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I have a best friend which is a male while I am a female. We used to hang out alot in the past by going for movie, have lunch/dinner together and doing all sorts of crazy things until late midnight. We are so close till he will care for me when I am sick/sad and he usually shares his problem with me, and vice versa. We used to sms till late midnight too when we need someone to keep as companian when we're bored. Things had changed recently when he told me that he has a girlfriend. I was happy for him to get into a relationship but on the other hand, I was sad because I know things will not be the same anymore as it used to be. I know we won't do all these crazy things like we used to do before he got into a relationship. Somehow, I felt that he has forgotten me and he doesn't seem to care about me anymore now. Whenever I sms him, he replies very short as though he doesn't want to sms with me, giving me all sorts of reasons to avoid me (eg: phone low battery, busy) and there is no word of concern from him anymore. Last time when he was busy, he will definetely get back to me when he is free. I am very sad over this issue as I do not know how to handle this. I thought of forgetting him as my best friend and move on, but its difficult to do it. I have known him for about nearly 8 years now. What should I do? I really need an advice to overcome this problem and I always think of how boring my life will be without my best friend. How can I solve this friendship between him and I, I just want things to be like last time. Should I move on and forget my best friend?

Ive been through this, except its when my bestfriend (male) and his girlfriend broke up is when he kinda lost everything. We fought constantly over dumb things. He left sate for a while and we still fought. pointless friendship i suppose. Anywho, you need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel. I mean you've known him 8 years, why give up now? If he's any type of bestfriend he'll realize how much his friendship means to you and you dont want to lose your bestfriend.

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so 3 days ago my friend told me that she smoked weed that day. i pretended to be all cool about it and laughed along with him but i'm worried. he also told me that he got a months worth on cigs. what do i do? do i just let him or try to stop him or what??

I have this friend, actually bestfriend who use to smoke weed. He doesn't do it anymore and he promises me he wont because he knows i hate it more than anything. If they want to smoke, they are going to. There is probably little you can do to stop him. but you can talk to him about it, maybe see why he does it. && ask him if he could stop. or see if he can at least stop when you're around.

hope i helped.
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have you ever lost a friend? What did you feel like? Do you still miss him or her? I think I'm on the verge of losing my friend, and i just wanted to know what you have gone thru. Thanks.

wow i didnt just lose a friend. I lost my bestfriend about 2 months ago. I went from being with him everyday, talking to him every night on the phone till 12:30, and just wrestling around, having fun. to not talking to him, didnt see him. nothing. I couldn't help but cry it was the worst feeling. I at that time had 2 bestfriends and my other bestfriend hated it. He tried to keep my mind off of it, but the harder he tried the worse it got. When i didnt talk to the friend i lost, i felt worthless. I didn't feel like i belonged here & i thought of running away. && yeahhh me and him are talking again because i broke down one day, got drunk, texted him and that started our friendship again. It's kind of crazy but he was scared for me when i was drunk. But we are getting closer again & to be quite honest, although we are talking. i still miss him more than anything.

If you don't want to loose this sit them down and talk to them. Loosing a friend isnt fun, it's probably one of the worse things i've been through. So talk to them about it & be honest. I wasnt completely honest which is why i kind of lost my bestfriend. So just 100% honest, no matter what.

Hope i helped.
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Sorry this is kinda long but i relly need help!! PLEASE!

7th Grade, That time in your life you start to see who is actually your friends. It's only one friend with me. Say her name was... Jane. Jane and I have been BFFs since before preschool. Me and her did everything together. Anyways, in grade 3 i met a girl named, say.. Kelsey. Kelsey lived only a few houses away from me and we hung out a lot. (The longest we've ever gone with out a sleepover starting 5th grade, 8weeks) Kelsey was also a bit spoiled but i didnt mind she was still a good friend. Jane and Kelsey werent the best of friends and never saw eye to eye. Me and kelsey do everything together (I'm going to see Rihanna with her tomorrow!) and i can see how Jane would be a bit jealous. Well ever since before a camp i went to in the summer, Jane has been acting like a bi*** to me. I still wasnt shaving my legs then and she came up to me (out of no where), ran her hand up my leg and said when was the last time you shaved? No not said YELLED! to the whole camp. I also had streaks put in my hair before school started. I kinda went a little beserk and now there's a huge streak of blond right by my face. It looks BAD! Jane points it out to everyone I meet. I HATE IT!!! She makes up secrets about me that sooo aren't true and she tells my true secrets to people! I tlaked to her on the phone the other day and yold her. She said she just wanted to be one of those POPULAR grade 8s next year. I asked her if being popular was more important than being my friend. She didn't answer and i hung up. She done a lot more horrible things to me but if i wrote them all it would take you alll day to read this.
I reallyy need help and im stressing about this 24/7. She calls me a geek and calls me not smart and AHHHHH!!! Please help i sometimes cry myself to sleep. Sorry ity was sooo long but don't take that out of me by not answering the question.



PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

your friend Jane, is not a friend. when people try to become "popular" it tends to ruin them, ive lost many friends this way. People leave behind the ones who care about them the most just so they could get attention from others. Stick with your friend Kelsey she seems to be a much better friend. Don't let anything Jane says to or about you get to you, because its making her feel more powerful with what she does. Hope i helped.
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so, me and this girl used to be friends, but now we hate eachother. like really badly. And she always fights with me (even now) about the stupidest shit. Well, today, she talked shit behind my back.......and she thought I was doing something similar, but I wasn't.

My question is : what's the best thing to do? Confront or just ignore and leave them alone no matter how upset you are?

you have to ignore her. if you confront her its giving her more reason to fight with you. If you just ignore her she will eventually get tired and leave you a lone. She may say you are chicken or baby but thats just immature & you cant let that bother you. You are being the bigger person by leaving the whole situation a lone. & if you ignore it, things will get better. she wont try to start fights about stupid shit. you have to let it go.
Hope i helped.
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Well i have a problem im to nice i guess like when someone calls me a slut i get upset easily if someones says im ugly or calls me a bitch or anything i get upset and i cant have a fight with someone cause im too scared im 15/f by the way and when i see someone upset i get upset when i see someone ina fight i cry when someone tells me off i cant stand up to myself and i just start crying i need help :( please any advice that i can become a little bit tougher =[
Anything will do ?

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Thanks

I know exactly how you feel. When i see people upset it makes me upset as well. I dont know why it just does. But when someone tells me off i just think of it as i need to be the bigger person. stand up for yourself. people tell other people off because they think that they wont say anything about it and will just be scared of them. I have had people tell me off and they do it because they think that i wont say anything back, but difference is i will. You just have to stand up for what you believe is right and you have to stick up for yourself. Dont let people push you around like you are some little kid. Another reason they may be telling you off, maybe they are jealous of you in some way. You never know. when people call you names, you cant let that bother you. Because chances are they are doing it because they know it will hurt you. And by hurting you they are getting a kick out of it. just be like whatever, you cant let words like that hurt you. Ive been through the same situation nad i guess im still learning how to just ignore them. But it has to be done.

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