hEY iM MELiSSA.
iM REALLY ENERGETiC AND i LOVE TO PLAY SPORTS. MY FRiENDS WOULD DESCRiBE ME OUTGOiNG, ATHLETiC, SMART, NiCE, AND GOOD AT GiViNG ADViCE, SO i DECiDED TO USE MY "TALENT" TO HELP OTHERS. i AM REALLY FRiENDLY AND EASY TO TALK TO SO PLEASE DONT BE SHY AND ASK ME ALL THE QUESTiONS YOU WANT TO.
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
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Okay so i have a friend, lets call her Maria. Maria is one of my best friends and I'm pretty sure I'm one of hers. I think that she is really sick. She told 2 of our friends what was going on. Apparently she had to go to a hospital or something and she is going to be absent for like two weeks or something. She hasnt told me anything. I have asked her whats wrong and she replied "personal problems" on texting. I've called her and she hasnt answered. I have texted her asking for details. I have IMed her, but when I do puts up an away message. I am really concerned about her and its hurting me that she doesnt feel like she can tell me. What can I do to get her to tell me, or at least talk to me? (link)
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Visit her and tell her you are really concerned about her. Also tell Maria that it really hurt you when she didn't tell you what was going on. It is probably a hard time for her so don't come off as mean, just be really sincere.
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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13/f my best friend and i have know eachother for 3 years. We had two major fights that lasted atleast 1/2 a year each and i know her to well and i noticed shes changed. In the sixth grade we both made a promise to eachother as to not let eachother turn into a preppy know-it-all b***h. and now we dont talk as much as we used to and she started hanging out with the people she said she hated (preps) she tried to go anorexic too because she thought she was fat, and shes not even close to it, but i made her eat. Shes been really bitchy latly too. the other day we were texting and then she started saying how she was fat and i told her she wasnt fat at all. then she says well atleast i care about how i look unlike someone. and she was refering to me because im not one of those girls who spends 2 hours on hair, make-up and all that stuff, more like 30 minutes. Well she said sorry after and she made up the crapiest excuse ever and said that she was just moody and i know that she only says that when shes lieing to i have no idea what to do because i've tried talking to her and that just ended up with us yelling at eachother so please help me i dont want to lose my best friend (link)
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She is probably feeling bad about being anorexic. She realized you were right about having to eat, and she is mad and happy at the same time. If that makes sense. Like she feels its her business, but at the same time she is really happy you did it.
Just talk to her and get it settled out. Then go to the movies or something. Or vice-versa.
Good luck
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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heres the problem this may sound crazy but ive had a freindship with this guy who lives in a diff. state and we never met before, and we almost talked on the phone before. hes my age 13 and i talk to him alot i fully trust him dont tell me hes some rapist hes real hes given me proof and ive talked to his sister. but like i said i have alot of trust in him i tell him everything all my secrets and he tells me his too and i feel so stupid when i tell him "your a really great friend i love you and care for you so much, and so on but when i tell him he just types "aw thank you" and...what do i get??
just that i dont get the same thing back.
i would like alittle credit i mean ive known him for a year now but..i never once get any credit he worries me so much bc he gets beat up and teased for the way he dresses (tight pants ext.) and god i think bout him more than anything.
so can anyone tell me the problem why he wont give me any credit? and when he tell each other stuff he just types "but we tell each everything we cant secrets from each other blah blah"
WHY WONT HE GIVE ME CREDIT?!
and i need to hear something positive :( (link)
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He probably just wants to really meet you before he says anything. Im not saying meeting him is a really good idea, but I think that is what is going on. If you do meet him bring your parents and make sure he brings his. It might make things a little less comfortable, but safer.
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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I do track with some of my friends who are juniors and I'm a freshman. Whenever we hang out we laugh soo much and we have a really good time but we never hang out outside of track and I want to, but I don't want to be like the clingy loser freshman girl or like I don't want to be like hey do you want to go the movies?!! and have them be like uh..actually I can't I have to do something.. I guess I just can't handle rejection haha. What should I do because I really don't want to sit around and wait for them to ask me. Help please :) (link)
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Instead of just asking the juniors invite some of your freshman friends too. Say something kinda casually like, "Hey, I'm getting some people together to...."
