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Two of my supposed friends my friends have definitely been talking about me behind my back. How should I confront them? (link)
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That has happened to me before. First thing NOT to do is accuse them off the bat. They will accuse you etc. and then you guys will get REALLY mad and confused. I suggest you come up to them and talk to them normally then let the subject come up. That is when you make your move and tell them you know they are talking about you etc. (I suggest you get evidence first just in case, like ask ppl etc.) If they act innocent keep trying, do not try REALLy hard or they will gossip and completly ignore you all together. Ask them why and what have you done to them etc. etc. If you have to (and you are REALLy angry) be patient and act confused plus innocent if you are on your last nerve. Then, get some new friends, believe me there are a lot of good friends in the world. Your backstabbing friends are NOT true friends, so do not go begging back with them. Stand Strong. Hope that Helped!
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well my friend and i were going to go trick-or-treating together but then she got to know her neighbor (she is 19) and her son. it seemed like she was really nice and me and my friend usually went over to hang out with him but then today she told me that she had a problem with me and that i did something so im not aloud at her house any more or see the little boy. like holy i didnt do anything.. please help me!!! (link)
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This friend you talk about may have been either pressured to do so or was just feeling bad about something etc. She probably did not mean to say it like she did. Go and talk to her and see what you did wrong (if you did anything)and try to make things right between you two. If that doesn't work, do not lose patience and evaluate the situation. Is she the kind of person who would do that? Was something bothering her? Look for all the signs. If she plainly just has something against you, it is a lost cause, leave it be and find something/someone else to hang out with. It is not worth it if she will not tell you anything or speak to you. That is my advice. Good luck! Hope I helped a bit!
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I feel like I am not needed. Like I don't have a purpose on this Earth. I feel like if I was gone, no one would notice. And I honestly believe that no one would. I would be gone for weeks before any of my "friends" noticed I was gone. And my family, they would all move on extremely quickly. I am always forgotten, left on the sidelines, doing nothing, locked up in my room, wishing that someone loved me....
How do I get pass this? (link)
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You are needed. People would notice if you went missing. Your parents do care about you. It sometimes may not seem like it at first but your family would probably would not move on fast, or at all for that matter. As for your friends, if you don't think that they will notice if you went away then either talk to them and ask or make new friends.If you did not have a purpose on earth then you wouldn't be alive. Everyone has a purpose in life. We may not know what it is at first but eventually it will come. I hope this helped.
Also if you feel depressed get yourself into some summer activites. It gets you active and you get to make friends :)
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so theres this girl and we were friends for a long time since 5th grade .. but this year we kinda stopped talking.. idk why but the people who we hated in september now shes BEST friends with them.. and it made me mad in the begining but now it doesnt bug me.. so we made plans sometime in december when we were close and we had a great time and lauging and everything and then the next day we went to the mall and had fun again.. but then after that we started talking less and less everyday.. we were in the same math class and lunch table and we hardly talked to eachother..i felt like we werent hanging out and talking much so i decided to try to become better friends with her again by asking her to go to this carnival by my house and she said yes so i went to go pick her up except my sister(one of her friends but they dont do anything out of school) and her best friend(my sisters best friend) went too! so this girl who i invited wasnt even hanging out with me just talking to them because shes better friends with them and i was like in myhead.. uh hello i invited you ! so then when we got there they ran off and me and this girl started walking around but we ddint really have enouigh money to buy those bracelt things so we didnt know if we should buy tickets.. so for like 20 minutes we were like in dead silencewalking around.. and it was really awkward cause everytime i tried to start a conversation or laugh or something she would just be like..yeah..whatever and keep walking and so then i said how bout we go get more money from my mom and buy tickets and so she said yeah.. and so we went on the rides and laughed a couple times but it was still awkward around her.. i thought she was ina bad mood that night or something but then when we ran out of tickets on our last ride.. my sister and her friend came right behind us and i was left out again because im not really friends with the other girl either. idk if i should keep on trying to be friends with this girl or not..it seems like evry time i try to talk to her or hang out with her its so awkward sorry that its long.. (link)
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I had the same problem with a friend. If your not getting a good vibe when your around your friend, then stop acting desperate and find some new friends who actually care to talk to you. It is tough, I know, but believe me she is not the only person out there. There are probably like a lot of ppl at your school. Make friends with them. If she is not making an effort to she how cool and nice you are, then do not try to be friends with her. Still be nice and all though but make new friends. If she comes back to you....then do what your heart tells you to do. That is my advice.
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My cousin is a big person, she's fat and big chested. Some of the clothes she wears are really inappropriate. Yesterday she had on something that looked like her boobs were going to fall out. What should I say to her about the way she dresses? At school she's just a big joke with all the boys. They called he Double D Lottay and stuff. So what should I do? (link)
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If this is bothering you a lot talk to your cousin about it. Express yourself and tell her how you feel. That's my adivce. Simple but complete.
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My friend stopped speaking to me beacuse of her other friend. I tried to apoligize but it didn't work. We haven't spoken in like 6 months and I never see her anymore because she moved. What would you do in this situation? What do you think of my friend?
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My friend did the same thing to me for a couple of days...but not months! We made up...it was a misunderstanding. But, in your situation I advise you not to make an effort anymore. Yuo apologized and tried to talk to her and all she's doing is pushing you away. If she hasen't make an effort to say she's sorry or something then she is no good friend. Why even call her a friend? If it was because of this other friend that she won't talk to you then maybe she is hearing rumors or afraid to talk to you. I would just be your normal self and say hi to her sometimes and if she mumbles hi or says nothing well, it is life. Like you said she moved so if you say hi in a e-mail, letter etc. and if she just mumbles forget about it. Good friends will always saty and bad friends will be left behind. Do not be intemidated by her! Be yourself and find some other friends that deserve to know who you are. That is my advice.
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okay what would you do if this "friend" always ditches u for someone else and only hangs around you when she aint got nobody else? i mean we use to be really good friends but now she only wants to hang with this other friend and is beiong really mean? please help!!! thanks buh bye!! (link)
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People are like that, I know a ton of people who do it and guess what? They don't have many friends in the long run. If she doesn't give you her time don't give her yours. Is she even still a "friend?" If she keeps being mean to you ignore it and go on w/ your life. You will meet a ton of people like that....it is life. Luckly, by that time you will know what to do. So, go make some new friends, and do not ever beg or make her underestimate you. If she hangs around you when she has nobody else be nice...but you know what I mean....what true friend would ever walk away from someone loyal and then when they have noone come back to the loyal friend. That is my advice.
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all my friends are made at me except one. i didnt have that many friends anyways. i have all my classes with those peple that hate me!!!!!!! plz help! my life is a living hell!!!!!!
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First you should think of what happened between you and your friends. You should also try to talk to your friends that you are in a fight with. Try to go over what happened and why. Remember never stress out. I was once in your postition. Now I am not.My freinds and I are back together.
All it took was a little talk to see what happened and why.:)
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What would you do if you hated life but then all of a sudden your "friends" decided to hate you. ALL OF THEM? (link)
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Well a lot of people hate life and my friends once did that too me. It was because of a rumor or something like that....I would see what made them hate you all the sudden and then go talk to the one you think WAS the nicest. If they won't talk to you consider them an ex-friend. But don't try to hard, like really nervous kind a way, because if they see that they will hate you even more...it is weird. But if they don't even try..consider they were never your friends to start with...I mean if all your friends hated you..that would be discouraging but I'm sure there was someone who was your best friend. If all does not go right...think positive and go find some new true friends...your hating friends may realize how they were wrong.....hope all goes well
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