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I have this friend and lately her parents divorced. At first she wouldn't tell me but then she did and she started crying. I feel really bad for her, how can i make her feel better? She keeps on saying that people will think that she is a divorced child.. But she really isn't. Shes so nice.

hey...ok, my parents are even divorced. Many peoples parents are divorced and WILL get divorced. Just be there for her! Tell her that her parents divorce doesn't change the fact that they love her. Tell her that it's not like shes not part of a family. And make sure to remind her that they did this for HER too! Maybe her parents were fighting all the time and her parents didn't want her in that kind of enviornment. Just tell her everything will be ok and she can talk to you about anything!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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hey .. okay i have this friend and i like him alot .. i've felt ways for him that i have NEVERRR felt for ANYONE before .. i have dreams about him .. and there good dreams .... he knows i like him but i dont know if he likes me .. he like leads me on making me think he likes me ... but i dont know .. any suggestions !? and could it be l0ve ? -- i rate g0od ..

If you think he's leading you on, maybe you should get one of your friends (or yourself) to ask him if there is anything going on between ya'll! If you've known him for a long time and you've felt this way for a while...YES! Of course it could be love! It isn't for us to decide...it IS your feelings! :-D!!!!!!!* Maybe tell him how you feel for him and ask if he feels the same way in ANY way!!!

*!*I hOpE i HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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I have a friend who is heavily into drugs. She isn't doing it to have fun, she is doing it to escape problems in her life. She has had a very difficult life, so it isn't like an emo thing. I am too close to her to help her. I have been through this with her many times. My question is, what can I do to try and get her away from all of the drugs without making her mad at me. Also if there is anything you could suggest, where I could help her, it would be much appreciated. Thank you all so much in advance. This problem has really got me down.

~Nokomis~

*I think that if you just tell her very calmly that you're worried about her and you don't want her getting hurt than she won't freak out. I would tell her that you would want her coming to YOU instead of any to take her problems to! Tell her that you're there for her any time she needs you and you support her in anything she does EXCEPT ! If she needs to talk to someone maybe suggest talking to someone that can help or sort her problems in a healthier way!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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Tell me if I'm over-reacting, but...


My best friend Sara came over yestery, and we started watching a movie, Raise Your Voice. And, well, these guys call her. Background info about the guys, one of the guys and sara were supposed to go out but sara's best friend (now ex) stold him away from her, and the other, well they kicked it and he started standing her up, so things stopped. But yeah, they called her saying they were going to some park/lake nearby and they wanted her to go with. She knew I couldn't go, and then she called another friend and begged HER to go with. Then when she got off the phone she looked at me and was like, are you mad?e I said yeah maybe. Then she's like oh I'm such a bad friend... and calls the guys back saying come pick me up! Agg! Who does that? Thats the reason her last friendship, fell apart, her other friends ditched Sara and so she should know how it feels. This isn't the first time we foughta. We fight a lot. And today in the morning I didn't call her up for school like usual and she calls half hour later saying why didn't i call her to wake her up?and i said that i thought she'd be up already, and sjhe clicked. so then at the bus stop i didnt go anywhere nearher and then she came to me to give me my books back and take hers and said something ... then called me abithc. I dont know what to do, everyone likes her. SHe talks about everyone behind their back. Agggh it drives me insane because no one believes me! I will give you a 5 if you give me a good response. Thanks in advance! :=)

You are NOT over reacting! No way! ok, this obviously doesn't realize what good friends she has in front of her! I would be pretty mad as well! Her ditching you???? No that is NOT something a good friend would do to hang out with some dick heads! If she is going to do something like that to you, she doesn't deserve you! You're way better and would never do that to anyone (or i would hope, knowing how it has happened to you and you would know it would hurt someone else) I think you should confront her about it and tell her, "Hey it was a pretty snobby thing of you to do that for some guys! You have no right to be mad at me for something I didn't do! How would you feel if I ditched you with another friend of mine for some guys while i was over YOUR house?!?! I'm not trying to be in a fight with you, but that really hurt my feelings!"

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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Ok, this past week, I went to Disneyworld to march in the parade with the band. (yes, I'm a bandgeek...) Well, my really good friend, Nicole, was sitting with me on the busride to Floriday (24 hours, yuck!) and the way there and the 1st few days of Disney were fine, but then she started getting on my nerves. At the time, I didn't think she was a lesbian at all. She was just NOT giving me my space and was hanging around me A LOT. She basically wouldn't leave me alone. And from then on, she started acting really weird. I'm gonna tell you the things that she did, but they're not gonna be in order lol. Well, for one, we were at Epcot and playing in the fountain like 4-year-olds, but hey it was fun lol. She kept picking me up and trying to get on top of me. And then, long after we dried off, she had wet spots on her boobs. So disgusting. On the bus ride home, I'm like, trying to sleep, and every time I look, she's watching me. Then later, I woke up later that night and her butt was pressed against mine and if I'm not mistaken, it was moving up and down. Then on the monorail, she has all this room, but is like, on top of me. So I move over, and she moves closer, and that kept happening. Just a lot of that kind of stuff. So me and my new friends Kelly and Molly and my other friend Amber ditched her at Magic Kingdom, and yeah, we're not talking (not that I care). But now, I'm just really freaked out. I told my friends, and we thought about it for awhile, and a lot of stuff she told us before was all starting to make sense and we really think she's bi or a lesbian. So what should I do? I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I'm just really freaked out. I could probably say more, but I don't want this to be too long, so if you want more details, IM me on x HappyBunni16 x. Sorry so long, but I'm really scared.
P.S. I have nothing against lesbians, just when they hit on me and my friends.

