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Hello There!Erm where do I start?Well, my name is Vikki-Kimberly =)Im a good person. I dont bite =)I give people thousands of chances.I like to eat healthy... and... I have advice on practicly anything.I am in acting/signing/dancing groups.Yeah... Im just... easy to talk to. =)

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So Lately I have been feeling so anti-social. Its Just come to a point were I really dont wanna be bothered at all!! I love my friends but i just wanna get out the "lets party scene. And i also sometimes feel as if my friends really dont care. Example: whenever i feel the need to talk to my friends whether its about personal issues or boys or life period their never around. But the minute i dont txt or call like I normally would, im told that I "act funny". Whats'up with that? I just dont know what to do. I really feel that I need to breakaway and do my own thing. Please help cause im so clueless=(

i agree with bliz. i had freinds like this.. they are still frinds today althothe are certain people id teel certain thigns to.

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i had 4 guy bff. but three of them hate me for no reason. and so one of my friends is realy cool hes still my bff. but anyway i love him like a brother we have laughs together like sayin he looks like justin bieber did when he was younger. and when hes hurt i help him. but we fight but then i want him to be my bff again because boys are usually better friend then girls. right. because they dont gossip. so is it true boys are better friends than girls and were we ment to be friends

it depends on the person i like both guys and girls and i find girls tend to be a bit more deeper but guys have that sense of secruity and protection.
however you shouldnt base your frinds over gender. if they want to be your friends they will be your friend regardless of gender =)

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I've known this girl (Kylie) since I was a kid. She's nice and we're pretty close and I would have said we were best friends until a few days ago. The other day we were talking to our other group of friends about being best friends and asking who was their best friend in the group. I know, odd discussion probably. Anyways, Kylie says she use to be bestfriends with this other girl from another school but isn't any more because she went around her school bragging to people that she fingered Kylie when they had sleepovers. Kylie is like, "That's what best friends do though! OMG!" and went on about how the other girl was being cold and cruel and how it totally made her not want to be friends with the girl anymore.

Nobody in the group seemed to be freaked out about it. I know two girls in the group made out before but I never thought about this sort of thing happening because we're ALL straight. Is this normal? For best friends to finger each other? I've never done this...am I weird, missing something, or...? :\

ok ill tell you this me and my best friend (s) have never done this. i can tell you that for a starter.

i have made out with a girl though at aparty. just for the sake of it though we were a bit dunk though.l but hey were all like curious and stuff.

your not doing anything wrongor missing anything its fine. personally id gett a bit freaked if my bestie asked to finger me lol

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I know this older guy and he's hit on me before but he also treats me like as if i'm his little sister or something. At first I thought he was a gentleman (he would walk me back to my place even if it was far away just because he wanted to make sure I was safe) but then it started to get kinda crazy. I live downtown in a big city, and now he wants me not to go out unless I'm with somebody. I understand his worry, but it was noon in bright daylight on one of the busiest streets in the city. He also lectures me if i lie to my parents or anything like that and i kinda get the feeling that he thinks it would be better if i just stayed home and never go out because when I do stay home he tells me that he thinks it's good for me not to go out. He says that he thinks I shouldn't go out unless I'm with a group of friends cuz there will probably be more guys like him (much older) hitting on me other than him, and i understand where he's coming from on that one, and I'm flattered that he cares about my safety but I wish he would relax just a little bit. I don't even know him that well yet even. I do know that he's attracted to me but when we hung out when he was talking it was like a half lecture/half flirt. He was talking about how i should dress younger (i don't dress revealing.. i know when some people say "she dresses older" they immediately think low cut tops) and at the same time will tell me how sexy/pretty he thinks i am and look. Oh and even though he doesn't like me going out, he still does ask me to meet up with him. Anyways how do I get him to realize that for the most part I can take care of myself? He actually worries about me more than my parents do. He chases after me when I wanna do something by without him I kinda have a small crush on him even though that's probably really wrong and I want to continue our friendship (he doesn't know) but today I got a bit mad at him for treating me like I'm 10. W are both 16 and Im not immature either. I think i'm more mature than the kids in my school they don't take education serious, I don't goof off, I make good grades and Im in the top 10 % of my class. I tell him to stop treating me like a baby and he doesnt listen.How do I get him to stop treating me like a kid?

Ok i think this guy maybe made some mistakes whilst younger... or saw some girls he was close to make mistakes he is lecturing about.
If i was you i would talk to him and tell him that your a big girl and you appriciate his advice every now and then but you dont want a baby sitter.
and you seem to be a girl that has got her head screw on right so hell soon see that and gradually learn :)

honestly i think he just wants you to be safe. he obviously cares about you. it might seem annoying but just try and take it n your stride. think of it and a protecting arm around your rather than an arm pushing you from behind

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what are the traits of vulnerable person if they tend to not show it?

they may be submissive or have a submissive nature.
they may be easily lead or gullable.
they may also trust people easily.

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21/f
Sometimes people tell me I am pretty/gorgeous/beautiful and I don't know what I'm expected to say. I just say "Thank you" now but it feels so awkward. I feel like they're just trying to build up my confidence because I am very fat. It kind of insults me because I don't want somebody to lie to me to try to make me feel better. What should I say? How should I get over being upset about it?

hey pretty! =D
i totally feel your pain! definatly accept the compliment =) there meant to make you feel good!
some people may be trying to boost confidence but i can assure you most compliment are genuine =)
hmm im not sure how to not get upset over... but id just accept the compliment and create a new subject maybe or point out something pretty on them.. or say something like "aww thanks im tryin out *something new.. could be make up, diet, excersize, clothes range*
but at the end of the day as long as YOU think your purdy and YOU have confidence in YOURSELF then that al that matters =)

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Ok, 13 / F / UK.
I go to a Private School and i guess i know everyone in my year/grade to have all of them as friends. But i'm soo shy it's untrue! they always talk to eachother but never me unless they want to borrow my mirror or something like that. I never get invited anywhere these days, i can't remeber the last time i was invited to some ones house or into town to shop. I feel left out at school all the time. i try to be myself but they think that 'myself' is weird, well they don't say that but they react in that way. i just want to be Individual. Have my own fashion sense, not copying the other girls fashion sense, but my own individual fashion sense.
Does any one have any ideas of how to get more friends and be invited places?
Suggestion that could help with my shynesS?
Any one have some websites where i can find Groovy Chick outfits/clothes?
Anything will do, please help. x

suggest days out!
So theyll see you outside of school too, then they might want to invite you:)

And for shyness...
SMILE!
it always looks confident!:)
Jus dont change yourself to "fit in"
Good Luck
Vikki

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