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I love helping others. I may be young & to be honest I have NOT experienced everything there is to experience, but nonetheless I am a good listener. I am creative & intelligent, so I can hopefully give you some helpful advice. =]
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i am in 7th grade and i have a friend who i have known even before skool we were always the best of friends but then she moved to a different skool and well we have hip hop together with some other of myfriends and when i am there she never even says a word to me and it really hurts she has always been a good girl and now she is just so caught up in her looks and she she hangs out wit and boys and all my other friends think this to and i dono if i should be angr wit her and all that ir if i should just forget about it cause when i see her and she doesn't even reallt notices me it jind of hurts my feelings please help
i think that you should talk to her about it. if you would rather not do it to her face, talk to her online, send her an e-mail, or slip her a note at dance. you should tell her you miss hanging out with her, and ask her if there is a reason she hasn't seemed very interested in talking to you recently. tell her you know she has a new school & new friends, but that doesn't mean she can't have her old friends too. if this doesn't work, you need to know that sometimes friends just grow apart - it's sad, but at least you had a great friendship you will always treasure. but i would try talking to her first, before deciding the friendship is over. hope this helps!
does anyone have any ideas what to do tonite?! i had plans to hang out with the guy i like but of course those didnt work out. Now me and my friends want to do something but they dont know what so they depend on me to figure it out. the mall closes at 6 and the movies would be kinda boring and we want to be outta the house. any ideas?! I rate 5's!!! Thanks soo much!
go out to dinner (you should probably call ahead, it will be busy!) then maybe get ice cream. then u can go home & hang out together, or if you really don't want to go home, the movies might not be so bad, but deff. go out to dinner!
Ok, so i have this friend named *ang* and she was my friend the whole sumer. I was either talk to her on the phone, she was over, i was over her house, or she was at the pool with me. Ok so when school came, this friendship went down, she turned into a wana be popular girl, anging out with them, and turned into a backstabber. We still stayed friends. So i decided to take dance with *ang* and she was so happy and so was I! So tonight is our dance recitle, and she hates me. She caleld me a bitch, she gets into my email account, but then, after, she just comes back to me. and me being to soft harted i accept her apoligy. If i doont, she gets totaly mad and starts spreading bad rumors. ive told my parents, and ive told teachers, and en talked to her, nothing has worked. please help me solve this problem.
you should not be friends with someone who treats you like that. if she still spreads rumors, etc., just don't pay attention, you don't need to lower yourself down to her level. if it gets to a point where you can't deal with it, you need to speak to an authoritative figure. i know you said you already spoke to adults, but you need someone who can step in & talk to her as well. maybe you can sit down with her & a teacher or parent all together. good luck & i hope that she stops!!
Does anyone know any songs about lost friendships? I'm kinda going through something right now, and I'd like a song to relate. Thanks!
Mary J. Blige - "Friends"
Christina Vidal - "Thought That We Were Friends"
Ill Nino-"Two (Vaya Con Dios)"
Char - "Girlfriend"
Jimi Hendrix - "My Friend"
Please only answer this question if you're not mean or a smart aleck, and you're mature. Thanks!
Anyway, I have a friend that I've known for many years. Her parents are going through a divorce. I know she's hurt, and I want to be there for her, but here's the catch.
I've noticed that we're growing apart. She hasn't talked to me for a long time, except for the few times we've talked on AIM, and I started all of those conversations. She hasn't tried talking to me at all, and we haven't talked about the situation, even though she knows that I know about it (She wasn't the one who told me about it). It's been weeks since I've been aware of this.
At first I wanted to give her time, which I have, since I haven't said anything to her about the situation. Now, I'm fed up.
I'm sick of us not talking. She has made no attempt to talk to me, even casually. Like I said, all AIM conversations were started by me. I want to help her, but I can't if she won't say anything to me about it. I just wouldn't feel right starting up a conversation about it because I'm unsure if she is ready to talk about it.
What also irritates me is the fact that we've been friends for so long, and yet she (like I've said) hasn't tried asking for my advice or anything. I feel like I'm not a good friend; like she doesn't feel that she can open up to me because she's embarrassed (or for whatever reason), even though I don't know if that's the case. What I'm saying is that she should know that she can come to me, talk to me and ask for advice, and not be embarrassed.
