I look like my mother in this picture...is that a good thing?! Lol.
I often feel like I have been through far too much for my age. I've battled depression (several times), emotionally abusive relationships, men walking all over me, an eating disorder and a suicide attempt and I still pulled through. And if I can then you can too.
I'm a great listener, so feel free to ask me anything, I WILL reply to you. Be warned though, my advice is very blunt and I'll say exactly what I think! But then 9 times out of 10 people need to hear the truth rather than be wrapped in cotton wool!
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My brother wants to break up my boyfriend and i because we are not ,talkin what should i do? (link)
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Well the good thing is that you've recognised that these are your brothers intentions - can you imagine if you had no idea that he was trying to cause touble? He could be telling you anything, and you could be believing it!
But as we both know what your brother is doing is wrong. This is why you need to sit down and tell him (as nicely as possible) to butt out. Chances are he's just being overprotective of his sister, but obviously he's doing more harm than good. If he still persists then all you can do really is to ignore it. Tell him if he carries on like this he'll lose you - as it would be hard for you to have any respect for him if he treats you like this! Hope I helped and if you need any further advice don't hesitate to drop me a line!
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My absolute best friend in the world.. will not stop talking about killing herself. She lives about half an hour away from me and when I ask her to hang out with me, all she does is say "oh it's about time you asked".. I respond with "I'm sorry.. exams and stuff were in January and you know it wasn't a good month..". And then I asked her to go to this concert that my friend's band is in and she said "No, I'll be the ugly duckling among all those beautiful swans. I'm sick of being the ugly duckling." I seriously don't know what to do. Everything I say she responds with "I'm gonna bash my head into a wall and die".. stuff like that. It's really starting to scare me. I've tried EVERYTHINg you can possibly imagine, and I'm in tears right now. I need help. PLEASE. (link)
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This might sound harsh but rather than your friend being actually suicidal, it seems like she might be trying to emotionally blackmail you. If you have other commitments a true friend will understand - I have been at University for 3 years and don't see some of my best friends for 75% of the year! Yet they understand, and she should too. It's not like you're not making an effort - I imagine if you asked her to do something just the two of you then she would jump at it, as it seems like she doesn't want to have to 'share' you at this concert. However, there is obviously no way you could ever say this to her...and I'd like you to bear in mind that it SOUNDS like emotional blackmail but doesn't necessarily mean it is. I suggest you talk to her parents about everything she's said: if she really is suicidal then clearly something has to be done and she needs professional help - her parents would need to take her to the doctor who should be able to get her professional help. And if she isn't really suicidal then this should nip it in the bud, as her parents would obviously talk to her about it and no doubt she'd be embarassed and hopefully this kind of behaviour would cease. If you need any more advice then just drop me a line. Hope this helps!
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My friend doesn't live in the same city as me--in fact, it's quite far from where I live. I barely see her anymore. We hardly ever get to talk to her on the phone or online. Lately, I've been missing her a lot. I'm not sure if she still even considers me her "friend." Sometimes I wonder if she still cares about me, because she never picks up her cell when I call... Is there anything I could do?
Thank you. (link)
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It's always difficult when people move away from each other...but it's not impossible to remain friends - people do it when they move away to University or college all the time! However it sounds like you're doing all the running which just isn't fair. By all means email her or send her a letter but you may have to accept the fact that your friendship might not last the distance - I lost my best friend of 8 years the same way and it really upset me, but somtimes it is inevitable. If the friendship is doomed then it'll fall apart no matter how much effort you make, so if I were you I'd concentrate on making new friends. Hope I helped :S
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My best friend just broke up with his girlfriend and it made me really happy, does that mean that I like him? Or do you think that I'm just happy because now he'll give me more attention? (link)
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That's a really tough one! How you test me lol. That can depend on a lot of things. If she was a total bitch, or he completely ignored you when they were together then yes, you are probably just happy to get your best friend back. But if you have had romantic thoughts or feelings for him then you probably do like him - though if this is the case, post break-up would not be a good time to make a move. If you ask me it's probably the first option as I reckon you'd probably have known sooner if you liked him - but if you find that you really do have feelings for him and want some advice on how to deal with it then feel free to drop me a line :)
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ok, me and my friend took the new york specialized high school admissions test, or SHSAT. My friend also auditioned for LaGuardia. I passed the SHSAT and made it into a specialized hs, while my friend didnt pass the test OR make laguardia. I feel really bad, and I cant really comfort her becuase I made it in. She really wanted to get into a specialized hs...what can I do to comfort her? (link)
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I too went to a specialised school in the UK - a Grammar School that you have to pass a test to get into, so I know for your friend to have been sitting these tests in the first place she can't be stupid! She or her parents are unlikely to set her up for failure and a lot of it proabably came down to nerves on the day, or simply that she wouldn't be prepared enough. I imagine you can appeal on one or both of these tests, or even re-sit them? If your friend really isn't as bright as you then it's probably a good thing she didn't pass - as life is hard enough without having to struggle with classwork and homework right? The sad reality of specialised schools is that they are very competitive and your friend would be in danger of falling behind if she isn't as smart. On the other hand if she IS a bright girl and it was just bad luck she failed these tests, then just remind her that she'll probably be one of the brightest people in whichever school she does end up at...and that's ALWAYS a good feeling :) Hope this helps!
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I have a terrible friend who thinks shes cool and hates me and my friends. She always hangs out with us and then talks about us behind our backs to US! I got into a fight with her(because Im the only one who will stand up for myself) and I hate having people hate me so i appologized and she just forgave me like that! (She said "I forgive you, HUG!") It bothers me and now were back to her using me and my friends and she thinks shes popular. What should I do? (link)
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Five words honey - SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND! Think about it, would you treat any of your friends like this? No, neither would I. She is simply using you for whatever reason she sees fit - you wouldn't let a guy treat you like this so don't let some girl push you around! Ditch this loser - if she bitches constantly about you and your friends she can't want to be friends with you at all!
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