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okay well my best friend has been having a lot of family trouble for as long as i can remember so like 3 years when i first met her, she would always be grounded or call me crying for one thing or another one example was one day she went and cleaned the whole house, well when her dad called to say he would be home in a minute to pick us up, he asked if she vacumed and she said no but she cleaned everything else. tht was it he flipped out on the phone and she was grounded. its reallly hard to believe because from the outside looking in the family looked perfect. perfect grades, house, they were athletic.well this year has really beeen bad for her, she doesnt care what she looks like anymore and has been taking her fustration and anger out on her friends and became a total bitch. we talked about it and i think shes treating everyone better but the other night she was crying and eventually she told me her parents were getting a divorce and a bunch of stuff but now she mentioned that she thinks her dad will move across the country with his brother! her mom would probably stay here but she "hates" her mom. now im upset cause i need her so much probably more than she needs me. shes the advice giver, the party thrower, the date doctor. i dont know how to handle it and also i dont know if shes exadersating the story her boyfriend and i had had our differences but i think were ok now, i kinda want to talk to him so that when she needs the support were both on the same page. hes a guy and guys are idiots/dicks...no offence but whatever. how do i help her through this (dont say just be there cause i know that) and how do i help myself through this if she does move (link)
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You need to totally support all her decisions,know that all friendships have mood swings,have a very positive attitude so it will give her the strength she needs to overcome this such difficult time,and try to understand her so she could understand you.
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My friend LOVES my b/f, literally. She walks up him(while i am around) and pushes me over and says "Hi Zach-y" and flirts with him. I have told her MULTIPLE MULTIPLE times that she needs to stop. Because now like when me and my b/f walk down the halls holding hands she runs up in between us and says "Hey Zach-y why are you and (my name) holding hands? You know that when you and her break up i am tottaly gonna go out with you!(then she blows him a kiss and skips away)"
Now i KNOW that he is not going out with her also.
When she talks to him like calls hime "Zach-y" he looks disgusted then stares at me like "why the F*ck are you friends with her???" he has recently started not sitting with me becuase of her. He has told me that he can't stand her and he tells me to tell her and i do. I am afriad that my friend is jepordizing my relationship(with an AMAZING guy)
WHAT DO I DO? (link)
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You should stay away from this girl,break up your friendship with her,she even let you know that she wants your guy the nerve of that girl,you also need to let this girl know that she better leave him alone or she is going to have to deal with you.
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14/f. I have started talking to this boy G, I've always thought he was cute, but then I started talking to him and his personality is great! I really really like him, I have hinted around about be more than just friends but he laughs like its a joke so do I so I won't look stupid, but my question I want advice on is "How can I tell him I want to be more than just friends?" I am really good friends with his brother if that helps. Thank you guyss and girls haha (link)
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You need to be able to be somewhere with you,him alone so you can be able to talk without any distraction,tell this guy that you are not joking on what you are going to tell him,you would really appreciate it if he takes it seriously,that you been wanting him to notice that you really like him,want to go out with him on a date.Wish you luck!
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My best friend has been really upset lately, and every time i ask what is wrong, she says nothing. but im not stupid, i know when something is wrong. should i just leave her alone, or should i keep asking her what is wrong? i know she wants me to know, she just wont tell me. i know this because she will half bring up that she is upset and then drop it. im pretty sure i know what it is, and i want to help her, but she wont let me. idk, what do u think? thanks, (link)
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Keep insisting until she tells you the truth,tell your friend that she can trust you,that you will help her with whatever it is,and that she can always count on you.