It makes me sad that I can't be there for my friend, and that she's not talking to me. What should I do? Please help. Thanks so much!
my sister went through the same thing. eventually my sister decided to just tell her friend that she knew she was going through a hard time & if she wanted to talk about it, she was there for her. her friend still didn't love to talk about it, but sometimes my sister would ask a question. if your friend gets mad or upset, just explain to her you were just making sure she was okay, and that you care about her alot. i know its tough, but good luck!
okay theres this guy i like alot
i was in the lunch room sitting waiting for school to start. and well he homes, unxeepectidly. and i was by myself and well he sat at the table i was at. it was wierd. then i was in the thearter for a welcome back to school assembly, but there was a empty seat next to me because i cant stand sitting by the wall. and so i just went into the second seat. and guess what. HE SITS NEXT TO ME! and we talked alot. like the assembly was atleast 1 hour long. and well we were talking the whole time
hes inn all of my classes and hes by my locker. if i have locker troubles he helps me.
he opens the door for me.
he sits by my lunch table like behind me and if i drop something he will pick it up.
do you think he likes me?
because i think we are really ment to be we have SO much in common i really need the answer becasue my friend is oging to ask him out for me tomorrow && he said he will sit with me in class or behind me.
what do you think? i need your opinion.
ill rate :)
from the way you describe it, it sounds like he could possibly like you. i can't give you an exact answer though, cuz i don't know him. but it sounds like he is sending u signals, or AT LEAST wants to be your friend. i hope it works out well!
well the other night i was at my friends house and i was kinda sad becuase my friends wouldnt do anything me or my friends sister wanted to do so me and her sister went downstairs and i said something i shouldnt have and now i dont mean it i wish i could take it back and i want my friends back does anybody have any advice to give me and i told them i was really sorry and didnt mean it thanks
I ADDED MORE (2ND PARAGRAPH)!
Hey...I know how you are feeling, but at least you apologized. I would try apologizing again (only if you really mean it) and tell them exactly why you said what you said. It is kind of hard for me to give you anymore help seeing as I don't know exactly what you said. I am sure I could help you more if you leave me a message on my column, or even just in your feedback about what happened. I really hope everything works out with your friends & you.
Well now that you have told me about your problem, I think that you had the right to be mad. However, next time tell your friends how you are feeling, instead of their sister. I think you should call them up or meet them somewhere and tell them you are sorry you said this about them, but it is how you truly feel. They can either except this, or not...it just goes to show who are your true friends. Apologize in a sincere way to show them you didn't mean to hurt them, but at the same time explain to them that the reason you said it was because you were feeling hurt in the first place. I really hope all goes well!
i'm a 15 year old girl who is friends w/ this guy whose turning 16 in a week. i dont know him that well, but he invited me 2 his party. what should i get him? (i can spend like $30)
I would go with a gift certificate to either a CD, movie (DVD), or book store (borders, barnes & noble, etc.). You could also ask his friends if they can think of anything! Hope this helps.
A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!
also, she is my best friend & it was very nice of her to invite me & I would feel bad saying no now...i just don't know!
I am having some friends over today and there gonna be over for like 5 hours before our cheer practice and I have no idea what we can do I don't have a pool just a trampoline I mean I live in a place where we can go for walks and stuff but thats boring anty ideas on what we can do? I'll rate high
well you can go on your trampoline, watch a movie, have snacks, play a game like truth or dare or ten fingers,play charades by each writing your own ideas on paper, you can make a movie on a video camera (or tv show, or talk show...these are funny to watch afterwards), you could have people bring clothes & swap them & model for each other (maybe take digital camera pictures) you could play a game like dance dance revolution if you know someone who has it that can bring it, you can just talk while tanning outside, give each other makeovers...hope this helps!
ok. I almost lost my home yesterday because of a huge flood. and i was to call my "best friend" on the phone. and this is the conversation.
me: hey
her:hey I heard about the flood
me: yeah, they might not let us back in our houses for 2-3 months.I'm basicly homeless.
her:oh well I have 2 friends over and I don't want to be rude
me: *scoffs* yeah ok bye
her:bye
....there were only two friends of mine that said "hey well if you need a place to live you can come here" if my "friend" was actually my friend why did she blow me off in my time of need?
First of all, I am sorry about your house.
Now there could be more than one reason your friend acted the way she did, so before you make any assumptions it is best that you talk with him/her. If you don't know what to say try one of these:
"Hey, I wanted to let you know when you ignored me yesterday, it really hurt, especially since I am going through some hard times right now."
or
"Hey what was up with you yesterday when I called you with a problem and you didn't even seem to care?"
If you talk to your friend, it will clear things up, and then at least you will know what is going on!
I hope everything with your house & your firend works out okay!
my parents have to find a place for me to stay for thursday to saturday but the problem is my mom set me up at my bff's house but im mad at her and i think we are separating apart from each other cause i have new bffs but i dont no how to tell her i dont want to stay at her house because my bff is on the same bus as my other bff so she will no im staying at her house what do i do?????????
signed
Lonely
Dear Lonely,
First of all, you should probably rethink your friendship with your first BFF. Why are you mad at her? Is one fight really worth ending a whole friendship over? If you still feel that strongly about staying at your new best friends house, you cannot keep this a secret from your other friend, or the fight will only become worse. You simply need to explain your feelings to her, and hopefuly she will understand. If not, remember -you tried to do the right thing.
Good Luck,