Wow. I am EXACTLY the same. It's kind of strange reading that, because I really am in the same position as you.

I'm the same age, and like you, used to have best friends, but somewhere along the way that just went out the window. I, too, have trouble getting close to people because everyone I've been close to has hurt me. I, too, have only had one serious relationship and that guy seriously hurt me. I, too, have no idea how to get close to people.

So, you need to know that you're not the only one like this. You're not alone. There's nothing wrong with you.

Being in the same position as you, I'm still working it out for myself. But I know that you need to stop blaming yourself. Your relationship with your dad has probably contributed to this, as has your relationship with your ex and all the other people you've been close to.

Like I said, I still havn't managed to work this out, but I think you've got to try and be open to the idea of being close and be yourself around people. You've got to try and have faith in people. Believe me, I know it's hard - when everyone you've been close to has hurt you, it's hard to believe that not everybody else will too. But you've got to try and have faith in people, know that not everyone will let you down. But be strong, too. If someone does let you down, don't take it personally and move on. Believe you will find someone who won't.

Find ways to meet new people, be open and yourself with them.

I'd really like it if we could talk in messages about this? Seeing as we both have the same problem, it might help to talk about it. Because believe me, I find it hard to follow my own advice. So if you want to, contact me by asking me a question?

Hope I helped, x

It depends whether he was doing it jokily or not. From reading your question, it sounds like he's just using you for gum and chocolate.
But if he said it jokily, he could have just been, well, joking.
Spend more time with him and see how he acts next time you don't have any gum.
If he does it again, and not in a jokey way, I wouldn't consider him a friend.

It really depends on the person. I know I wouldn't do that to one of my friends, but I know people that do that type of thing.

They are probably just a very tactile, touchy-feely person.

You should give it to her straight away! Tell her you feel a bit of a prat giving it to her so late, but yoy really wanted her to have it.
She'll be really happy, I'm sure.
Hope I Helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+*

Your friend is always trying to outdo you, so she probably is jealous and is most likely insecure.
The best thing to do is to make her feel good about herself. Compliment her on her hair/eyes/figure and if she ever comes up with things, tell her what a great idea it is. In lessons, tell her if you think she's done good work, and congratulate her if she gets a high mark or gets a really good score in a test. She will feel more secure and self-confident, so won't feel the need to prove how good she is to other people.
As for her bitching behind your back and then sucking up, she oviously wants to appear in a good light so is nice to your face. This is another sign that she's insecure so carry on making her feel good. You can't just ignore the bitching though, talk to her in private and tell her that it upsets you when she says mean things about you (say "It upsets me when you say mean things about me", not "I don't like it when you're mean"). If she sucks up to you then tell her that she doesn't need to, you'll still be her friend, but that you don't want her to keep saying mean things about you behind your back. Tell her that if you ever upset her or make her annoyed then she should come and talk to you about it, instead of moaning to other people.
Hope I Helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+*

Let the new people see you being friendly and chatty with people you do know, then talk to them when you're with one of your mates. Don't ask them questions but let them join in and soon you'll be chatting.
I was once in your situation, and trust me, it works.

If your birthday is in the summer then you could have a garden party, set up a marquee where people can dance and play loud music, have a barbeque (with veg kebabs for the veggietarians), you could set up a volleyball/tennis net, have a basketball hoop. In the marquee you could have half of it filled with bean bags and stuff. And on the patio (if you have one) have tables and chairs. People can chat, play sports, dance, eat .... etc.
You could also do a theme, maybe of your fave tv show (big brother is a good one, i have done it and we made our very own diary room with camcorder and put BB eyes around the house), a-list (dress up as a celeb), hawaiian, cavemen (well cool, you can all wear furry skirts and boots!) and tons more.
You could have a disco, ask your mates if they have disco balls and put them on the side/hung from ceiling. You can also get other types of flashing lights and serve people cocktail-style drinks but with no alcohol (or with alcohol if your older). If you do decide to have a disco then its good to let the boys have breakdancing competitions and play limbo!
Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Hey, iva had lots of parties and i always invite people like that.
Invite your crush and give him a bunch of invites to give to his mates.
Invite the friend who gets made fun of, they would just feel really left out if you didnt.
Also, invite the girl you hate, if loadsa people come then you probably wont notic e shes even there

Wow, it might sound strange but reading this has made me feel alot better because that is exactly how i used to feel, i was so depressed but never told anyone my feelings and my mates always said "Oh, your always so happy and smiley" when really i would be feeling depressed and would have so many other thoughts on my mind.
I suppose im still like it a bit, in the fact that i dont tell anyone my feelings, but im not depressed anymore.
By not tellling anyone your feelings, your locking everything away inside you, all those horrible feelings, thoughts and worries are locked away inside you, meaning you are constantly thinking about them. The best thing to do is tell your mates, paents etc. your problems, but i know that you are not gonna do that, and i totally understand why, like i said, i dont tell anyone my feelings either.
Well, advicenators is a great place to start, whenever you have a problem that is making you depressed you can ask about it on here, it will help, because you will be telling people about your worries and fears, and are likely to get an answer that will help you solve them.
But, what I think is the best idea, is to keep a livejournal. Just log on www.livejournal.com to get one. I have one, and some of my friends read it, when i was depressed i would write how i felt in my diary, but i would try to make it sort of funny, but at the same time showing that i was upset and angry. My friends read it and it really helped me get through everything, because I knew that they knew how i really felt.
Once, i even wrote a really deep entry, no funniness in it at all, i know that my friends read it, and it feels good to have let them know how i really feel, my worries and my fears ... etc.
If your friends really respect you then they shouldnt turn against you just because they find out that you are feeling a bit depressed at the moment.
If letting your friends read an online diary seems to scary a thought to you, then still make one, because other members of the puclic who own livejournals will be able to read it, and you may even find someone who feels like you, so you can read their diary and talk about your feelings, you know, sort of get through it together.
When you're with your friends, still be smiley, but try to talk to them about little problems you have, so they can get to know the real you. IBut whatever you do, dont tell them really big problems and go around all sad and grumpy, just because i have told you to friends in on your feelings, walking around all sad will just make you feel sorry for yourself and you will end up being more depressed.
So, start a livejournal and tell your mates some problems, and although it may take some time, you will stop feeling depressed.
Remember, the key to solving this problem is to tell people about how you feel, whether its through writing in a livejournal, using advicenators or telling a freind your fears, it will all help.
Hope i helped, xxx

Following symptons are:

Emotional -
1. hopelessness
2. feeling irritable
3. loss of interest in things you used to be interested in
4. trouble concentrating
5. trouble making simple decisions
6. thoughts of death

Sleep -
1. sleeping too much
2. trouble getting to sleep

Physical -
1. back, neck or shoulder pain
2. headaches
3. no energy to do anything
4. loss of weight
5. putting on weight
6. indigestion
7. stomach aches

She really needs help. I think you need to call child abuse, or the NSPCC child protection helpline (the number for the nspcc one is 0808 800 5000). I also think Hilary should talk to her mum about the fact that she feels ignored and that she's always being yelled at. If she feels too shy to do that then suggest she talks to another relative, and if she doesnt want to do that either, then she could just tell a cousin, who would hopefully pass the message on to Hilary's parents. What AJ and Corey did was molesting Hilary and it will help if you phone the police.
Hope I helped xxx

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