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I'm depressed. I'm 14. School hasnt really been so pleasant for me, friends-wise. It looks like I have a lot of friends because I hang around with a lot of people, but really they dont feel like friends to me anymore. Most of them backstabbed me before and I just forgave but I never forgot so it's like how am I supposed to trust someone who has betrayed me so harshly? Also, people who think they are better and barely talk to me that I use to be best friends with, only because they care about boys and will drop me in a second. Every "best friend" i've lost was either because of a lost of touch, or a huge drama scence. I don't really let people get to me. The reason I lose so many friends is because most of them have changed and expect me to follow them, and I dont. It's hard to make new friends because it's hard to trust people. I'm sick of getting hurt. I'm sick of feeling the way I do. I dont know what to do. I'm not going to change who I am just to become or stay friends with someone. I just wish I had a constant friend. Someone who is always there for me, and doesnt have a change of moods, one day you like me one day you dont. I just want someone genuine! It's probably too much to ask. But I dont know how to meet new people, I'm just not that type of person that confronts random people. I basically dont speak unless spoken to. Not in a mean way or anything, but I dont go out of my way to talk to someone. Im not sure if this is bad, and I would just really appreciate your advice with all these things I'm throwing at you. It's basically a scatter of all my thoughts. Thanks! (link)
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But,that will be easier if you personally go talk to people to meet new people,you can't really trust people these days, of course if you see that the person is not the type spreading rumors about others,telling on others for no reason,is a calm person,not someone who looks for trouble that's someone who will not betray you,someone who always has your back but, if you're not willing to try to talk to people directly then you're gonna have to be very patient,wait until someone nice comes into your life.
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Well my friend asked him if he likes me but he said no. But she says that he does't and i am asking him tomarrow for sure! Thanks sunnyville your a big help to me! (link)
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Anytime you can count on me and your welcome I hope everything goes well!
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but the thing is that tomarrow i am going to ask him if he likes me wish me luck, but what dod i do if he says no (link)
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If he saids no then you act like it doesn't affect you,say "I don't care there are lots of guys who would love to go out with me it's your lost buddy".That will hurt him a lot believe that he'll feel like he got rejected. And I wish you the best of luck that he saids yes because you're worth it!
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Well today he was not looking at me and when he did he just looked and smiled! and to tell you the truth i like bad boys not like criminal but to tell you the truth boys that aren't afraid to curse and what not. well at school i was with his
best friend that is my best friend and they called me a Bitch, and i said oh thank you i am a bitch, and he just looked at ,me as if he were in love. but to tell you the truth i love him soooooooooo much!!! (link)
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Ok so you like bad boys well everyone has something different that they like in a guy,that's good you did not take that word as an insult but a joke I guess,I'm happy for you that you found the person you love,ask this guy what things he enjoys doing for fun,you let him know what you love doing to keep up the conversation.
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My old best friend and I liked each other we never went out, we wanted to stay just friends but we even still love each other. So we never really talk much we say hi and always give each other high fives or fists. But if we ever flirt its so funny but I hate it we try so hard not to but end up flirting like ten year olds and then our other friends get us to separate we get in silly little arguments like well which kind of doughnut is the best stuff like that. Between all this and so much more there is love hate talking flirting not saying a word I just don’t get it! But I think Im the cause of it all. I can’t get over it we both want to be just friends so we say. Our families used to always go places together but then our parents found out and they don’t like the idea of us in the basement all night or going places or traveling. He watches other guys I hang out with. And hates guys that I flirt with or guys that like me. But we don’t talk about it anymore. We are opposites in every possible way. He accepts me for who I am and always has. He always stares at me in class but just looks so sad. But now he’s trying to hide it all. He refuses to go skating with me or anywhere that could end up flirting or something. Why cant we just be best friends only again but we cant help it. He acts like nothing is wrong but then he gets real jealous and protective. We lost our friendship for a while because of us loving each other and our friends trying to get us together and many other things happen like at parties between us. At the moment he’s in a different state. This never happened to me before with any guy. What could I do or say? Any help please?!? also its causeing me serious physical pain...
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What you could say is that he is very valuable person to you,that your friendship with him means a lot to you,that you don't want to lose that,that it would hurt you if you,him don't talk anymore, not spent time together,and let him know that we all need someone to talk to,and have fun with.
