my friend is being really distant right now. do you think it is just a stage (weve been friends most our lives) and we just need some time apart or is it something else. what should i do.
Friends grow apart its normal. You cant force a friendship but you still have to put effort into it if you want it to last. Try hanging out with other people too but put an effort in to trying to spend more time with your friend if she tries to too. If things just keep staying the way they are yall may just be growing apart. it happens, but you just have to move on.
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my friend is so desperate. she will take any guy, even the most perverted ones! She is one of my really good freinds and I just don't know what to do. Even outsiders tell me she acts and looks desperate. WHat should I do? Should I talk to her? Or leave it alone? Please help! Thanks
tell your friend this but in the nicest way possible. most likely the reason she acts so desperate and will take any guy is because her self esteem isnt very high. So to help her build her up. Give her compliments and tell her why she deserves better than the guys she has been settling for. You have to be careful on how you phrase all of this to her because you dont want to hurt her, but the best thing is to just tell her the truth. What your friend needs most right now is for you to build her up so she can realize for herself that she deserves guys that are better.
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One of my best friends, who I've known since we were toddlers, is starting to really get on my nerves. She tries to be like the popular people ALL the time. She doesn't buy clothes from the "it" stores, but she tries to act like her clothes are the best... like, she rolls up her sweatpants like everyone else does (which I hate, but that doesn't really matter) and tries to make her hair have that bump on the bottom when she wears a ponytail. But... it comes off looking reaaaaally bad on her. Then, when she's talking to people, you can tell that she thinks that she's better than them, even when she's obviously not. And she always ditches me for her other friends just so she can be "popular"... like, my other best friend waits for me at the end of all of the classes we have together, but this friend just walks out the door talking to a different person every class. It really ticks me off. Although, when we're alone, she acts like she always used to. I think its great that my friend wants to try and be... cooler... but she's really hurting her other friends feelings, since I know she ditches my other best friend (we're a trio) all the time. And the thing is... her new friends are almost all geeky and nerdy. What should I do??? I don't want to seem like I'm telling her what to do.
my advice for you on this one is to just let your friend try to do the whole "popular" thing, dont really tell her what to do just let her experience it for herself. If she ever needs you be there for her and if she asks you how she looks tell her honestly. Most likely she'll realize that its not worth trying to be popular when she has a bestfriend that she loves and that will stick by her no matter what. It may take some patience with her but i think its something that your friend has to learn for herself, that being popular isnt everything and actually having 2 close best friends is way better than having all the aquaintences in the world.
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Well i have this really good friend and she had to move away with her dad cuz her parents got divorced well anyhoo, my friend left a lot of her friends behind and i always try to call her but she usually doesnt call me back she doesnt even talk to her best friend she only talks to one person and thats all. She kinda hurts all of our feeling when she doesnt call us and she is never home! Well gaby09 what do you think i should do? Should i confront my friend or just go on like this... I mean i really miss her. ok well i hope you dont feel pressured for me asking you this but if you have the itme I would really appreciate it.
Well i just moved so i kinda can see from both sides of the story. When you first move your really busy...school..making new friends...unpacking..and just all that stuff. For the first couple of months ur friend might not call u back...but i would encourage you to keep calling. if you do she'll realize you do want to talk to her and care about her (the ones that keep calling after the second week or so are always the truly good friends)If she still doesnt respond i would just send her a letter telling how much you miss her and to call. if she does call tell her to make sure ot keep in touch! make sure if you do confront your friend do it kindly cause the "moving time" can be tough...she probably just needs someone to talk to but is busy and under some stress. Lemme tell you i dont kno all the answers but this is just how i feel when i move. I hope i helped you...yeah i kno this is sooooo long!!
Gaby
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ok so i have this friend that i know loves me like a sister but doesnt act like it. when were always talking, she blows things out of porportion. and i feel bad b/c sometimes i make it seem like i'm mad at her even though i am but i dont want it to seem like that. it really sucks because shes a sister i never had and i dont want it to be like this. i'm so sick and tired of her doing the things she does and it sucks! ugh...! help
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alot of times friends are mean to each other just BECAUSE of how close they are. Just like you said...like sisters. But sometimes they dont think that the other person really gets hurt by wat they say..or mad. So just try talking to her seirosuly and telling her wut you feel. If yall are as close as you say she should totally understand. Make sure you say it in a caring way you dont want her to get the wrong idea! Hope i helped!
Gaby
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I just moved here from a different state & I'm starting school on Monday next week. I'm extremely nervous, I've never moved schools before & I'm 15. Pretty much, my question is: At lunch, I'll probably be sitting by myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on some things I could do to interest me, while sitting at lunch by myself. I don't want to look stupid and just sit there and stare around at people. I want to be able to do something. I'm not going up to people and asking them to sit with them because, I'm not that type of person. Thanks for your help.
I move around alot so i kno exactly wut your going through. Try to make the best impression you can in your classes before lunch. If your seem sweet and kind enough chances are someone will ask you to sit with them. Hope it works!
gaby
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