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Hey,my name's Stephanie, 16 years old and i live in the UK. If you want my advice then i'll happily give it. If you don't agree with it then that's just tough, i say it how i see it.
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Alright... So I just held a party which started about five hours ago and ended around 11:00 pm. 8th period today I invited one of my guy friends at the last minute. I told him that he couldn't bring anybody but himself, since there were already going to be a lot of people and my mother would flip if someone she didn't know, showed up at our house uninvited. He told me his friend whom he hasn't seen in a long time was coming to visit, but I told him that he couldn't bring him for reasons I already stated. It was basically an open invitation, if he could come alone, then he could come, but if he couldn't, then that was too bad. So, a little bit before the party after a few early people arrived, he called me and said he was in the neighborhood and was wondering if he could come a few minutes early. I said it was fine, and he came... with a friend in tow... I was a little pissed, but I let it slide for the time being. Well, a little while later after basically everyone arrived, he "pretended" to steal some of my DVD's and lots of food. Then, a few minutes later, he calls me over and says he's got a "shitload of alcohol" in his car. Now, my friends and I are not into that kind of stuff, and it made me really uncomfortable. I basically told him I thought he should leave. He got a little pissed but agreed to it. His friend was kind of just sitting there the whole time, not talking. So they got up and stood at the food table for a while and just hung out. I was really pissed and worried at the time, cuz one of my other freinds was threatening to leave (the alcohol comment made her really uncomfortable), so I said "Are you just going to loiter there?". He got really pissed then, and then left with his friend. A few minutes later he called all heated and was saying "You were really rude to me, and the alcohol thing was just a joke" which I didn't believe, because he only said it was a joke after I expressed my discontent. So then I told him again why he had to leave, and he was just like "yeah whatever, fuck you" and hung up. Now, I've thought about it over and over and my friends say that he's a jerk and I have every right to be angry. But I'm not sure... Was any of this my fault? I feel I made it very clear that he wasn't supposed to bring anyone, and that if he wanted to spend time with his friend, he should do so. We could always hang out some other time. It's not like he's doing me some huge favor by coming. I just need to know, for my own sanity, do I have the right to be angry? Thanks... Pom
How can you call it a party without alcohol? He was probably trying to liven the party up and you went and freaked on him. If you stay angry at him it'll just make him worse.
I am having a hard time meeting people at the university I go to, and I'm not sure why. My friends say I walk too fast and that I'm unapproachable because I don't always speak first. I am a little shy, but I would really like to make some friends because most of the people I know recently dispersed to schools in other states/cities. I do talk to people when I can, but it just doesn't seem to develop into a friendship where we could hang out anywhere but school. Is there anything more I can do? Thanks.
If you smile friendly and try to feel happy then you'll look more approachable. You could also say hey to the people you recognise from classes and stuff. Other than that all you can do is be yourself and make an effort to get to know people.
hi does anyone know a good quote i could put in my profile about : me and these girls became friends and i wanna have a quote about how happy i am that we became friends then under it put there initials! please help!
Try searching for some on www.google.com
Well this girl who I'm good friends with has invited me to watch some DVDs have have pizza at her house tomorrow night. There will be some other people there who I know but I don't have much in common with them and we aren't great friends. I want to go but I don't want to be left out of the conversation. What should I do?
I was going to say you should go but if your ex is going to be there then it's just not worth it. You'd be inflicting pain and awkwardness upon yourself. Ask your friend if she wants to hang out some other time, just the two of you.
well i met my bestfriend on newyears last year and we've been really close since..its just lately since the new school year has started we really havent been as close..this always ends up happening and i dont want to lose another bestfriend.we go to different schools and all..but it just seems we can never find time to chill with each other and when we do we never have anything to talk about or do because we dont really have anything in common because i guess our personalities have changed becuase now we hang out with different and i just dont know what to do..somneone please help
**desperate need**
You could make the effort to hang out at the weekend but it sounds like you guys are finished. If your personalities have changed then you're growing apart and there's not really anything you can do. It's probably best to let nature take it's course and make the effort to find some new friends and hang out with them.
Hey everyone...my best friend always seems to not follow through with her plans. Most of the time it's the fault of her parents cuz they can be pretty strict. I know I can't be mad at her for that, but sometimes I feel very frustrated that she can never hang out cuz i wanna spend time with her n stuff. And the times wen she says the can hang out, the next day il ask her if she can still hang and she'll say "maybe" or "idk" and then by the time she figures out she can't hang out it's too late to do n e thing about it. It just annoys me that even when she says she can hang out something always happens, is there anyway I can change this?
Let her make the plans because there's nothing you can really do. If you confront her about it she'll just blame it all on her parents and like you said, you can't be mad at her for that. Let her know that you're willing to hang out but she has to make the first move. In the meantime hang out with some other friends.
