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please help me..........
you know how in highschool how you form "groups" that you hangout with party with do things with...... see it's always been so hard for me to find the right one. i'm very preppy but at the same time wild.
i'm on the soccer team and the girls and guys practice together and hangout together and so we end up becoming friends whether we like it or not. it's a very stuck up group. everyone talks about everyone. basically everyone's insecure but covers it up by teasing and shit. i'm the most wild one in the group. i'm crazy and on trips i always do random things and have fun. some people think it's hillarious but most started to constanlty tease me saying i'm so retarted and annoying. i come off like the crazy girl that doesn't care what people think but deep down i do. it bothered me. so i stopped being wild. but that didn't really work. even when i was serious they (mostly the guys) repeatedly said crap about me behind my back...........because i was "the girl" to talk about. anytime i mess up....... like run out of gass in my car, forget to turn in a paper, show up late, they're like wtf she's so dumb. my bestfriend (who's been my bestfriend for years) happens to be the most popular girl on the team. she sticks up for me but it doesn't really do that much to stop them. all i wanted was to be around people that respected me. so i stopped hanging out with them and quit soccer for a couple months. i tried mingling with other groups. it was hard because everyone already has "their people" they hang out with and has their inside jokes and parties to go to. i didn't have fun with any of them. but i tried and tried. i missed my bestfriend and the girls i hung out with in soccer (bc the guys were the ones that mainly were the jerks to me) so i was just like fuck it im going back to my soccer click and i don't care what the guys say. but when i show up at the parties now they're always like ugg why is she here and they try to ditch me and my bestfriend said it's hard always sticking up for you! and i really need a job. and theirs a job opening that pays 10 dollars an hour at the soccer club. my bestfriend works there so it would be fun..........but so do all the guys :(
i don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!
i feel so sad :( (link)
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Oh God!!It is hard for you i know...There is only one thing you should do!Be yourself...Be spontaneous be you...You should tell your best friend stop telling others treat well to you...You should do it yourself...If you have a problem with guys then you should be the one who has to deal wiith it not your best friend...Go and work there if you are sure that you will not give up...Stop giving up and stop running away from your problems...The best solution is to deal with them...And being with those friends doesn't mean that you don't have to have other friends too...Right?Ok i hope i helped!Bye and good luck!
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when you hang out with a group but half the people like you and half of them don't should that bother you? like should you stop hanging out with them all together or keep hanging out with them and forget the bully ones? (link)
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If you don't have problem with that continue hanging out with them...But if you have hang out with the ones who like you...
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Ok so it was my birthday yesterday and my friend H brought this guy to my birthday, S. She told me he respect women, he's a really nice guy et cetera because I just got out of a painful relationship about a few months ago and I've been trying to move on. But I told my best friend A that if I didn't think there was any chemistry, she should try to see if she should go for him..
A and I have been tight forever and just three weeks ago she kept bringing home this guy who she really liked and I used to back off and give them privacy. But then he moved away so she was a little depressed and she said she wasn't sure if she wanted another guy.
So I met S and he was really hot and really sweet so I told pretty much all my friends I was into him and maybe it could work out.
So me and A practically spent the whole night with S. I danced with him and my friend K for an hour and she was kind of following him around after and making sure he didn't fall over drunk. Then he went outside to have a smoke and A and I left. Then he texted A and said someone had to keep him company so she was going to text back that *I* was going to come down. At that point, I was pretty down because it was 4 AM and I was like "I don't think he's interested", then A looked up at me and she's like "I'm sorry, honey... but I think he said he would do me because while you and me were talking E (this other guy) asked him or something like it, I'm not sure and he harsh thought I wasn't listening so he said yeah" so I was like ok...? And I told her to go keep him company because he was a nice guy and he was good for her so she looked at me all sad-like and she's like "No... no, I can't. It's your birthday" and I insisted and she said no and asked what she should text him with if I wasn't going down. She then about five seconds later she looked into the mirror and she's like "my mascara is running but I guess he'll have to deal with that" and she's like "I guess I'll go chat with him a little bit" and internally I was like wth? but by that time he had come upstairs and was sitting on the couch so we both went and talked to him till early hours of the morning. While he was talking to us, he was also texting this girl who he said he met last night and she wouldn't stop talking and now wouldn't stop texting and he kept texting back because he was drunk and she was sending pictures of herself and he was showing E and being like wth?.
And this morning, we were talking about him and A is like "Oh my god, do you remember when S texted me, it was so hot" and I was just like ok what just happened here?
Now, I'm not sure if S is interested or not. Even if he was, he was pretty drunk. I'm not even sure if he said that he would do A and now I think she's totally into him, she kept pointing out stuff they had in common last night to him. Am I getting this wrong but I was supposed to have a shot? She always jumps onto every available guy nearby and usually it amounts to nothing but I really like this guy I don't think I had enough of a chance to get to know him yet even because we were so all over the place last night and she pretty much just bluntly told me that she was going to go for him. What happened to chicks before dicks? (link)
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I don't thing that she is a real friend...NOWAY...She cannot understand you.....If you want this boy and any other try to be with him...Don't give up....Even if your "friend" wants him....You want him,right?????Do whatever you can good or bad to be with him....She is selfish....She wants all boys for her...This is not right!
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Hey I am really jealous of my best friend and recently I have become quite depressed about it and cutting out bits of skin and crying on a night. Her we go:
*We have similar personalities but its like whatever she says goes more than what I say
* She has a big immaculate house, a perfect family and generous parents and she doesn't act a bit spoilt at all but shes always complaing about her life to us.
