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yeah, i'm laura.
freshman, 14 almost 15.
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hi my names kristen, i live in nj.

okay i used to be best friends with this girl emily.. she started telling lies and telling people things that arent truem she turned into a real bitch. anyway we havent talked to since january, we've been bff since 4th grade but now we go to different high schools. and now tomorrow shes going to a party i am also going to, what should i do? i mean she completely and totally hates me, and i dont want her to start with me while at my friends party. what should i say to her if i see her? what do i do?

if she says anything to you like "hey" or "what's up?" just say "hey" or whatever back then just walk away. unless you want to try & work things out with her. then talk to her a little.

but if not, then just don't talk to her. just kidn of act like you don't know she's there. get in a big group of friends & have a good time. maybe she won't notice you.

if she tries to start something with you, just ignore it. be mature about it & don't hurl any insults back. just be like whatever & walk away.

hope that helps. have fun at the party. [:

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Ok, i have this BEST FRIEND (maybe i should say i USED to have this best friend) that tells me everything, and she is just great. But then all of a sudden she started hanging out with this other girl and now they are like best friends. I dont care if she makes some other friends, but its like i'm being replaced! Her "new" best friend thinks i'm weird, and she thinks that i'm mean to her. Well of COURSE i'm mean to her, shes taking my bff away!! newayz, lateley i've been thinkin about telling my best friend i dont wanna be friends anymore, but i dont know if thats the right thing to do!! HELP ME....should i try to hang on or ditch her?

omg i have like the same exact situation as you. i would just talk to your BFF about how you feel. it may not work but at least she will know & then she can make the choice. if she chooses the other girl, then shes not a good friend & she can screw herself. if she is a good friend she will understand how you feel & she will come back to you. good luck! drop one in my inbox & let me know how it goes.

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okay well last year me and this guy were really close friends. but during the summer we didnt talk at all & when we got back to school this fall he wont even talk to me and says he hates me. i dont understand how he could just like foget about me. i wanna try to talk to him but i havent had a normal convo with him in soo long i would feel super awkward. what could i do to try to be friends with him again.?

joe is an ass girl. we dont need him. [:

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My friend, Stephanie, called my friend, Ellie, a b*tch behind her back. Ellie asked me if Stephanie called her that and I said "I think so" (it happened weeks ago, so I didn't really remember). Now Ellie's parents did something and Stephanie is in trouble. Stephanie yelled at me and said that it was all my fault. Did I do the right thing by telling Ellie what Stephanie said?

yes yes yes yes. if someone says something bad about one of your friends, they have a right to know about it. stephanie shouldnt have said that in the first place. she knew what she was getting into. just explain to stephanie that ellie had a right to know and its her own fault for saying it.

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ok....today at school this gurl named kayla (the gurl who leaves me out) said that her and rikki (my bff) were going to a festival together without me. it made me feel bad cause my best friend didnt even tell me, and i wouldn\'t of gotton mad if she did. also today...i was telling her bye on the bus when i had to get off and she said \"go samantha...i am trying to sit by rikki!\" and she was really rude...and you know, you get the small things everyday. she will come up to talk to her in the hallway and just ignore me and she will give her hugs, sit by her at lunch and all that stuff and i have triend over and over and over to make friends with her and she still is rude because she wants rikki to herself. i know if i tell rikki, she will get mad because she dosent think kayla is being mean or rude to me. thats just the way she is. she also just talks to kayla when kayla is around us, unless i statrt a conversation between us. also...if i just go on my own and not talk to them...i dont have any other really good friends so i would be all alone if you say that they are being bad friends...i would rather be treated like this than be all by myself. i have cried myself to sleep thinking about this. please please help.

i have almost the exact same situation as you right now so i know how you feel. it sucks. you have done really all you can do. i know that isnt what you wanted to hear but its the truth. but you mentioned that you havent talked to rikki. you need to. let her know whats going on and how you feel. if shes a true friend then she will understand and try to make it work. try to get some more alone time with her and you 2 will get closer and hopefully she will forget about kayla a little. good luck to you and if you have any other questions, drop one in my inbox. let me know how it goes!!

