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I am 34/F. My best friend/cousin told me the other day that she has contemplated not being friends with me anymore because of things I say to her, i.e., I told her I wasn't going to an event because it was boring, and she was offended because it is part of her family tradition and her parents plan it every year. (I had no idea her parents planned it. It is a city-sponsored event.) She also said that when I was little, my mom would talk crap about her family and I would repeat it to them. I don't doubt that this is true, but it happened when I was a kid so I can't remember anything that was said, and neither can my cousin. She just remembers it happening. I teasingly called her a "hoverer," and she was offended because she has heard me in the past say that others were hoverers and it was negative.
I am upset that she has contemplated not being my friend anymore and also that she seems to be overly sensitive. I actually watch what I say around her because I know she is overly sensitive to begin with, I just didn't realize how much. I have not spoken with her since she told me all this. What should I do/say?

I realize that i'm only nineteen and might not bring much knowledge to your questions but i'm willing to try,

from what you've already told me about your friend i agree that she seems very sensitive. and it also seems that she is being a little immature. i mean- okay you said something in the past that she brought up and never brought to your attention before correct? well, why now? why does she all of a sudden feel the need to tell you after all this time what you said bothered her? it just doesn't make sense. and i'm sure that she does things to annoy you, and you aren't putting them in her face. she is just being selfish i think and not understanding. atleast you were being honest when you said that event would be boring. she might of thought that she just wanted you there because you're someone she cares about. and if it means that much to her then you should just go. maybe try apologizing to her that you offended her- clearly it wasn't intentional; and tell her that you meant nothing negative when you said she was a hoverer, just pointing out a fact. she needs to be more understanding of your thoughts and feelings too. i tried to shed some light on the matter..
good luck and godbless. :)

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im falling for my best friend. our friendship is so messed up. we used to like eachother but then we didnt wana loose being friends. we lost it anyway. we still stayed friends no matter how much we fought. we were best friends weve known eachother forever. i wana be best friends again. but i hate him somedays then i love him the next. he is the biggest jerk i no but i still like him as in loving and as friends. i really wana date him if we held on through all this i bet we could if we broke up. ive never had a bf and hes only had a gf in 5th. very sad knowing im almost 14 hes 13. but i dont want anyone but him. :( id die if we lost friendship again. i didnt just fall for him i crashed my heard is shattered. we are total opasites in everysingle way. but idc. what can i do?

well tlk to him about it. you need to tell him how important he is to you, and our guys' friendship. maybe he has the same feelings too. you never know until you tr dear. godbless, goodluck. :)

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So my best guy friend of two years, who is pretty much feminine in all he does... likes me. I know for a fact that 99% of the people who look at him thinks he's gay. I went to high school with him! I know he likes me because when I was on the phone with him, I put him on hold and pressed mute. Well with my phone, you could hear the person keep talking. He was talking to his mom about how he thought I didn't like him back and he got sad. I just dont know what to do! I dont like him like that, plus I'm waiting for him to come out of the closet. And even if he's not gay, I just dont like him that way. I kind of want to back off for a little bit but dont want to hurt his feelings? I keep telling him, and hinting to him A LOT that were "just friends" but hes obviously not getting it. Help?

he probably is getting the subtle signals he just wants to believe there is still hope for you two dating. let him know that you're into someone else, if you are. then he might back off. and explain to him that you just aren't into him like that and won't ever be. it sounds harsh- but there isn't a way to put it nicely. especially considering the fact that you already tried giving him signs.

goodluck!

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Ok. I have liked my best friend for about 18 months. I had asked her out once and she said she wanted to stay friends. So i let it go. its been about a year since then and whenever we are together, we are either holding hands or hugging or whatever. We had gone on a school field trip and we were together the whole time and we were constantly holding hands or hugging as i mentioned and she gave me kisses on the cheek. She had even fallen asleep on me on the way back. I really don't know if we should stay best friends, or if she likes me and i should ask her out again. please help. any advice is appreciated.

let her know that you feel like she has been giving you mixed signals. that if she doesn't want to date you then why does she hold your hand-hug, and even kiss your cheek. she might be playing hard to get, or not want to settle for a relationship right now. or she could be scared, that you changed yyour mind about wanting to date her. maybe you should let her know your feelings haven't changed if they remain, and tell her how you feel about her. things will fall into place. good luck. :)

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I have had this friend who lives in louisiana, who i have never met before. i have known them for going on 6 years and talked with their family and friends and stuff. our long distances friendship is no secret. I was going to have them visit me soon. were both adults (im 18) and i know the risks of meeting him without ever having met him before.. but i need opinions.. what do you think?? any opinions good or bad is VERY appriciated.

it's normal to be second guessing yourself and feeling unsure considering the situation. i think that your opinion is the only one that matters here. follow your gut, if you don't feel it's right or safe or whatever the case to visit your friend then don't. but if you find yourself always wondering, you might as well meet your friend. :)
good luck.

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First off, I wasn't sure where to put this. Sorry if it's in the wrong spot.

I have a boyfriend, we've been dating for almost 3 years. I go to a local community college in my city. I met this guy who attends the same college as me. He asked if he could take me to a local coffee shop after class one day. He's really funny and fun to hang out with.

Is it wrong of me, since I am in a relationship to do that? Or let alone, do I need my boyfriends permission to go have coffee with this friend I met at school?

The last thing I'm trying to do is cheat on my boyfriend. Actually, I wouldn't even consider it that at all.

Eeek. I'm really confused.

well since your asking i'm assuming you would feel a little guilty about going to get some coffee with anothe guy.. you can still go, just tell your boyfriend he is just a nice guy from class and wanted to get some coffee, but i wouldn't make it a regular thing.. boyfriends tend to be super sensitive and jealous when they start to feel threatened. and this boy from your class, he might not know you have a boyfriend. unless you've already told him. so it isn't fair to keep him lingering, he might start to like you.. so i'd let him know you're taken. :) but it's always nice to make new friends. so i say go, but let our boyfriend know ahead of time. :)

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okay so this girl named jaslen is getting me mad she keeps on trying to steal my best friend erika & shes to nice that she goes along with it she cant say no. & they i got a pic comment from jaslen saying your to concieded i felt like screaming at her telling her that im not concieded im just prettier than herrrrr she cant get any guy! i wanted to scream and tell her the plain truth but i just wrote "no hun im not concieded trust me i would know / go get a life :)" & now im just waiting for a reply i dont mean to pick a fight with her but shes getting me madddddddd erika my best friend shes sleeping over her house again tonight and shes been selling me out a ton :/ can someone help me what do i do ?

if erika really likes jaslen, then she is going to hangout with her dear. maybe you should tell erika how it hurts your feelings. you two have been friends for awhile& you dont want that to change. maybe try and explain that to her. as for jaslen, maybe she just wants a friend too. you can share two best friends, you dont have to have only one. goood luck!

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