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I know this will sound cliche, but I think I should just ask you people for advice than keep these thoughts to myself. Well, I'm a girl and I'm 15 years old. I am greek, so I apologise for any vocabulary or grammar mistakes I may have made. For the last 5 years, I haven't had any friends. Most people would either avoid talking to me, or brutally make fun of me, or talk to me for a while but forget my name after a week! I always emotionally bonded with everyone I met too much and all these people eventually disappeared. When I was in the 5th grade, I would talk to a boy that sort of encouraged me, and he was like family to me. This person moved to another city years ago and I never heard from him since. After that, every girl or boy I met didn't really want to be my friend, and stopped talking to me after a while, or simply forgot everything about me. I have tried not to be annoying (because I always used to say how I hated clubs, mainstream music and talk about politics), I have tried to talk less and smile more and be more social, but I'm just "kicked out of the society" let's say. And after all these years, I'm thinking about this boy I previously mentioned, and after every disappointment I have I just sit in my room, cry and start thinking about him again! I think I'm going insane. After my last "friend" and crush brutally let me down again, I lost even the little self confidence I had, and in New Year's Eve I just decided to stop thinking about these things, and focus on my hobbies, on photography, on foreign languages. But while I'm studying, when I stop and rest for a while, I feel miserable. Then I start feeling like a waste of space. Every person I've met prefered someone else, not me. And I'm not craving for a boyfriend, I'm not looking for a soulmate, I just want a friend that will listen to me. Everyone says I'm either "totally insane", because I like riding my bike to faraway places instead of going to clubs, or that I'm ugly. As if a face is more important than a personality! As days go by I'm getting more and more depressed. When I try to talk about that to other kids my age, they just say "Why don't you just put on some makeup, wear something nicer and have fun" but I just don't want to! I don't want to be like everybody else so that they'll like me. Maybe it's just my age, that makes things difficult, but I just want to give up. I no longer know what to do and I have no motivation to go to school, take care of myself or study anymore.

Hello I just want to say that there are people out there that do appreciate you for who you are d not what you look like. I was like you a few years ago. I don't know how old you are so I really cant say much about the age but all i have to say is be yourself and those who are nice and all of that will accept you for you and who YOU are and not what you are. Don't try to be like other people because then it will get annoying and sometimes I see others and that's what lets say puts them down because they are trying to be someone but just can be like them or fit in. Like I said before just be yourself and the right people will come along and will like you for who you are and not what you look like and or have

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I'm a shy, quiet girl, and I have so many friendship failures and people bully me.

Last, last, last year, my relatives made a plan to ignore me. And it's still happening right now even if I told them to stop.

Last, last year, I became best friends with this girl but then she started doing bad things to me, like stealing and those stuff.

Last year, I was this talkative girl who's shy. My friends were boys. But now my friends and I drifted apart. So I'm friendless.

This year, there's this girl who I was friends with a long time ago, and just last, last month she tried to be friends with me again. Our friendship worked for a while, and I became friends with her friends. But then now she became mean and talked about me behind my back even when I was right there and she knew I could hear her.

And then there's this another girl who used to ask me to come with her to places. But now she laughs at me when I do something wrong, or even something normal.

Now I sit alone during lunch and people make fun of me even when I do something heroic. I don't have friends and people look at me in a weird way. What am I going to do?

