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Hey ya'll. My name is Candace..but most people call me Candy. I live in Dallas..but am going to UCLA in the fall :)! Now..some of the advice I give may seem harsh, but believe me, its just exaclty what most of you need to hear. Oh. And another thing..I am completely open to you guys sending me questions personally, but the stupid ones have to stop. I will no longer answer back to the ones bitching me around! Okay..thank!

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see the thing is i have alot of friends but not one best friend i can do everything with. i want my one friend to be my bff but i dunno how, its really confusing and even tho i have friends i feel so alone.....help please

one best friend = TROUBLE! please do not do this! whats gonna happen is your gonna pick one bff and then your other friends are gonna get jealous and think your ditching them! just stay friends with a bunch of people and do things with all of them and once in a while just invite like one mof them over and have all of them as your bff's! hope i helped!!
~Candace

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well i met my best friend cici this year and we were like unseperatable and we always had the best times together. but there was this girl who doesnt like me and never really did and she was my cicis friend. her name was emily. everytime i went to talk to cici emily would like roll her eyes. and if she was talking to cici at that time and i went up she would leave or say something and interupt. emily was always trying to be best friends with cici and now they are best friends! and cici like whenever we are together she tells me that we should hang out more cause she misses me and its all emilys fault that we never hang out cause she always wants to do sometime with cici. and cici is like tired of her cause she is constently trying to get her attention. what do i do. do i tell cici that i miss her and im tired of emily always trying to take her away or what?

im sorry this is long but i need help i really do.

sounds like you have the right idea, there. you need to tell cici exactly how you feel! (btw..make sure emily isnt around..lol) and if cici is tired of emily..then now is the time to tell her! hope i helped!
~Candace

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this year i have lost alot of friends for things that are confusing me. 1) i lost 2 frinds because of the way i eat (i put ketchup on chick'n) and because they said i talked alot about my family.
2) i lost a friend because her friend walked all over me and she never did anything to stop her/because she keept secrets from me about cutting herself but told everyone else and mad them promise not to tell me even though i was her best friend(at least thats what she said) 3) i lost 2 friends because of something someone else did! they blamed me even though i appologized for what happened. isnt that alot of friends to lose in such a sort period of time? what am i doing that is driving away all my friends? should i change myself? please help!!! ill tell u everything that happened!!

don't change yourself. they are obviously really sucky friends. the kind of friends you want are the kind who are honest, forgiving and dont care how you eat your chicken! my advice is to can these people who you call "friends" and get a new group..that may sound really tough after you've been in this group for so long..but i did it in 8th grade. i had a group of friends (about 6) and there was kinda a leader of the group (nina) and she would cause fights about the stupidist things and i got sick of it so i told her off and none of my so-called "friends" would back me off so i told them to never talk to me again and i left. now i had always been friendly with another group of people but not best friends(like i thought i had been with nina) so i went into that group and they were the funniest, nicest, people EVER! and they are now my best friends because they know exactly how i feel. and i have never been happier!!!!!!!!!! hope i helped!
~Candace

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(14/f)

My friend, Lisa, means a lot to me, & we've been through everything together. Recently, I've been drinking a lot, & my life has been all over the place & whatnot. She called me during one of these "intoxicated spells" & we kind of got in a fight about something or another.

I don't even know how to approach appologizing for what I've done, because I barely know WHAT I did. The hardest part is that she seems to want nothing to do with me any longer.

Should I just let her go, or what should I do? Please help.

dont let her go! is she has been through alot with you..dont ruin that! i can tell you exactly what you did...uh, ya went and got drunk! my advice is to enroll in some kind of program that will help you get over your drinking problem. then go to Lisa and tell her you're sorry for whatever you did (considering you dont know)and just see how it goes from there, kay?
~Candace

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Okay , this girl moved from another part of the town to the part i live in around last year . I was quite popular in school. I became friends with her because i thought she was sweet and friendly. But since last month ( or maybe even before that ,who knows?) she started backstabbing me , but still acted nice and sweet and oh-so-innocent in front of me .I have been busy for some time because of some commitments i have , so i didn't realise this until last week . None of my old friends talk to me as much as before , and now even when i sms my best guy friend , he'll talk about her smsing him at the same time .And it seems as though all of them like her more than they like me , and my best guy friend ( former ? ) he'll say stuff like :" oh , me and her and ___ and ___ and ___ are real close man " Without even including ME ! And if he wants to go somewhere he'll say :"if she goes , i'll go . " It turns out she's been saying stuff behind my back , and now , SHE'S where i used to be , with MY friends , and MY popularity .Even my crush seems to sorta like her , and pay attention to her like how he used to do with me . WHAT SHOULD I DO ?

if those friends you talk about are really your friends then they will believe you when you tell them everything (and you WILL tell them!)if they dont...talk to that little bitch and tell her exactly how you feel. if that doesnt work then give her a taste of her own medicine (:P) start spreading rumors about her (i know, i know it sounds harsh but this is high school ((?)) and only the strong survive!!)
GOOD LUCK!
~Candace

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