My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.
I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.
Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.
I think that's exactly what you should tell her because I mean, after all, that is why you don't want to be friends right?? She deserves to know that a person she considers a friend, really isn't friend material. I don't mean to sound like a bitch but, I don't think you are worthy of being her friend. If you pick friends based on whether they do everything the way you want, you're gonna end up being a lonely person. Just because you feel "uncomfortable" around her shouldn't mean that she can no longer be your friend......has she ever made a move on you?? My guess is no, probably because you're not her type>>so then why does it matter to you whether she's gay or not?
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19/female!
So i will admit, i don't get along with most girls. they just annoy the crap out of me! i do have like two good girl friends, and thats all! so i love hanging out with the guys all the time, their so real. the only problem is all they talk about is girls! their either talking about wanting to get with a girl, wanting to hang out with a girl or always texting girls! and sometimes when i'm with them they'll go meet up with girls and i'll just leave because i don't want to go! it's just annoying. does this happen to anyone else? i love hanging out with the guys, but i tend to get annoyed when all i hear about is girls! and i feel like i love hanging out with the guys because then i get all the attention, so when they start talking about another girls its a bit awkward.
I think that's the real problem...you just get a little jealous. I have always gotten along better with males rather than females too, and like you, I thought it was great being the center of attention. My deal with women is the fact that our gender can seriously be so PETTY and TWO-FACED!! Hangin with guys is a totally different experience, and for the most part a better one. LOL--I can't believe though that you didn't realize that by hanging with them you would be faced with the very things you say annoy you....they're guys-thst's what guys do!!!
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Im 16/f and my guy friend from middle school died on monday. His funeral is next monday and I want to go, I dont think my mom will let me because its a school day. What should I do?
I would explain to my parents that you knew this boy pretty well and that you would really like to be there--I wouldn't see why they would deny you that. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss--I can't even imagine what that feels like at your age. :(
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17/f, i feel like such a hypocrite. i always get mad when people judge people just by the way they look, act, dress, i'm very good at making friends & i am friends with every type of group in school.
however, in my english class, i sit in this corner, with these three girls who are very different (one girl pretends she is Australian, & pretends to have an Australian accent, and told everyone she has it just because she went there, over the summer..etc.) anyway, they all try to talk to me & they are nice & stuff, but i mean i don't have anything in common with them, & i just think every time i walk in there, oh great, those weird girls are going to bother me. & right after i think that, i feel so ashamed that i am judging people, i hardly know! & sometimes i just ignore them, & i feel so horrible after. how can i change my ways, with these people? i've never been like this before, i can't believe i act like this. :(
I'm not really sure that you're being hypocritical, I think it's just that, like you said, you don't have many things in common with them. Maybe too, the girl that is pretending to be someone she isn't is making you feel this way a little. It would me because I don't care to be around fake people. I wouldn't go on beating yourself up about this...just simply smile and say hello when you see them. Nothing says you have to become friends with everyone but being polite is always the best way to be.
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Why is it that I do better, socially, with people older than me? I'm 20 and almost all of my friends that I talk to are 30 and up. Some are even much older...like in their 60's and 70's. I'm not sure why but I feel like I relate better with them and have better conversations. My time spent with older people is more enjoyable than with those my own age. Is this normal?
In my opinion it's normal. I'm in my 40's and I get along really well with older and younger people but not my own age group. Were you a child that, when growing up, you were basically around older people all the time? That sometimes plays a part in it too, as well as just the plain simple fact that you might be more mature for your age. I bet that the people in their 60s & 70s find it very refreshing that a young person truly enjoys their company.
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ok me and my cusin and her friend and her friends little sister where about tew get jumped and you wouldnt want your little sister to get jumped so i ended up geting jumped for no reason but the good thing is i didnt have nothin wrong im just a little sore but then the girl with the little sister ran because she was tryna protect her little sister but my cusin ran and left me to get jumped and this is my second time bein with her and geting jumped so should i still be friends with her or ignore her please give me and answer and thank you those who do answer
I can understand he other girl with the little sister running off but not your cousin. Family is something you're suppose to be able to trust ,that they will have your back--she doesn't appear to be that person. You obviously can't dump her because she is family, but yes, I would definitely find other people to hang out with. I mean, seriously, what would she do if you were in a life-threatening situation.....run probably!!
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