Don't go back and be friends with them unless YOU really want to. Well because they hurt you I know you probably don't want to be friends with them anymore. You have to remember well because I don't quite know if you in high school or in middle school but either or when you get out of school you will mostly not remember them. I don't really think that you will see them when you get out of school. Don't worry you are not alone with no friends. Ill tell you something. I'm 14 and in the 9th grade the years before I got bullied because of my weight and other stuff. Yes even my so called friend even laughed at me. I didn't let that stop me from being who I like to be best and that person that I know is ME. I went all through grade school will little of no friend and yes most of my friends were boys too. Now I go to a online school and I absolutely love it and the best part is that they treat you with kindness, love, and respect. If the bulling gets any worse talk it over with someone you trust or you can always ask someone here through our inbox.
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Okay well I had a best friend up until 4th grade her name was Hannah but then this girl moved here and her name was Katelynne she ended up being my best friend. Well ever since then Hannah has always thought that Katelynne stole me from her. But I was messaging my best guy friend Makhi and he told Hannah after we were done that I called her a whore and so that started a lot of things. Well Anna, Hannah's best friend, started getting all mean and crap with me so she started stuff. So after a few days of all this stuff was starting Anna started calling me and threatening me so my dad ended up talking to those girls and thought he figured it out but they were still beeing bitches to me so I just gave up. Well then all of my friends wrote this note and it said that they didn't want to be my friends anymore because I have to much drama but all of them even Katelynne signed it. Well two days after aFter they wrote that note they all came up to me and appalogized. I don't know if I should believe them so did Hannah.

I know that you probably do not deserve this well what they did to you. It was mean, wrong, and untruthful. If they really were your friends they would confront you and try to fix the problem and NOT write it on a piece of paper. I know you will say well why did you just say that well after I tell you this but maybe they wrote it on a piece of paper because there are afraid that if they confront you, you would get upset, of get really mad. I think you should give them 1 more chance and if they give you all that crap then they really did not mean what they said well the apologies so therefor you should not believe them.
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i had this friend ever since freshman year. let's call her A. anyway. A and I are seniors but over the summer and this year our friendship has been fading into almost nothing. It was uncomfortable for me to be around her for some reason. She wanted me to go to Emporia with her so we could be roomates but i didn't really want to roomate with her. i told A I got into Emporia, but she hadn't heard anything from them yet (this is a good college for education, something we both wanted to do) and her reaction was exactly like this "WHAT! UGH!! WTF. i applied way before you did." I thought she'd be happy for me but I guess not. So recently I found out A had been talking to one of our mutual friends, emily, about me. She had told emily how i had gotten into Emporia before I did and how I had gotten into all these colleges and that I was indecisive about where I wanted to go and it made her mad about how indecisive i was. I had asked the Emily what she said and she confirmed that she talked about my indecisiveness about college, but then I came to find out A had told another Emily in our class the same thing. So that was at least two people she was complaining to me about. I'm a little offended that she talked about me behind my back. what should i do about A?

If she is a true friend she would NOT talk about you behind your back and would confront you about the problem. IF she was really worried about your friendship she would talk to you about it. I would sit her down and say something like if you have to tell me something please say it to my face and NOT behind my back...... See what she says and if she is like totally blank and has like nothing to say then she really is not a true friend. I think you should go at least 1-2 weeks without being around each other and if you think your life is better then say hey we are not like we use to be and I don't know what happened. I mean you can still be friends but try to work the situation out. To me it seems like she will go back to her normal self when she gets over the whole college thing but is might take 2 days 2 weeks 2 months and or 2 years I really have no idea.......... I wish i could tell you more but with all of the information that I said hope it helped.
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Ok so I never get invited anywhere!!! It's super annoying my friends know how alone I'm. They invite I'm places then cancell on me 2 mins later to be with someone else. I h8 it. At lunch they talk about hanging out with each other in front of my face. One girl in the group is super nice to me and includes mi. I want to hang out with her and others but she's always busy Bcuz ppl are lik obsessed with her and stuff. I'm not but shes my only friend and aren't friends supposed to hang with each other.

I understand that it is hard to go through this. I use to be the same way. I would never go places well go anywhere with anyone. Well this was only at school. I'm 14 and in 9th grade and I go to an online high school. I absolutely love it. You make friends very fast. They don't judge you or anything like that. Well back to your question I know that you want to hang out with all of your friends and I know it is hard because they cancel on you really fast. If I were you I would go to that 1 friend that you 2 really want to hang together and make plans to go somewhere with each other and if she cancels on you then you know that she is not a true friend.
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See I have depression and I have told my friends. They are nervous I might take my own life because I get bullied. They care but they avoid me. One of my friends mom said they were all afraid of me. I don't know why. Though one really great friend is there for me. And not scared of me. I just am more depressed now.

