feel. You'll feel better in the end. Good luck!
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
This problem with my friends is not resolving and it's just getting bigger. your advice was really good and i thank you a lot. Now its getting worse though and just recently a few days ago i was talking to one of my friends. I dont know why she was doing this. I was trying to help her in math class and i guess she got mad at me and she was giving me an attitude. I hated that, yet i was trying to help her. we got our averages and she has a b+ (we are all like the people who have to get high grades) so i was like "its ok and there will be more grades and i can help her" and i had an A in the class. Maybe she was mad at me because of that. Well, so she was giving me an attitude with that face. And i was so mad i yelled at her in class, i was so embarrassed. ALso she wouldn't even had a b+ without me because half the reason was from homework and she copied my homework EVERY TIME. What does she think i am? And she didnt talk to me after that even when i tried to say something. I was trying to be nice and she started to completly ignore me like ur not there im serious, i was so mad and she was acting all nice and smiley to the other people. That just made me so mad and i didnt know wat to do.I need help! You gave good advice last time and i need help with this again.
When you were helping her in math class and she got mad at you it might of been because she doesn't understand what is going on and is jealous that you know what you are doing.
You were doing the right thing by helping her after she was being so rude to you. There is a good chance that she got mad at you because you ended up getting an A while she got a B+. She might not want you to know that she is not understanding what is going on in math and there is no reason for her to take it out on you.
Even though you were embarassed you did the right thing by yelling at her. It showed her that you weren't taking her crap anymore. She should be thanking you for helping her in math. You got her that B+ and now she is treating you like you are some type of disease. You don't deserve that. You deserve to be treated with the respect that you are treating her.
Maybe she is just using you to get good grades in the class. She knows that you'll help her out and that's why she was talking to you.
I'm guessing that the reason she didn't talk to you after that is because she wasn't expecting you to yell at her, to stand up for yourself. She didn't think that you had it in yourself to stand up for yourself.
I believe that the reason she is acting all nice to other people and smiling at them is to spite you. She wants you to get angry and wonder what you did to ruin your friendship. She wants you to feel like it was all your fault.
Try and sit down with her and talk to her. Tell her that what she is doing is really upsetting you and you don't want to lose your friendship. Ask her if you did anything to make her act this way. I'd try and do it face-to-face because then you'll get a better answer out of her rather than through texting or talking on the phone. If you still don't get an answer out of her or she still ends up treating you like you are nobody, ignore her. Ignore all your other friends that are being ignorant to you. Now, I'm not saying be a complete and total b*tch to them. Just ignore them and hopefully they'll come around. If they are your true friends they will come back to you. Show them that they aren't hurting you. Even though they are making you mad and hurting your feelings. Try to not let that show. And hopefully they'll start to realize that it's not hurting you and they'll give up. I know that the school year is coming to an end and you don't want to start off the summer with no friends, that's never fun. Trust me, I know exactly how that feels. It hurts a lot. But you still have time to talk to more people and start becoming friends.
Girls are vicious creatures. They like to ruin peoples lives. Most girls have nothing better to do with their pathetic no-good lives that they feel the need to make other peoples lives just as miserable as their own. They think that they are God's gift to earth, the best thing to have ever walked the face of the earth, but they really aren't.
You need to find strength in the struggle. When you're broken in a million little pieces and you are trying but you can't seem to hold on anymore, and every tear falls down for a reason. Don't stop believing in yourself.
I'm here if you need anymore advice. You can always ask me. :)
Hope I helped and good luck
xoxo,
Brianna
I dont know why but i think i may be losing my friendships with my friends. A lot of my friends aren't talking to me anymore and when i try to talk, they ignore me. This never happened before and i dont know why or how this started. It started a few months ago in my freshman year at high school and just keeps increasing with more friends as time goes on. Many of the friends i had before are now just acting different around me. They seem to dislike me and keep distance with me. If i try to talk, they just say nothing. I dont know what to do and im scared about this situation. They used to text me, talk all the time, and we used to hang out and now its stopped. Whenever i try to hang out with them, they are always with the other people there and if i try to talk they just answer and get back to the other kids. I feel really depressed and i dont know why this is happening. They act like they dont like me when i'm around and even ignore me. They act like i'm invisible or as if i'm not there. I need advice on this and want to get back to how everything was before. I dont know what is wrong with me, or why they are like how they are. I really want to fix this so please give any advice you have.
If they are acting like this then obviously they aren't friends. I have had this happen to me and I got fed up with being treated like I was a fly on the wall.
Get rid of them. Make new friends. You don't need people who are making you feel like you are a waste of time. Maybe you did something wrong but maybe you didn't.
The best you can do is just ask them if you did something wrong and then apologize but if you did nothing to them,, then just forget all about them. You are a freshman in high school. You are going to lose a lot of your so-called friends. Get out there and make new ones. By the time you graduate from high school and move onto college you probably won't talk to half of the people you do now. You will make tons of new people in college if thats the route you take. Don't let these so-called "friends" bring you down.
Chances are there is nothing wrong with you. They are just not worth your time. Just stop trying to talk to them, stop texting them, stop everything. If they are your true friends they'll come back to you. If not then obviously they weren't your friends to begin with.
It will be hard. You don't want to go through school without friends but you'll make new ones. Ones that actually care about you and won't stop talking to you.
Hope I helped and good luck
xoxo,
Brianna