I am going to a concert that falls on my birthday (Nov. 12th, I'll be 24). My boyfriend and I got tickets with his brother and his brother's g'friend who is also my best friend of 10 years. Now, I've written a little about this before, I may write about it again too, the whole relationship deal going on, some of you may recognize. My best friend and I have had an intimate past. I am still very attracted to her. We are both bi-sexual and if we were to choose a chic for each other we would be together. But we are not, we are with two boys that are brothers. So, yeah, we're going to this concert, we're supposed to go altogether. But seeing as how her b'friend is extremely jealous of us hanging out, which he tries not to show, but makes it obvious in my eyes, I was talking to him the other day and he's like, "So, where are you guys parking for the concert? We're meeting you there, right? We want to take our car." (He speaks for my friend a lot, I've noticed). And I said, "Well, we have to drop the baby off in your town anyways, then why don't me and (my b'friend) drive up with you?" He's like, "I don't care." He said it low tone, I could tell he DOES care. So I dropped the subject with him and decided to take it up with my friend. I haven't done that yet. I know she will agree with me, but I also know he is going to influence her to side with him on trying to get out of it (being with us). Now my side of this is that the concert falls on my birthday. I want to be with friends. Also, I'm going to be on a break from my child for the first time since he was born. I want to hang out with friends, not just split up and go home after the show with my boyfriend which is where we spend all of our time when we have the baby. I want to be able to hang with them and have a couple of drinks with them (especially my chic friend that he never lets me have enough time with. It's not like we're going to do anything, I just want to be able to hang out at least halfway like the way we used to without being monitored by the boys. Now, he's not really the type of person you can just talk to, he'll always stick to his thoughts. Any suggestions? Should I just try to force the night the way I know it should go even if it entails a bad mood on her b'friend?
This guy obviously has a major jealousy problem but it's his problem not yours. It's your birthday and you should spend it the way you want to. Enjoy yourself and ignore any evil eyes he gives you.
Do you ever feel like breaking down.. DO you ever feel out out place.. ANd somehow you just don't fit in and no one understands me... I've been kiked... hurt.. well I'm just like him.. and the rest of the song.. and sometimes i just wanna curl up and give up! the kids at my school are so mean to me. And a lot of my friends think they're to "cool" to hang out with me. I've been pushed down and kids kicked me and I've been in 5 fights with a bunch of kids and always get beet up picked on. And i don't belong.. I think i should just run away. no one would miss me. I'm just a loser in the way! I just wish i was a little cooler and people would be nicer to me. like the other day i was over my "friends" house and him and his neighbors made fun of me and 1 kid punched me so i fell and then they threw things at me. I've broken down.. ok and I'm young and hopeless and going no where fast is what they say.And the girls... forget about it... i mean the only reason most them don't like me is becuse the cool kids don't like me. I mean I'm not ugly..but you get my point. And some kids just pretend to be friends with me and then stab me in the beack like it's a game. And my gf just played me. Well you kinda get my idea of my life. that's not the details though. It's a lot worse. Well is there anything i can do? Or should i run away becuase no one would miss me!
Signed,
A loser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Running away won't solve anything unless you've got somewhere to go, such as an Aunt who'd be willing to take you in. Even then it doesn't solve anything because bullying just follows you like a bad smell. You just have to find some way through it and tell yourself that one day it'll be over. School doesn't last forever.
Hey! Umm ok here's my problem: I like this boy named Jimmy. He's from my school and he's 2 months and 19 days younger than me (I don't care about the age difference). But then I told my friend Kaitlyn that I like him and not to tell anyone else. But then my other friend Brittnee hears us talking about him and she's (Brittnee) like "Ewwwww. You like Jimmy?!" and then I'm like "Yeah. I know he's younger than me but I don't care." And then when I'm in class, she sees Jimmy in the hallway and asks the teacher to go to the bathroom and she goes into the hallway. A few minutes later she comes back, sits next to me and says "I told Jimmy you like him". I was pissed but now Jimmy doesn't look me in the eye anymore. And we were okay type of friends (me and Jimmy) before all this happened. What do I do now if he asks me about me liking him? And his sister is one of my friends and I don't think she likes the idea of me liking him... HELP! PLEASE! Rate good for any answer! !~*Steph*~!
Just act natural around him and if after a while he's still being funny ask him what's wrong. If he asks you if you like him then be honest and try to reassure him that it's no big deal and that it doesn't have to affect your friendship. Oh and drop that bitch Britnee, you don't need friends like her.
Me and my best friend Krystal want to ask you this. Theres this girl, Holly, she keeps butting into me and Krystal's friend ship. I mean coming between me and Krystal. I feel that she wants to take my place. Its really getting me mad because she is really annoying to! Anyways she already slept over krystal's house once [ i was there to ] but shes that type of person that you get sick of quickly and Krystal doesnt want her to sleep over tonight. How can we let Holly down gently??
Why let her down gently? She's doing this on purpose although she'd never admit to it. Just tell her to p**s off but make sure Krystal supports it and that she's there when you tell Holly where to go.
I went through the same thing but i didn't do anything. Now i'm completely out of the picture and although i sometimes wish i'd done something i have new friends now.