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E-mail: Angel_cutie_19@hotmail.com
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Location: surrey B.C
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Age: 13
Member Since: November 19, 2005
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Well, my best friend died exactly a year ago as of yesterday. I'm not sure if many of you are familiar with my question I posted last year about her death, but so you can hear the whole story here's the link: http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=248637
I've had a hard time dealing with her death, mentally and physically and I've been really depressed. I still blame myself for her death every day because I still feel that if I were there it wouldn't have happened.
I really need help coping with it... I've tried to keep myself busy with fencing, my boyfriend, my friends and schoolwork.. But nothing really seems to keep my mind fully off of what happened.
This past week, when her anniversary came up was when I really started to get depressed. I've gone to therapy because of her death and also because of other problems and my therapist keeps telling me that it wasn't my fault and that I couldn't have prevented it from happening. But if you really think about it, I COULD saved her. She kept begging me to go to the party with her but I said no because I wanted to be with my boyfriend. I think that if I wasn't being so selfish in wanting to spend so much time with my boyfriend, then I WOULD have gone to the party. My ex boyfriend WOULDN'T have slipped X in her drink he WOULDN'T have raped her and she WOULDN'T be dead.
I talk to her family almost every day and they always tell me that it's not my fault... But I still feel like it is.
How can I stop feeling like this is my fault? And how can I finally get closure on her death? (link)
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i know how u feel my friend died on boxing day in vancouver you pobably saw it on the news anyway the only way you can forget about her death is if you make a new friend and forget about your past and remember its not your fault and it never will be
p.s. keep in touch this is my email Angel_cutie_19@hotmail.com im glad i finally found someone who feels my pain
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My friend is jealous that this year I made a new friend and now she is spreading mean rumors about me cuz shes jealous what do I do?? Much Luv
~~Mackie~~ (link)
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just ignore her eventually she'll have to stop
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I just made a new friend from volleyball at school, my best friend is jealous because now i also hang out with my new friend. she says i ignore her but never do...sometime it feels like she's the one ignoring me like shes mad at me. We even had a fight just yesterday but i dont think the problem is solved because she still acts different around me.
Its like She can have other friends but i cant
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maybe you should interdouce them and sit them down and let them talk it out the problem is not between you 2 its between the your old friend feels jelouse because she doesn't know your new friend that well just give them time they'll find something in common.
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14/f........one of my new friends named kate switches the guys that she likes pretty often. the thing about her is that she likes a guy until she knows that they like her..kinda weird i kno but anyways.....she started liking this one guy named phil...later he liked her and she was over him. then she liked some guy named john...she got over him b/c of a new guy..miles...at this point she still likes miles but here's the thing...i like phil..i mean i dont really know him but i kinda like him. i kno that if i start talking to him and stuff that kate will SERCRETLY be a little defensive...i'm just worried that if i make a move she'll find out and get mad at me either for making a move, not telling her, or w/e..anybody have any ideas about this situation??
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i think you shold go for it i don't see a reason not to if shes keeps switching i think its okay for you to date him even if she does get mad its her fault she left him so that makes him intirley yours.
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sorry this is long, but plz help!
this sounds like a total classic! anyway i have
this friend named "tyler", and we've been friends for about 2 years now. in the begining, he liked me as just a friend, then he said he liked me {like puppy love}, and now he says he's in love with me. i feel the same way, and yes, i've told him that. however, im a sarcastic person, and he says that when i say "i love you" he can't believe i'm serious. this just bugs me, because i am! i've even asked him what would i have to do to prove it? he says he wants me to be his girlfriend, but he wants to wait awhile, possibly somewhere around a year. but i can't wait that long! i've flirt with him all the time and he still doesn't get it. i know he's a little scared, because he has never had a girlfriend and has never kissed anyone. but what can i do to prove once and for all that i'm not joking? should i make the first big move? and if so what should i do? and what sould i not do?
thanx= i rate high
sorry it was long! (link)
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just tell him how seriouse you are maybe get him a present or something the best move you could make on a guy is kiss him that proves alot trust me i had the same problem now i have a boyfriend
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i dont really have any close friends.. i mean i do like 1 or 2 but i dont have any best friends either.. its starting to bother me because alot of other people have close and best friends.. what can i do so i can make my friends and i to be closer friends? i really need help ..easy 5 unless your mean
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just be your self and sonner or later your see that girls will start wanting to be your friends and for all the right reasons .
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hey everyone, i have a really huge problem and i need to know if theres anything i can do to help or fix anything.. my best friend is being forced to go to a different school by her parents.. the reason is because of her grades and how she isnt 'responsible' randomly friday they got rid of her cell phone, and grounded her all thanksgiving break and told her she was going to a differnet school... the school is a christian school and its about 30 minutes away. anyways, they got rid of most of her clothes and replaced them with 'christian apropriate clothes' she'll be starting at the christian school the monday after this next one. i know we'll still talk and stuff but its just not going to be the same having her gone... i need to know some ways i can help or make things change.. or some excuses shes already threatend she would kill herself or turn lesbian (no effence) but theyre just like 'i dont care' please help.. (link)
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tell her to ask her parents for one more month and tell them that if her grades don't go up they can put her in the christian school and if they do ask if she can stay that way they can see if shes responsible or not
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18/f. I have a very close guy-friend. Occasionally when he comes over to mine (or I go to his), and he (or I) can't get home (e.g. he comes to my place on his bike, I don't like him to ride home at 3am, it's not too safe around here) then he stays over. He'll sleep in my (single) bed, and we usually end up snuggled up to close each other (e.g. both lying on our sides facing the same way with his arm around me).
My question is - is this ok for our relationship? - I don't want to date him, I don't want our friendship to turn into something further. We are both single. Is it ok to sleep together like this, or will it damage our friendship in the long run? (link)
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I think its will hurt your friendship you 2 will start feeling too close and think its okay to sleep together even though you know its not you might start getting addicted to it since you do it alot so think about it maybe its best if you stop and just stay close friends or start dating so that it doesn't feel okward.
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Thing is this is about guy whoes my bestest friend, and there for eacher, right now I am graudate Hs, He still in hs for another year. we are close age and we were together for while and still want be friends see other people, but problem thati never did care or didn't had that kind feeling becouse i want meet other guys, ok my ponit is that he hase gf right now i am happy for him, and know that we always good friend, thing is in summer he told me that i was the one for him. we are so connected, ,now his new gf he said she the one, thing is tha i am the one want meet other guys and thing like that but it hard becouse he was only guy ever was in my life, i hoppe someone understand i saying i know cuffusing, i just want act normal and stil his firend way was before i found out about it.
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it was sort of confussing but it think what your trying to say is you still have feelings for him i think you should just tell him how you feel and tell him its best if you 2 just stay friends and nothing more that way you won't feel ocward.
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My bestfriend and her boyfriend have been together for about 4 months now. Problem is: he says he likes me! And I'm kind of into him too! I don't know what to do, thats like my bestfriend. I sure don't want to ruin our friendship but oh my goodness I am really into this boy! (link)
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i think you should leave him alone shes your best friend hes just a guy. guys will always come around best friends will always be on your side.
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