hey im molly (duh.. the headline thingy) lol anyways im a hardcore swimming.. those of you who know me know that.. i play guitar.. i love my friends TO DEATH! i couldnt live without um. i like to give advice so any question youve got.. ill answere!!!!
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Okay well i have this friend who iv been friends with a really long time but last year she started acting really different then the usual her. I figured it would go away and it did but then a guy asked her out and she said yes. Now she almost never hangs out around us and is always talking about him. One of his friends told usd that he said he only likes here for her looks and doesnt care about her, we told her but she didnt belive us. Plus all of her friends including me hate him and were begining to think of her less and less as a true friend. I tried to talk to her but she just gets mad me and my friends want to get together and have a group conversation but we all know she will think were ganging up on her. One day she told me that all of us were bugging her and she wanted to figure it out and talk. well i thougt great we can finally all sit down and talk about but then she said but u vccant tell anyone or ill be really mad and we cant sit down as a group because ill get mad and yell. i tried to convince her to let me try to tell my other friends but she thought it would be gossip the next day. I really used to love this friend but if she doesnt change i dont know if well still be friends. (link)
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okay seriously people you have so say what your question is!!!! future referance!! geezy, okay well i dont no what to say since there was no question asked so comment again with a question thank you =]
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well i likked this guy...lets say joesph and my friend liked him 2...lets say her name is jessica...so..joesph asked me out and i said yes..jessica is just a mean ass...excuse my language...and she got all pissed cause i said yes...anyways like...2 weeks later jessica went so low she toldd joesph that i didnt like him!! but i was absouloutly in LOVE with him!! so...as gullabul as he is he believed her and dumped me 2 go out with her!!!And then...u know wut she does?? she dumps him like 3 weeks later!! should i still be friends with jessica after wut sh did?
thanks!! (link)
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if your questioning your friendsship then im not sure, because that wasnt very nice of her to do, maybe if you can work it out then if she seams like a very good friend that you would be sad to lose than maybe you should fight for her but if she has been mean before then id say just maybe tell her how it made you feel.. also if she says what the heck then i dont think its going to work out hunn sorry
i hope it works out for you and ask more questions if you have them!! love you..
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ok, so i have this really good friend. we'll call her suzy. and suzy always wants attention, so she like acts all loud and stuff and thats just how she is. but this time i feel like she went over the line. today we were all hanging out at a friends house, and our guy friends were there two, one of them i kinda like. so like i was wearing a thong and she knew i was wearing one because im wearing gouchos and your supposed to wear a thong with gouchos so theres no underwear line, ya know? and so she pantsed me in front of all the guys and their jaws just dropped and i turned bright red and pulled up my pants and ran away as fast as i could and sat there in a corner for 3 hours. i couldnt show my face to them. i felt so humiliated and i wanted to cry, but i wouldnt let myself. so then she didnt even talk to my for the rest of the night and she just gave me dirty looks like i did something wrong.and now i dont know, should i just act like nothing happened and move on? im in a fight with her rght now online, and she keeps on being like "it was a joke, why are you getting all mad?" and all my other girl friends are on my side. what should i do? (link)
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personally this *suzy* girl to me doesnt sound like friend material. no true friend would do that. im so sorry about that happening because i know that i would just feel terrible. but if all of your other friends are on your side i dont know, do you still want to be friends with *suzy*? because if not then stop your friendship but if you want to fight for her friendship then do. but make sure if you remain friends to tell her how you felt and maybe she'll understand. and tell her never to do the things she did to you again because they can hurt. and tell her if she doesnt get that then maybe you shouldnt be friends. or if you really hate her you could pants her in a public place while she has gouchos on, jk because thats mean. so i hope i helped, tell me how it all works out and ask me if you need any more advice. -- molly
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Okay. So my two best friends, well, aren't anymore. Let's just call them Jess & Sara. So me & Sara had been best friends since kdg. and me & Jess had been friends since 6th grade or something so it was a few years. This year, the three of us started hanging out a lot and pretty soon Jess was always picking Sara over me, like I was invisible whenever I was around the two of them. So I wrote Jess a note saying how I felt and how yeah, so then Jess wrote back this really mean nasty note saying how she didn't wanna be my friend anymore, blah blah blah. So then Sara took Jess's side even though I wasn't made at Sara for anything, and we didn't talk for a few weeks. Then Sara instant messaged me saying she wants to be my friend and stuff & I said that No I dont think it's going to work, like you just don't throw away that many years of friendship. Then a week or two later, she instant messaged me again saying how she was 'sick of being in the middle between friends and not friends' when I had clearly told her that I didn't want to be. I told her that it was up to her because it was her decision whether she could make things work with both her & Jess and both me & her. She said 'oh yeah i know i can make it work!!' and I said 'fine whatever then we'll try'. So now she's been instant messaging me all the time and I dont really want a relationship with her. She's so fake and I can't stand it. Also, shes had this pothead boyfriend for a few months and hes just crazy. He's liked me for a really long time and any chance he gets he'll either kiss me on the cheek or say how he wants to do me or just I dont know random things like that but there would be no point in telling her because she'd refuse to believe it because shes ""In Love"" and I've tried before, but he just denies it and says im crazy,.....