Hey! ok first of all, just make sure you are positve! Don't assume if you're not sure! It's ok! I would just tell her VERY CALMLY how you feel! If she's really your friend, you will understand! Just make sure you let her know you have no problem being her friend, even is she is bi or a lesbian! Ya'll can still relate!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*
-*Marissa*-

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Me and my best friend Ashlee are REALLY close but lately shes been really into guys. I mean, I am just not the way she is ..I mean were 13 but I guess Im kind of prude. Well, one night Ashlee got invited to a party with my other 2 friends Lindsay and Courtney. A few other people in my circle of friends (And I) didnt get invited. But, I didnt think much of it and I didnt care at all. Then, the other day, I was on the phone with my friend Alex (Shes one person who didnt get invited either) and Alex told me that Courtney, who was at the party, told her that the party wasnt really a party. It was just a few guys and Ashlee, Lindsay, and Courtney. Courtney said they played spin the Bottle and Ashlee (Who had never kissed anyone before) made out with 4 guys at the party! The worst part was that she didnt even tell me. I dont know what to do! I told Alex (Swore on my life, basically) NOT to say anything about what Ashlee did (especially to Ashlee) because she would know Courtney told Alex and Alex told me! Im so depressed! what do i do?

It's ok...everu goes through both of the stages you have in here! (being prude and being into guys!) It's gonna happen! Don't get upset with your friend because she didn't tell you! Maybe she knew that you havn't really done a lot of stuff with guys, as well as it being her first time too! If the whole guy thing is bothering you, don't worry it's going on with me as well too! Just tell her that you're afraid and you don't want her getting hurt! Or maybe just ask her if she had a good time at the part and what they did! Eventually she'll open up when she feels compfortable! I'm sure she's not trying to hide it from you, maybe she just doesn't it spreading around at school!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd!*!*
-*Marissa*-

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My best friends obviously have other friends, but I get so jealous when they have a conversation and I'm not part of it! I get even more jealous when they hang out without me! I really don't want to feel this way but I can't help it! What should I do?

This happens to a lot of girls! Here's something you could do:
Tell her how you feel. If she's one of your best friends, she should understand. And if she doesn't, give her examples of how you feel left out and ask her how she would feel if she were in your position!
I hope it all works out!
-*Marissa*-

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oh well my friend has this really great boyfriend. and i think i might be jelous..but i dont know. she knows that i thinks hes cute/hot and i promised her i would never go out with him jsut for her. but im knida jelouse of her. what can i do? thanks!

HEY! ok look, i've been having the same exact problem so you're not the only one, girl! ok this is what i have done... i went up to my friend and told her, straight out, i thought i was jelous of her! i mean yes, it sounds SOO stupid but it will help! maybe she is jelous of you in some way too! she will tell you that you have nothing to be jelous of and if she gets mad at you for this then say that you're not trying to break them up it's just maybe her and her b/f have something you want, like a relationship!
* HoPe I HeLpEd!*
-*Marissa*-

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hi. ok . awile ago i put a question in here "my boyfriend is a druggie". ok well i broke up with him 2 weeks ago and yesterday i found out my former best friend had sex with him. and theyve only been friends for two weeks and he likes her and wants to go out with her and she likes him. and i sked her if she fucked him adn she lied to me and said no and evrything and i had two people tell me she did and so i set h er up. my friend called up the girl and said "omg , francesca found out you fucked anthony" shes like "nuh uh. how. shes not supposed to find out" and shes like well i told you not to tell her and shes like " i didnt" then shes like "well you fucked him right" shes liek "ya but shes not suppossed to find out" and i screamed at her and called her a nasty whore and a dumb bitch and a lot of other stuff. and i dont know what to do about her. i hate her but like i dont know what im gunna do to her monday. i wanna beat her ass but i cant afford to get in trouble. someone help please.

Something like that has happened to me and all i did was tell my friend all this nasty stuff like she was a bitch and a stupid slutty whore! but i realized that those words did not keep her from doing this with the guy! you can say all u want to her but it wont change the fact that she IS back stabbing bitch! i would just plain out tell her you dont want ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING to do with her!
Good luck

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