I say one day go up to your so called friends and say I want the honest truth why are you afraid of me.
Hopefully they will tell you the truth......
Please don't be depressed. I mean its not like its a bad thing. Everyone will and gets depressed at least once in there life time. If you get bullied your friends should help you. Not be afraid of you. If your friends really cared they would try to be by your side and help you through all of you problems and other stuff.
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my mums best friends daughter and i have always been close, our families always go out together and we get on, we've always been there for eachother but in the past year we dont see eachother as much, we're so different; im loud and confident to talk to people and shes quiet and is doesnt really like to go out. i had a house party for my birthday and i mentioned it to her when i saw her about a month before it was happening, and she said she didnt know whether she wanted to come, i said she could bring someone and she still said she didnt know, i saw her a couple of times after that but the party didnt come up. i found out shed gone on holiday a week before the party and didnt know how long she was going for, but i did plan to inbox her to invite her anyway, but somehow i forgot and on the day of the party i remember thinking i should invite her, but didnt act on it, which i regret, i guess i thought id left it too late and i hadnt heard she was back so it was easier for me to just take it she was on hoiday. anyway about half hour before the party my mum asked whether id rung the girl and i said i thought she was on holiday, turns out she wasnt so i went to ring her straight away, but people arrived early and once again i just forgot, by the time i did ring her the party had started and her mum was angry and shouted at me for inviting her last minute, ive apologised and shes written back to say forget about it but our families dont speak anymore and i just feel dreadful, its always on my mind and i seem to find myself thinking about the day and whether i didnt ring her up beacause i forgot or just because i didnt really want her there, i just feel awful, would be great of someone could help!

i know that you two are in a fight now because you didn't invite her. I know you probably don't want to hear this but it if your fault and only your fault for not inviting your friend. If I were you I would let it go for a couple of weeks and then one day sent her a email or what would be better is if you sent he a hand written letter and say how you are so sorry and how she said that her family was on vacation and you didn't know when they would get back.. at the end say once again im sorry and maybe she will send something back and if she does not don't worry she WILL forget about the whole situation. If she does not reply with in a month try calling her and if she does not answer leave her a voice mail. Dont worry like I said before she WILL forget about the whole problem....

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Hi. I'm 13/f.
So there's a girl @ my school that I don't really talk to unless she talks to me and I think she's hitting on me.

I'm a girl and she's a girl. I think she's lesbian or whatever but I like guys 100%. We were doing this thing at school where we needed to bring in lipstick and she was asking me to put hers on yesterday. She was looking at me the whole time but I didn't notice (I did NOT know she was lesbian yesterday) and today I felt really dizzy and we were outside playing kickball AGAIN and I just felt like walking and reading my book "out of my mind" by Sharon M. Draper. (because beleive it or not it actually helped with my dizzyness.) so I laid down in the grass and 2 seconds later I heard her say, "well if you want to play it that way..." and I heard her lay down beside me like 2 feet away from me and she was looking at me the whole time again. Coach made us stand up right away, so nothing else happened.

Was she hitting on me? I don't know but I'm really freaked out about this and if she was, how do I tell her that I don't like girls?

Thanks for any answers in advance!!!

sounds to me that she is but you never know maybe she just wants to be friends. You have to give her a chance well the friend part because you really don't don't know her until you talk to her and get to know her better.
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Hope you make the right decision
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I have always seemed to come across to people as hard faced-fiesty , but deep down I'm just a big softy , and no one gets to know that side of me because they see me and think I'm someone different- but they don't know the childhood I went through- is there anyway I can change this?

I totally agree with AdviceMistress they have a really good point. Try opening up more or if there is someone that looks lonely or so just go up and talk to them and maybe they will introduce you to there friends. Dont worry even thought there are alot off people out there that do not listen well of just decide to not get to know the best of you there are some people like me that will try and hopefully get to know other people. You should never be alone and you should always have some friends. Try making new friends.

Hopefully I helped.
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