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I love to give advice and help people. I never think any question is too stupid or small, even if it's been asked a million times. Honestly, it's better to ask than remain in the dark. Some of my favorite quotes:
"People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us to see our own way more clearly."
-Brendan Francis
"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't."
-Erica Jong
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Whenever I am around people in my school or at concerts...I don't really talk. People say I don't talk that much. But I never know what to say! What do I say to people?!?! I am just quiet and I never really noticed it! I want to be more random and everything but I don't want to scare people haha. What do I do???
haha I was the same exact way, and still am sometimes (rarely now). Honestly, it may seem cliche- but just be yourself. People are just people like you. Just ask people how are you, or ask them something about school or what you're doing at the moment. Just start talking to them about anything. And don't worry about what people think, If you're just talking about normal things, I don't think anyone is gonna be scared by you=p.
okay so i have this guy best friend like literally best friend i tell him everything he tells me everything nd like well go out to lunch togehter hell walk me to my classes nd wait for me by my locker, like we dont like each other were just best friends nd all my girl best friends are always like ohh u deff like him nd shit nd all his guy friends are the same way cause well hang out alone just us two but weve never done ANYTHING but like weve been best friends for a while nd now im like feeling stuff.. is it just bc our friends are like putting thoughts into my mine or what? sry but i need help lol
If you've never thought about it before, it probably IS your friends just putting these thoughts in your head. I can really relate to this. But before you do ANYTHING you have to consider how important being friends is to you. I went out with a guy friend that I was REALLY close to and when we broke up...we hardly talked, and the whole time I just wanted to go back to being friends.
I'm not saying it would ruin your friendship, but consider it a lot before you do anything, and make sure what your true feelings are.
Ok well one of my close friend got into an argument with my little sister. So when there's nothing to tlak about with other peope my friend talks bad stuff about her and calls her a bitch.
And my sister always runs up to me during school at recess time (yeha really annoying) and then when she goes away my friend would like like "bitch..hope she gets run over by a car"
um..i think she's annoying sometimes but..kinda uncomfortable here! What can I do to shut my friend up nicely but not break our friendship?
The best friend talk thing,not us.
And I can't tell my sister to fuck off cuz she's super senstive
ugh..help me please?
A family bond will probably be longer than a certain friendship. If a friend talks bad about your sister, tell her you don't like when she says that stuff, because well, it's your little sister. Just ask her nicely to stop saying that stuff about your sister, and if she was a real friend- she would stop.
every time my frind whants to break up with some one she calls me to do it and then the boys which are my friens they get mad at me because they think i told her to break up with them how do i stop this and get my friends back
If you're friend can't break up with guys herself, is she even mature enough to be in a relationship? Next time she asks you to, tell her she has to learn to do these things herself, you're not always gonna be there. If she's your REAL friend she wont get mad at you, because she shouldn't be using you to do her dirty work for her.
ok i am in a really screwed up here... ok well my bestt friends are my sister and one other girl. we used to be friends with this other girl, but they dont like her anymore. andd i doo =/ i knoww that my sister and my other friend are way more important then her, but i miss being her friend. i mean we used to be so close!! and whenever i talk to her all my friends are like ewww why are you talking to her?.. do you like her.. how can you like her.. i know i shoould stand up for her and be like well i like her but i cant ruin anything with my family i mean everyone in my family and all my friends hate her. i dont know what to do? is it ok to be friends with her still? like i know its all you can be friends with whoever you want.. but this is my family i am giving up for her.. i just i feel like shes worth it, but idkk. i needd advice,, now! before something bad happens. thanks
If your friends don't like her, why don't you just hang out with her by yourself? I have many friends that don't get along with my larger group of friends, and my other friends always talk bad about them- but since she's a good person, I tell them that they have their opinion and they don't have to hang out with her, but I will. I don't think you're going to lose your family over one friend. And if people stop being your friends over who you hang out with, then were they really your friends to begin with? I know it sounds cliche, but it's very true.
My friend really likes this one guy, but I talked to his friend about it and he told me that his friend really didn't like her that much. She REALLY really likes him, and I don't want her to get hurt. Should I tell her?
The one thing that you should never do is get involved in your friends love lives. It never ends up good. Best advice is to let them actually talk and meet, and have them figure it out for themselves. Plus, he could have just told his friend he didn't like her much cause he was afraid to. If he gets to know her, he may like her. So encourage your friend to talk to him, get to know him, and have her find out for herself.
WHY is it ok for black guys to date caucasian chicks but it's not ok for black ladies to date caucasian guys.
Who says it's not ok? I've seen many black women date white men. I guess it depends on where you live, but it's becoming widely more acceptable now.
13/f
Me and a friend, lets call her Ann, have been friends since kindergarden. But now we never see eachother, hardly talk, and really have nothing in common. Then a week ago we had an agrument, I don't remember how it started, but I said she changed and started caring what the popular people thought and really wanted to be popular. When people started wearing their jackets backwards, she followed. When people started wearing converse, she did. When I told her I was getting an Ipod, she went out and got an mp3 player. She even said she was going to throw a party and make sure she invited some 'popular' people!! Then I asked why she wanted to be popular, they were just rude. She said she had some popular friends and they were nice. But they're not, hello I know them! Now we are not talking and she says I am wrong. So answer this: How can I be wrong if everything I said was true?
At your age, she is probably trying to find her identity and where she belongs. Almost the exact same thing happened to me and my friends. Don't try to convince her that these people are not her friends, she needs to find that out for herself. Just let her be, and if you two really don't have much in common anymore, maybe it's time for you to give eachother some space and find people you have more in common with.
sorry if this is long..
to start things off im 15/F..
my best friend and i have been friends since the 5th grade.(and by best friends, i mean you COULD NOT seperate us!) then towards the end of my 8th grade year i moved about 45 minutes away. we still kept in touch by phone calls and we always hung out. but this past summer was hard for me to get out places. i always had things to do, or i already made previous plans with people. and now i think that shes uber mad at me because i cant do anything. she says: "you said we would hang out over the summer.. and you go and make other plans" the thing is, ive had these plans since the end of the school year, its not like i can ignore them. and i really dont want to lose her as a friend, but now im not even in her profile, and its because i couldnt hang out.. when one of us can drive.. things will be different, because then we dont have to worry about getting rides places, but im wondering(AND HOPING!) that our friendship will last that long.. what can i do to explain to her that im not ignoring her or anything? and ive already tried to just tell her straight out. it doesnt work! any advice will be appreciated!
It's hard to maintain a friendship, especially when it's hard to hang out. I would suggest you taking time and writing her a letter that tells her how much she means to you and how you really want to hang out and still be freinds. I know it may seem like a corny thing to do, but it will show that you really care and want to make this friendship work.
Also, try to plan a special day, and if you can more than just one, where you guys can hang out for a long time. This will show that you are actually trying to hang out with her. Plan it out in advance so you guys can get rides and everything worked out.
Hope everything works out.