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Long, I'm sorry
Ok so it was my birthday yesterday and my friend H brought this guy to my birthday, S. She told me he respect women, he's a really nice guy et cetera because I just got out of a painful relationship about a few months ago and I've been trying to move on. But I told my best friend A that if I didn't think there was any chemistry, she should try to see if she should go for him..
A and I have been tight forever and just three weeks ago she kept bringing home this guy who she really liked and I used to back off and give them privacy. But then he moved away so she was a little depressed and she said she wasn't sure if she wanted another guy.
So I met S and he was really hot and really sweet so I told pretty much all my friends I was into him and maybe it could work out.
So me and A practically spent the whole night with S. I danced with him and my friend K for an hour and she was kind of following him around after and making sure he didn't fall over drunk. Then he went outside to have a smoke and A and I left. Then he texted A and said someone had to keep him company so she was going to text back that *I* was going to come down. At that point, I was pretty down because it was 4 AM and I was like "I don't think he's interested", then A looked up at me and she's like "I'm sorry, honey... but I think he said he would do me because while you and me were talking E (this other guy) asked him or something like it, I'm not sure and he harsh thought I wasn't listening so he said yeah" so I was like ok...? And I told her to go keep him company because he was a nice guy and he was good for her so she looked at me all sad-like and she's like "No... no, I can't. It's your birthday" and I insisted and she said no and asked what she should text him with if I wasn't going down. She then about five seconds later she looked into the mirror and she's like "my mascara is running but I guess he'll have to deal with that" and she's like "I guess I'll go chat with him a little bit" and internally I was like wth? but by that time he had come upstairs and was sitting on the couch so we both went and talked to him till early hours of the morning. While he was talking to us, he was also texting this girl who he said he met last night and she wouldn't stop talking and now wouldn't stop texting and he kept texting back because he was drunk and she was sending pictures of herself and he was showing E and being like wth?.
And this morning, we were talking about him and A is like "Oh my god, do you remember when S texted me, it was so hot" and I was just like ok what just happened here?
Now, I'm not sure if S is interested or not. Even if he was, he was pretty drunk. I'm not even sure if he said that he would do A and now I think she's totally into him, she kept pointing out stuff they had in common last night to him. Am I getting this wrong but I was supposed to have a shot? She always jumps onto every available guy nearby and usually it amounts to nothing but I really like this guy I don't think I had enough of a chance to get to know him yet even because we were so all over the place last night and she pretty much just bluntly told me that she was going to go for him. What happened to chicks before dicks?
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first of all *happy birthday* lol
i can understand where you are coming from because it's probably not just like "oh, we both like the same guy." it's more like, she wants everyone for herself, and she's taking this chance away from you when you probably have real feelings or have real interest in him. i think that you need to sit down with this guy and tell him "listen, it was really nice meeting you the other night. maybe we can hang out some time and get better aquainted because it's hard to find good people to hang out with these days." that way you can be flirting but not giving completely in to him at the same time so you keep him guessing, and you're friend can't say that you did anything bad because you didn't like tell him "oh we're going on a date" you just mentioned that you guys should hang out. see what i mean?
sometimes friends can be our worst enemies, and that is the way it is at all ages with all girls. i think that real friends do exist and we have to find them wisely, but we also have to be very careful, because people tend to put themselves first. so, you don't have to be straight out with your friend that you are close to about this. you can just simply be like "did you have a good time at my party?" and then ask "so what about that guy you were talking to, do you think there is something going on?" and then get her perspective about what she thinks of him. then ask about all the other guys and if she still has feelings for any of them. that way maybe she will get the hint that these other guys haven't really been important to her. maybe she will say that this time it's different or something
my suggestion though is that you go for it. i know that she's your friend and everything. but if she is, you owe it to her to tell her the truth and if you really like this guy, you should be able to have the oppertunity to have a chance. and find out more about him, see if he's the guy you think he is and if he sounds like someone that you want to be with before you're friend finds out you like him. my advice is get to know him, and if you like him, go for it
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I don't thing that she is a real friend...NOWAY...She cannot understand you.....If you want this boy and any other try to be with him...Don't give up....Even if your "friend" wants him....You want him,right?????Do whatever you can good or bad to be with him....She is selfish....She wants all boys for her...This is not right!
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