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Okay...my best friend has another friend who dosent like me that much and i dont care for her either. When we are all the hanging out, they always talk to each other and leave me out. On halloween you can send candy grams to your friends at school and my best friends friend sent her one and not me. Not that i was expecting one anyways but it made me feel left out. Any help?

this happens to me all the time. i know how you feel. you should talk to your best friend and tell her whats going on and you you feel. try to get to know this other girl and maybe you wil turn out to be friends. thats what happened with me. my friend had this friend who hated me, but we spent some time together and now were pretty good friends. good luck to you!! drop one in my inbox and let me know how it goes!!

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a couple of my friends lied straight to my face last night. i can't explain the whole situation, but they could have told me the truth - they didn't have to lie about it. i don't want to talk to them about it because they make me feel like _ _ _ _ when i try to tell them my feelings and they always go and talk about me and tell the others what i said afterward. what should i do?

my friends do this alot too. hopefully it will blow over. just ask them like "what did i do to deserve that?". maybe they were just mad at you for something. but maybe they arent the greatest friends. if they dont apologize to you, screw them. tell them off and find new friends.

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my bestfriend is realli obsee with this kid she likes and she wont stop talkin to him && shes really annoying me so i hope she shuts up before i kick her ass so waht should i do .

i had this problem too. just be like you better stop BEFORE I KICK YOUR ASS! lol no umm..

just tell her. spend more time with her and point out really hott guys and maybe that will take her mind off him. =]

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say someone picks on you and such.. and makes rude comments, how do you stand up for yourself? because i dont have the confidence to go and say something if they were to say something to me or my friends? how do i gain the confidence to do this or what do i say? i dont want to sould like a prissy so any tips?

just be like GET THE F*CK AWAY FROM ME YOU PSYCO!! lol no umm..

just politely say please stop. if that doesnt work, dont let them know it bothers you because then theyll do it more. theyll eventually stop when they realize it doesnt bother you. good luck!

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I was talking to my friend about this pep rally after school at our school on Friday. I was like do yo know when it is, are you going, an stuff lyk that. So I assumed maybe we would like go together or something, cuz we were talkin about it and like yeah. But now she asked my other friends to go and not me. Because my other friend told me that. Why is she doing that? What should I do?

well that girl sounds like a bit of a brat to me. she is probably doing it just to annoy you or shes jealous of you. i would just go and then when you get there go by your friends like its not a big deal. good luck =]

♥ [[ redhead6154 ]] ♥

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Everytime I feel like I'm getting comfortable with a new group of friends... something will happen that will make me feel like it's all a charade. I always feel like I'm on the outside looking in and I'm never really PART of the group. I don't know why! If anyone is in this type of situation hewlp me out... I'm so sick of feeling like I don't have real friends.

omg can i ever relate to you! at lunch im always sitting there while my best friend talks to other people and not me. she acts like im invisible sometimes. but anyway..

just make sure they know youre there and that you want to be friends with them. dont be shy just when you feel theyre ignoring you say something to them and get theyre attention.

good luck :)

redhead6154♥

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gi wanz up just wanted to say hi!!

nice shelby..jeez you got me excited that i actually got a question in my inbox!!

me♥

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its not about u its about rose she is my old best friend that lived at my old house

yea whatever dont try and cover up your lies. i know its about me so stop whining and get over it.

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what do you do when your best friend turn ur back and goes and becomes a b**** and missed ur b-day?

get over it shelby

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hey everyone.. ok well i went in my friend's myspace... and the first time i got in her account she didn't care... but then the 2nd time i did it she got mad at me... && my brother found out because i forgot to sign out.. so yeah && my parents also know... but they think i asked her but i didn't and now she's mad at me and i called her and apologized like a million times... && she said that she can't trust me anymore and she doensn't want me calling her anymore or talk 2 me ever again so what should i do?

hmm your friend souns a bit like a drama queen to me. if she didnt care the first time she shouldnt care the second time. if my friend went on my myspace i would be like "okay just dont do that anymore". i wouldnt explode and go off on my friend. shell eventually get over it and if she doesnt in a couple weeks than shes not a good friend to have and forget about her.

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Okay so basically this summer i got in a fight with all my friends and now i only have one friend which is my best friend. but i want more friends for school. how do i make friends??
I want friends that i can relate stuff too.
please help ill lovee youu forever like seriously

I highly doubt that you only have one friend. After a little while your other friends will get over the fight and if that doesn't work than you apologize to them or they aren't really your friends. If you want friends you can relate stuff to then maybe join a club or team of something that you like to do.

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