Everything is just incredibly dumb and me & Jess haven't talked since the fight a month or two ago and it's like everyday she'll see me in the hall and give me this dirty looks and it's really dumb how immature she's being
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okay, you didnt ask a question so i need you to send me another message with a question in it if you want adice. but ill say something since i want to help somehow, maybe try giving sara a chance becasue she obviously wants you back and you have to give her credit for trying so yeah, i dont know what else to say because that wasnt a question reallly so yeah just ask a question next time, thanks, molly
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12 female.....ok so this year (6th grade) i met this girl. I were becomgng best friends with this girl (lets call her tori) well me and tori always were together. we ate lunch together and we were in almost all eachothers classes, we would alway pick eachother to be partners and we would hang out a lot! This year this new girl came to our school (lets call her becky) tori is really nice so she will go up to practiclly anyone and just say hello or hi for fun. while when she said it to becky i guess it created a friendship. Everything was going great until tori picked becky for her partner and i had to be with this person i never talked to. that day i got a feeling that tori was likeing becky more. From then on they would always talk about things they did and stuff and laugh but i was never there when they hung out so i never got any of there jokes. Track just started and they were always running next to eachother and im not the fastest runner but im pretty good but they would always go ahead and i was always left behind. I was getting really annoyed and sad cuase i was like losing my best friend.i guess i was getting jelous:( So that night i called tori and talked to her for a little bit and then brought up why she wasn't including me in anything anymore. She was getting really mad and defensive. She said that she was trying to include me but becky didn't like me and that becky always pulled her away. I don't know what to do. Im not that "popular" of a girl so i don't know a lot of people cuase on weekends i would always hang out with tori! I need help on how to get my best friend back or what i should do!!!
thanks a bunch!!!!!!!
:( sry for the long letter!! (link)
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okay well just put yourself out there and invite both tori* and becky* over and start to get to know becky better and if she has a problem with it just talk to her and be like tori is my best friend and im not gonna lose her so you either accept me or or.. something i dont no yet but im sure u can come up with that. but if tori* is your best friend she wouldnt be letting becky* take her away shed actually go back and get you. so hunni if things still arent working out maybe tori* isnt the right friend for you so maybe find another really nice group of friends to hang out.. dont worry this same thing happened to me and it all turned out okay.i hope i helped.. give me an update on how its going and if you need anymore help!!
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Okay so I recently left a team. I got super close with the people on it, and I miss everyone like crazy even though I was only with them for 7 months or so. I dont like the fact that I'm losing contact with people & that theyre at least a half hour away so hanging out is hard & I miss knowing what's going on in peoples lives and it kills (link)
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okay well i dont know what your asking.. but if you miss them than call them.. if you have aim talk to them on there.. living far away isnt an excuse to not see them so maybe on the weekend have a bunch of them over or something or meet like halfway at the movies or mall or something! =]
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well i have asked a question on how i can be more outgoing cause its affecting my ability to be able to make friends. well i try to be interesting but no one seems to like me. like i see people in the halls at school saying "want to come over my house" or "Want to go bike riding" no one ever asks me that, is it because i'm boring? what can i do to make people want me as their friend? and how can i keep friend? i am really desperate for help. :( i have like one kind of best friend and she never even asks me to do stuff! she doesnt even invite me to her parties! and please dont say "why dont you ask THEM" (link)
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you just seam shy.. try to talk more and get into things like teams or after school things so that you can hang around people more.. maybe if you dothen you will be less and less shy! maybe try asking someone else to go over to your house and just talk a lot and put yourself out there.. hope i helped =]
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hey... um yeah so i think im loosing one of my best friends. i never see her anymore because we live kinda far away fro eachother and its really hard to hang out with each other.i really wanna hang out with her more and ive told her like "oh my gosh! weve gotta hang out sometime!" but we only talk about hanging out and it never actually happens. so, what should i do to save my friendship?? I havnt seen her in like 2-3 months at least! (link)
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okay..... i think i might no who this is but im not sure so i wont say anything.. but i am going throguh the exact same thing! i have this best friend only i havnt seen her in forever and we talk about hanging out all the time but never do anything.. so maybe call her or online be like okay we not just talking about it this is what were doing! u and me over the weekend are shopping or seeing a movie or something! and then plan it and it will be set, and youll see her again! hope i helped -- molly
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i've been friends with this girl, lets call her lulu, since 1st grade and last year we met this other girl , she'll be suzy, and now they're acting like best friends this year. At the last dance as soon as we got there lulu and suzy and they're two little followers left me and my friend alone. they ignored us the ENTIRE dance! they also don't seem to care about me at all. i want to tell them that i am feeling left out but i don't know how. how should i tell my best friend lulu how i'm feeling? (link)
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okay well it seams like this must really hurt and so you need to tell her. just be like lulu i need to tell you something. and then just tell her.. and if you two are the friends that you think you are then she should understand and she will be more aware or how you are feeling the next time you are all hanging out together. and if things dont change then just keep telling her. eventually she should get the message but if she doesnt than maybe shes just not the right friend for you.
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My friend has gone through a lot lately. Her mom had breast cancer and went through kemo. Now her dad has cancer and has to go through kemo. How can I help her and her family? (link)
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aww hunnii!!!! i know how ur feeelin since im friends with her too! lol. i think we can just comfort her and well try to do our best to make her feel awesome! and when this is all over i will thank god.. i love you
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