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The guys friend is a guy who likes me but he also sends signes(the friend) is the one who likes me and they both now send signs the guy i like well he winked at me in the halls. and then his friend looked at me as if he wanted to kiss me? WHAT DO I DO, WHO DO I PICK THE HOTTIE OR THE HOTTIES FRIEND? (link)
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Pick the hottie this is a chance you can't let go,that's a sign that he wants to go out with you all you have to do is let him know you like him,you want to hang out with him,he'll make his move there is no doubt about that.
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17/f okay so i hang out with a close knit group who has been like this for three years. I have an amazing best friend who i adore and love. anyways.... so my sister is a freshmen and she is with my group now too. which is cool. so on to my problem..... okay there is this girl that came to my school like a week ago and i have found that i dont like her all that much and neither do alot of the people that i hang out with. My bff was the one that invited her over and i dont really know why other than she was trying to be nice. But lately she has been acting really weird. and i havent been at school cause i am sick so i dont know whats going on but people are calling me and teling me that my bf is like following her around and that this new girl is trying to take over the group. and i dont know why no one is putting this girl in her place but now i feel like it is my job to do it. and i dont know why i dont like her i just get a bad vibe and dont get why my bff is throwing herself out there trying to make her feel like part of the group. im not jealous.....i just dont get why she would be putting this girl before all her friends..... can someone please help me???? What should i do with this girl?Show her her place or let her take over??? and what if my best friend doesnt see she is acting like a little puppy dog??she isnt like that!!she is a leader not a follower!!!!please and thank you to anyone that can help me sort this out....sorry its kinda long (link)
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Yes,put her in her place you can't let her take over because then the people of the group will be obeying her in everything,open your best friends eyes to let her see this girls true colors this isn't right,I understand why you got this bad vibe it's for a reason.
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It's pretty hard to tell a guy like him. He is so sweet and kind and at the same time i am not sure if he likes a girl named courtney, or he likes me. I am a girl at TEWMS. And he hang around a guy who could possibly ruin my chances with him...... SUNNYVILLE NOW WHAT DO I DO? (link)
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First, you should try getting along with the guy who could ruin your chances so he stays at your side,supports this guy you like if he goes out with you,tell the guy you like him at the right time,before that you have to find out if there are other girls he likes so you're alert and careful.Go after what makes you happy and don't let no one take what you want.Good luck!
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my friend that i claimed i like well he is so cute!!!!! But the boy just told me that he liked me and is following me and the guy i have a crush on is going to ask me to the scholl dance. but the kid that i dont like is following me to much how do i get alone time for him to ask me out!
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What you should do is try hinting him how interested you are in him,give him a note that you need to speak to him in private or have one of your friends send him a message that you need to see him and that you really like him a lot and want something serious with him or if you prefer to tell him in person.
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I moved to a new school this year and i met about
10 new friends and we are all in a group.
But i've got really close with 2 girls from the group ( i'll call them maria and jen )
but maria told me she liked this guy who is sadly in all of her classes. i've known him since 1st grade and honestly, he's really stupid. she only likes him because she thinks he's cute, well he is but thats a different story. Well now shes been going all crazy and saying i need a boyfriend soo badly and i told her it won't go far but she doesn't believe me. she won't stop talking about boys and how bad she wants a boyfriend. its really annoying. i want to keep her as a friend because i love her a lot, but how can i prove to her that this guy isn't right for her? =\ (link)
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You know what if you can't appreciate help or advice you don't like then don't bother no more you little brat!
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Well now he jst told my friend today that he likes me, but i told him that i like another guy!(whick i do) so what do i do now with the friendship what if he asks me out what will my crush say? (link)
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You can still be friends with him as long as he is willing to accept the idea that you like someone else.If he asks you out you have to tell him you only look at him as a friend,that you're interested in someone else already.As far as your crush he will probably get the wrong idea,or he may be confused of what is going on but, you have to talk to him first about your feelings,that you like him,so he doesn't think your mind is on another person.
