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i have a boyfriend, lets call him [ X ] and my bestfriend is telling me she really likes this other guy, lets call him [ A ]. but everytime i'm hanging out with my bf X and my bestfriend, she's always flirting with him. and i think she might like him, but i dunno how to tell her to just stop w/o hurting her feelings.
anyone have any advice for a nice way to say "stop flirting with my bf!"
please and thank you. (link)
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Don't embarrass her by confronting her in front of everyone. You never know, she might be unconciously flirting with him and in reality, have no feelings for him whatsoever. However, her behaviour is making you uncomfortable, so you need to take her aside and explain to her how the way she's acting is making her feel.
i.e "Ashley, I've been kind of noticing that when X, you, and I all hang out together you start to flrit with him. To be honest with you, it makes me really uncomfortable."
She's your best friend, she should understand.
As someone else already said, telling your feelings to your boyfriend could only help. Chances are he either feels the same way as you, or doesnt even notice, or care, that shes doing this.
Just remember, your boyfriend chose YOU, not your bestfriend :)
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Well my bestfriend moved away from me a long time ago and before she lefted she said we would always befriends and i cryed for 3 hours and she kept going to the same school as me and then i thought yea our friendship we never break in half. so then my bestfriend just stoped coming to school so my mom called her mom do ask what happened so her mom she yea Janice moved to another school. i was so sad i started to cry again . since she moved to another school she have not been calling me all the time sometimes she dont even call me its like she forgot all about me. i asked her a while ago we should go to the movies or hang out or something like that and she was like no i was kind of shocked. now when she calls me she talks about her friends and how they do all this stuff together and how she have all these friends and i feel sad cause i know now that we are not bestfriends any more like me use to and that makes me cry because we was always going to stay bestfriends until the end! now what do you think i really need yall help. (link)
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Stuff like this has happened to me before-- it has happened to everyone. It's hard to keep in contact with a person after they move. They meet new people, their interests change, soon you both have nothing in common. She's moved on and that's the best thing you can do right now. You'll miss her, but you'll have all the great memories together of the time when you were friends. I'm sure you will find the perfect person to be your best friend in no time.
Go and spend more time with your other friends and less time thinking about this.
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Please help me!
Ive been friends with this girl for about 2 years now and all she does is copy me! Im gettin so annoyed because everytime she copies something i do i always have to change just incase people will think im copying her or that we are trying to be twins or something! I really hate her now shes doin my head in, i want to smack her. I know you will probably say 'you should feel flattered' but i DONT! She takes everything away from me!!!
Ive told her i dont like it when she copies me but she still carrys on. PLEASE HELP ME!!!! thanx by the way im 13 and im female (link)
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Tell her exactly how you feel. If you don't tell her to stop, she never will. Explain to her how you are both different people and that you want to be an individual and that she should too. That she needs to develop her own style instead of taking yours. Mayybe you should try and find out exactly why she is doing this, and if it's just simply because she likes your taste, go shopping with her and help her pick out clothes that do not make you twins.
If talking to her directly doesnt work, you can try and talk to your parents about it and see what they have to say or just stop being her friend.
Good luck :)
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I told my "Best friend" that i might be gay only because she said if i told her that nothing would change and that we would still be friends nomatter what but after i told her everythin was cool after the frist 4 day but after she didnt even wanna talk to me i told her that after i tolder she had changed and she said that she hadnt i really want to still be friends with her but i kno we may never be the same now she just dosent say nuthin to me she dosent even sit next to me what can i do to make her just lissen to what i have to say about it???? (link)
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This might be a lot, or even too much, for your friend to handle. She may just need time to be by herself and think about what you said.
If she just never comes around, then just let it be. There is nothing you can do about it if she doesn't accept you the way you are, then you should forget the friendship. I know it's hard to lose a good friend, but you'll be able to make new friends that won't ignore you when they find out that you're gay.
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just died. She was 23. Should I go to the funeral, or will it be too depressing?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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If she was someone 'kinda' close you should really go the the funeral and pay your respects. All funerals are depressing but you should really show your support to the family. If you don't go you're just going to regret it later and feel guilty you didn't attend.
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I have a terrible friend who thinks shes cool and hates me and my friends. She always hangs out with us and then talks about us behind our backs to US! I got into a fight with her(because Im the only one who will stand up for myself) and I hate having people hate me so i appologized and she just forgave me like that! (She said "I forgive you, HUG!") It bothers me and now were back to her using me and my friends and she thinks shes popular. What should I do? (link)
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This person is obviously not your friend, my advice would be to get away from her as fast as you can. Don't talk to her, don't let her use you, don't assoicate with her. She should eventually get the hint. If she is talking bad about you behind your back then she is not a good friend, or even a friend at all. Don't make the problem worse than it is; don't add to the fire. Give her nothing to use against you, so you don't want to tell her off or anything. Just avoid her.
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ok i am going out with this kid, i really like him alot. He likes me to but i also think he like my best friend. The first week we were going out my best friend kissed him but i forgave him because that is how much i like him. But do you think that i should ask him to stop flirting with her or dump me?
please help me :'(
confussed luv (link)
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you should first try talking to him and telling you how you feel about all of this. Let him know your side and let him be aware that you don't like it and this could end your relationship with him. If he really likes you then he will stop this behavior.
if he doesnt...you deserve so much better. You will find other people with all his good qualities minus the flirting.
you should also try talking to your best friend and find out what's going on between the two fo them. if my best friend was going aroudn kissing my boyfriend's i'd be pretty upset.
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