If they laugh with you a lot on the team, I really doubt that they would say no unless they really did have something to do.
Good luck
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MELiSSA
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13/f. Im not sure how I like my friend. As in bff or bf. Weve been really close friends for a long time then he started saying bffs so I did to because I tell him more than my other bffs and he tells me a lot and were always there for each other. But then we flirt so much people think or say were dating or should but were not. He knows I liked him I know he liked me but I have no idea now. I went to a paintball party last night. We both go paint balling a lot then at the party my team was my 5 bffs 3 of their bfs and my ?bff?. I would mainly go with him. And we flirt so much that’s what im so confused about. He was showing off and showing me off and when we separated he was looking for me and worried? But im the kind of confused gothic rough girl and hes the kind of prepy nice guy. Other guys I used to like and they liked me would be rough im rough to everyone also. But hes to nice. Is that what it should be like. But hes been wearin a lot of black and going depressed. Does that mean something. But then we do joke or do shoot each other on purpose. And my other bff and her bf broke up that night so I went with her. So he knew so he went to get him. Then we went around me my bff(my ?bff or bf?) and my other bff (she just broke up). And he was talking to her about something ‘top secret’. later on she(bff he was talking to) started truth or dare. And it started out just my 5 bffs and him(bff) and another guy. I kept doing truths I was just to nervous. I knew it was a setup. He asked truth to me if id ever take a dare. Then my bff asked truth to me if I liked him then truth to him if he liked me we both said no. I regret it. Everyone already knew anyway but im just not sure if I like him bf or bff? And ive never kissed or been kissed. That’s what it was supposed to be. I thought wed start taking it longer than just a ‘dare’ kiss like making out or something. I like him as a bf then bff then bf then bff I just am not sure whats wrong. Hes all I think about and write about.
Do I like him as a boyfriend(bf) or best friend(bff). How does he like me?
What should I do? What should he do?
How do you kiss? Ive never had a bf! But I turn down a lot of guys.
how would i tell my mom?
How do I change what happened?
What else should I do? (link)
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hmm this is a hard one.
I think you should tell him you like him. Tell him that you felt you were on the spot last night or whenever it happened. Tell him that you really do like him and then ask him how he feels about you.
Since you guys are so close, you will probably stay friends, even if it doesn't work out.
Good luck!
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MELiSSA
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But my bff has this crush on a boy and i met him today. and oh my gosh he's so cute and funny and a type of guy i would like and he just seems like a guy for me. but she really likes him. and i know i'm not stupid i'm not going to tke him or be like hey bff i like him now too and ruin our friendship cause that just messed. but idk what to do to stop myself from liking him and right now i just want a guy so bad. i know thats so stupid but right now i don't have crush to crush on i have nothing no one and idk what to do. i don't wanna like him but i think i'm starting to and i can't help and i don't know what to do to stop liking and i just don't wanna stop talking to him. so do i just let myself like him and try to control the flirting and not tell my bff? or what? (link)
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See what happens in their relationship first. Then tell your friend that you like him if it doesnt work out for them. Telling her right now wouldn't be a good idea, because she could get mad.
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MELiSSA
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Hey. I'm thirteen/female and my friend Jill invited me to go to her birthday party. I moved away from the town she lives in when I was in fourth grade, but I go to these parties every year. See, this year, I want to go, and see all my old friends, but I'm nervous about meeting the new people Jill has become friends with. What should I do? And it's a sleepover party, and calling to go home at a sleepover would be kinda, idk, just like, not our age type thing to do. Should I go and see if I have a good time [ I usually do], or not go and save myself possible nervousness? (link)
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GO!
Meeting new people may be nerve-wracking, but if you make a new friend the possibilities are endless! Plus its a tradition for you to go. If you don't Jill could be mad.
If you decide not to go: make sure you get her a present. It could be just a giftcard, but maybe send like a fun sleepover package in the mail with like a movie, popcorn, candy, and a magazine. That would be an amazing present, and show that you really wanted to go.
(you could do that even if you do go)
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MELiSSA
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