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me and this girl jenn have been best friend for three years already and i hate to see the friend ship end but latly she has been talking behind my back and ditching me and when i try to tell her she just gets mad what should i do? (link)
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Confront her again,it's obuvious the truth hurts her,tell her way does she have the nerve to talk trash about you,real friends don't do stuff like that,if she does the same thing again,then there is nothing to try to fix,because since she doesn't want to cooperate or give an explanation for her bad actions just send her to hell people like that don't deserve your friendship.
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One of my friends back in 5th grade who is still kind of my friend now, well he acts as if i was not even in his presence. Also he used to like me in 5th grade and then he like me now,but when he tells me and he becomes my boyfriend, he breaks up with me the next day because he claims that he like another girl....
What do i do? (link)
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Don't even bother anymore with him he'll just keep continuing with the same dirty game,you could get him back by making some other girl hurt him the same way he did to you so he gets the taste of his own medicine.
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PLEASE HELP IM DESPERATE!
I'm so pissed at all my friends. Like I can't even find the words to explain it. Michelle and Hana and I all had this thing were we slept over Hana's house and snuck out with this guy. They just did it yesterday and didn't invite me, even though weve only done it once before it annoyed me.
Michelle is kinda like the "leader" of our group and everyone listens to her. She like makes fun of me for being tall and it pisses me off. And everyone is obsessed with theses people and I feel left out. Some times I just want to cry. Im pretty and everything but im not loud and outgoing and people just dont listen to me. What can I do to make them like me and be in the middle of things? PLEASE HELP! Thanks so much. Anything helps. %% (link)
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There is nothing worng with being tall anyways try being outgoing,see why they are so obessed with them,ask yourself is it the way they dress,act or what,be better than that,you could even create your own crew,be the leader so others can look up to you for that.
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So I am really not too happy here. There is this guy called mark who I guess everyone likes but not for the obvious reasons, but because he is really funny and easy to talk to. I have had the biggest crush on him for a while now, and for a while I thought he liked me too. But then, I found out my best friend claire who is best friends (like, really, BEST FRIENDS, top on myspace, talk to eachother for hours on the phone each night) with mark, and she has a HUGE crush on him. She told me (and only me) about it because she thought that I didn't like him while everyone else did. Now I still really like him, but telling him wouldn't do any good because girls tell him daly that they like him and he never cares, and it might ruin our friendship. Plus, my best friend is in love with him and has a much better chance of him actually liking her. What I'm asking is, is there someway I can get over this guy quickly for my friends sake? (link)
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Yeah,go after another guy that you like,hang out with him or with your friends have some fun go partying,visit different areas,watch some movies,don't talk about him anymore,have your friends not mention him anymore to you if that's possible.
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my best friend used to be in our group but then she left us for all these gothic kids. she denys being gothic. today at school she wore all black and dark purple. her friend started talking to me and he was sayin ew omg shes so gothic and she cuts why are you her friend. i was so embarassed i looked at her and her other friend just stared at me and he said why are you acting so happy! and her friends do kinda give me chills in this class ther was her 2 guys and a girl of her friends. she never usually takes any shit from people shed stand up for her self and her friends usually do to. but she sat there peeking smiling. after class she said o what a friend to me and i thought she was talking about me. was this like a setup? we were talking yesterday about our old group and she sounded kinda mad. she said i act like i dont know her at school. could she have told her friends. im still in it but i feel like an outcast with out her. but she seems so much happier around these friends. whats with her always being with guys well and girls and what happened im just confused? her friends accept me and she keeps me safe if im around them i have a soft heart shes a great friend but what am i? well im 14 girl shes 13..girl lol shes been my best friend my whole entire life but i gues i do tell my other friend their my best friends.. (link)
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People change as time passes usually for bad,you shouldn't feel like an outcast just because you're different from them,plus you said they accepted you,just try to get along with them to avoid conflict,but,I don't see them as trustful people that they go talking about her her like that you really need to be very cautious with them.
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