* she can afford to go to posh gyms and restaurants and buy whatever she wants
* Shes really pretty, even though people say Im prettier, and she looks gorgeous in the simplest of outfits because she's born with a perfect tan and the perfect body.
* its all happening for her: boyfriend( that i fancy n could have had but was too shy to go for it wen she started likin him), partys, money, moving house, more friends
* shes buying all the clothes i want but she doesnt know it and i get depressed because people will think im copying her.
i could go on forever. Everyone likes me just as much as her its just its like she has more to offer and i know i seem like a depressed teenager but i need something to overcome this jealousy before i snap. luv rach xxx (link)
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You 2 are not real friends...So you could move on and forget that she exists.But i don't thing that the problem is her.You are not self confident.This is what happens to you.Trust your self!
You need to unerstand those things!
Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !
Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:
a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.
b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell.
c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.
Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!
d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self confidence in a way that it stays built!
Remember that everyone is special, everyone is different and others like you because you are different.
Furthermore, i believe that your friend is jealous of you.I am sure about it. boys,clothes,personality...
Honey, she is jealous of you.You can't see it she feels it..
Kisses, i hope i helped...Emily
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I am looking for some advice on what to do about this situation. I am in my mid 20's and have a friend who lives with her boyfriend. She pays about 80 percent of all the bills-and works two jobs to do it. The problem is taht her boyfriend is always putting her down and calling her names. There have been a cople of times where he completely explodes at her for some stupid reason and they get into a huge fight where she ends up crying. This happened the other night and she let it out that he has hit her before. After these kinds of fights I have the usual talk with her and tell her that she needs to get rid of him, that she can do better, and doesn't deserve this treatment. The thing is, the next day she will act like nothing has happened and it's never mentioned again.
The thing is, I really don't know what my place is in all of this. My mom said I should mind my own business and that it must not bother her if she hasn't left in the 3 years they have been together and my brother said I should just leave so I don't end up getting hurt. But this is my best friend and I hate to just sit by and see her put up with this. I can't believe that she can just forgive him for how he acts because I certainly can't and it just makes me seem like a jerk! What should I do? (link)
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Congratulations on being such a good friend.Your friend is afraid if letting him.I think that she understands that he is not right and that she shouldn't be with him but she just does not take the right decision.
Talk about it wuth her when everything is normal.If everything is fine now, talk about it with her and remind her all these things that he has done to her...Remind her all these times she was crying and remind her, her own words...Explain her that he does not respect her.Tell her that if he would really love her, he would behave better(for sure).If it is neccessary, tell her things that would hurt her.MAKE her understand.Maybe now, she will not understand your help but in the future she will adore you.
i hope i helped...
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My guy friend puts his hand on everyone's shoulder (guys and girls) when he's talking to them or whatever, standing or walking through the hallways. What's up with that? (link)
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Nothing wrong with that!I do it too.We do it when we want to show that we are fond of someone...
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Alright. Well. I Found Out In The Beginning Of The Year That My One Friend Alicia Said Something Pretty Hurtful About Me To Our Other Friend Jasmine. Well, Alicia Said Something About My Weight && It Was Mean. I Didn't Bring It Up Then Because I Was Too Embarassed && Stuff. But, Should I Just Forget About It? Or Bring It Up Now (Not Like Get Mad, But Ask Her About It)? Or Is It Too Late && I Just Should Let It Go? I'll Rate && Give Feedback. Thanks! (link)
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Talk to her...If it is so important to you, talk about it with her...Ok?But if i were you i would not talk to her.I would not let her know that i know what she told about me.And then, if i would be sure that she told sth else too, this period, i would talk to her.
But the "right" thing is to talk to her.You decide..Let me know what you are going to do.Ok????
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Usually when people talk to me, the first thing I think is more like
"Okay", "That's interesting", or
"That's nice to know."
Not much of an opinion or anything. Bleh... and I don't want to say anything stupid.
What can I do to change that? I don't want people to think I am ignoring them when I don't respond quickly or think I'm stupid if I say something wrong. (link)
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Before becoming really sociable, i used to be like this...I was feeling really anxious when i was chatting with other people...What i did?
I stopped thinking "what am i going to say now""what afoolish i am!!!"etc,
You know what is going on to you?You feel anxious and you don't let yourself free to express your thoughts etc...Right?
So, be u!Smile at others and if you want to make others feel that you are fond of them, then go there and talk to them.Say "hi!" or "How are you?"etc...
But the best solution is to let yourself free...Be you!!!!
I hope i helped!Kisses!!!!
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My two best friends, have started shop lifting and the other week stole £50 in value each I want them to stop because I don't want them to get caught.
I want to go shopping with them but if they're stealing and they'll get caught I will get in trouble to.
I think they're peer pressuing me to they all telling me to join in and its fun but I really dont want to.........
How can I get them to stop?????
Please help I rate high!!!!!!! (link)
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I understand what is going on and i know that this is wrong..You know it too so don't even think about behaving like your "friends".The best thing you could do is to make them understand too.
Explain them why you believe that this is not good.Tell them that they shouldn't tell you do this thing too.
But my opinion is that they are not true friends.Ok, think that they know that this is wrong but they don't care.You should stop being that close to them.Find other friends..Real friends, who want your own "Good"..They are not real friends.Think about their behaviour generally, and decide...
It would also help ask help from someone who knows them..Someone mature and understanding.Someone trustworthy...Let me know what's going on, ok???I hope i helped...Kisses...
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