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Hello Everyone!! I'm Ashley and I am an 18 year old Senior. I'd be more then happy to answer ANYTHING and EVERYTHING! Giving advice is what I do best, so if your looking for someone to help you out I'm your go-to girl!! : ) I'm planning on going to Ohio University next year to study child psychology and I think this is a great start to my future career!

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My best friend is moveing to new york and she said she would call me when she gets there it has been 2 weeks and i have heard no phone call ... i dont know if she is there or not or she just forgot. i dont want our friendship to end. please help me.

Well hun don't worry!! I'm sure that she is there and she is okay! Moving is a big deal especially when it is somewhere that is a distance away. There is so much to do, unpacking, setting things up, decorating, it all takes time... LOTS of time. I know it must suck that she doesn't call and i understand that you are worried, but i wouldn't be too much. She is probably really busy and worn out. Moving can be really stressful and exhausting. She may also be trying to meet new people and get a new start over there. She will call soon, just give her some time to adjust to her new lifestyle. It's gotta be really hard on her, i'm sure it is on you too but try not to get too worked up over it. She may just be overwhelmed right now, maybe once she's settled in and relaxed finally she will be able to spend more time doing things she wants to do instead of things she needs to do, and i'm sure you on her top priorities to call!! Don't worry sweetie she will call i pomise!!! : )

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Usually my friend and i dont fight at all...but lately shes been ..pissing me off a bit. .Lately..idk shes been moody and i dont like it. It was like she didnt appreciate that i was driving her somewhere...the ride was late. She was only concerned wit her plans for later..going to a game. I guess im aggrivated with her..how can i get over this aggrevation? I dont think i want to confront her because that would be making a big deal about things..what can i do?

Well maybe there is something going on behind the scenes that you haven't realized. She may be dealing with some problems that she hasn't felt comfortable talking about yet, and this could be part of her problem. I've found with myslef when i holdthings in for too long i become really irritable and i get pissed off over little things and make a big deal over stupid stuff. Look a little deeper into it, has she been acting down lately? Has she seemed sad or like something is frustrating her? Maybe you should just sit her down and ask her how everything is going and let her know that she has seemed a little irratable lately and you just wanted to make sure things were going okay. Reassure her that she can talk to you about anything cause that is what friends are for of course! You don't have to confront her and make a big scene just talk to her and seem concerned and if she says everything is fine then just be like okay well i'm glad to hear that, it just seems that lately you've been irritable and i just wanted to make sure everything was okay. She might not even realize she is acting this way and this may help her to see that. And chances are she won't get mad about it because you are approaching her in a concerned fashion!! Hope i could help! : )

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okay, i have this great guy friend he would do anything for me and if someone would bug me he'd get rid of them and i've liked him for a real long time and all and i would do anything for him too but i dont want to risk our relationship if he doesnt like me but he has been dropping little hints like lots of smiling hugs and when he gives me a high five i holds my hand for quit a while but i dont know if i should risk it or not cuz i have liked him for more then 5 months so plz help me on this one *i rate high*

Well my best advice on this one comes from my own personal experience. I had a best guy friend who was like a brother to me, we were so close that our parents even trusted us to spend the night at each others houses, and mind you i'm 18 at the time i was 14-17 and my parents wouldn't even let me have a guy in my basement with the lights off lol. Well anyways, we never messed around nothign we were strictling friends, however i was like in love with this boy. And he always told me how much he liked me but i wouldn't risk our friendship cause it was way to valuable to me. Well he finally tlaked me into trying something and we tried for like 2 weeks and then it just wasn't working and now our friendship is really messed up. We barely even talk anymore and i stil can't figure out why. We always promised each other if it didn't work we would still be best friends but it didn't work that way and it kills me inside and i still cry over it because i really did love this kid like he was my own brother.I kinda depends on how big of a risk taker you are and if you are willing to lose his friendship over this, if you really value his friendship more then anything then i would advise not to risk it, but if you are willing to go for it then you never know, somethign good may come out of it! but if you don't think its worth the fact that you could lose your friendship then don't. Friends are way more valuable then a boyfriend! Your friends will be there for you forever and boyfriends will just come and go!!

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Last night I had a party because my parents were away. This guy that my friend has a crush on was there and we both made out with him multiple times while she was there.
After she left we were both lying on the floor together and started making out again. Then it started to get a little more serious, and he put his hand up my bra. We went into a bedroom and continued to make out more, and then he sucked on my breast, and then we made out more.
Afterwards I felt horrible and guilty and bad. I talked to my friend and she asked me what happened after she left so I told her that we made out and left out the second part and she wasn't pissed. The problem is that she's going to be hanging out with him and he's probably going to tell people, and it might get back to her.
Do you think I should tell my friend?

Oh goodness i know your situation all too well. From experience i would definitly tell her, it is going to make it a lot better if she hears it from you and not from a rumor flying around school. Be the first to let her know and explain to her how sorry you are and that you feel horrible. I don't think she will be that mad at you, she might be slightly hurt but if you guys are truely friends she will get over it. Besides, i think it will take a relief off of your conscience once you know that she knows and you don't need to worry about her finding out. And it is best to be honest with her, friendships have to be based on trust because without that then you are left with nothing.

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My former best friend and I have been growing apart over the last two years. Now to her I'm just someone she says hi to in the hall. It's been hard to stay in touch over the years because she is so busy and we haven't been in any of the same classes. We still consider oursleves "friends", but I wish things could go back to the way they used to be. Whenever I call her to do something with me, she always has other plans. Ever since we started fading away from being best friends I've really missed her. We had been best friends for over 4 years and we had this dream of becoming famous actresses together, and it really saddens me how apart we've grown now. I'm afraid that in a couple of years or so, we might not be friends at all. I feel like there is nothing I can do to just have us be best friends or even just good friends again, but I need to figure out something. This seems impossible since shes always so busy with her activities and her group of best friends. Can anyone help me on what to do? I rate high!

Well... i'm not sure if you've tried this but I think you need to call her. Call her at a time when you know she doesn't have anything else to do, and then start talking about all of the fun memories you guys have had together. Just do the reagular hey, how are you, whats goin on stuff then be like yeah i was just thinkin about the time that we.... and then just try to start bringing up all of the fun stuff you guys have done together. Then after that tell her how you miss her and how you miss being really good friends with her. Chances are when you guys have talked about all of your fun times she will realize that she misses you too... that might make it a little easier to get her to want to hang out with you too!! :) Let me know how it works out hun!!

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I have this friend (lets call her amy) and she always gets mad at me for nothing and I dont no what to do because we do a lot of stuff together but with her I cant say the wrong this or shell FLIP i dont wanna say like stuff to make her even more mad .. Sometimes I dont even think she is my friend because she takes it ALL OUT ON ME. What should I do ? HELP!!
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It took me 3 full years of high school, and finally my senior year i found who my true friends are. Once you realize this it will make your life SO Much easier. I use to think i had to be friends with everyone... I was wrong, i only caught myself trying to please people who didn't really deserve my time, or my thoughtfullness. My best advice is to get rid of the people in your life who cause you stress and pain. Surround yourself with positive people who will always make you feel good about yourself and treat you with the same respect that you treat them and the respect that you deserve. You will find that you'll have friendships that are less full of drama and conflict, and much more gratifying and healthy!! :)

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