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Ok, so I'm 14 and a chick and my friend is 15 and her sister is about 10.
I like having my friend sleepover but every time her bratty little sister comes, doesn't listen to us or my parents, eats our food and bullies my brother. Thing is, they are also pretty close (don't get me wrong, they're always fighting too) and I want to have a sleepover with just my friend. My mom isn't too fond of her sister and they also always fight and kill the fun. I'm kinda friends with her sister though and don't want to hurt her. Any ideas how I can get just my friend without offending anyone? All answers are appreciated! (link)
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just tell her look dude i want to kick it with just you tonight cause the little one kinda just ruins things without even meaning too just because she is younger and is not on the same level as us. i think we need to kick it with just us time and your sister can come next time or maybe go to her house instead of putting everyone through discomfort in your home.
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ahhhh, well I feel so dysfunctional.
my peers have been showing an interest in becoming friends with me...and getting closer, you know...
but, I'm so awkward.
I'm too aware of my own actions. I exclude myself. When people go to take a picture...I jump out of the group because I feel like I'm just taking up space. It's like the light inside me is dim and I feel like I'm not a good contribution to others. I need confidence...
how do I find peace within myself? (link)
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you need to relax and open up if you just let your guard down a little at a time then you might start to feel better let yourself enjoy the little things like taking pictures with friends or just asking friends to hang out
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Well, I'll start with the basics:
My best friend and I have been best friends for a couple years now. She has MAJOR codependency problems and flirts with/dates almost every single guy she meets. She is EXTREMELY clingy, and always just HAS to be with me every second of every day, which isn't fair to my other friends. A lot of people chose to dislike her for these reasons, but I thought our friendship was strong because I could ignore these little things. She's pretty much trying to be me. She started to draw just because she found out I liked to doodle, she claimed to know how to play the guitar, just because I was learning. It's like she has no opinion of her own, she always agrees with what i'm saying! Example:
Her: Oh I'm SO going for McCain! He's the best!
Me: I like Obama...
Her: Oh yeah, me too. I hope Obama wins!
(An actual conversation we had)
You see what I mean? Not to mention she's really bipolar. So, another of my friends and I went up to her about a week or 2 ago and confronted all of her "issues". We said, "You don't have to change for us, but it would make everything a lot easier". We stayed calm so she wouldn't be offended, and explained everything perfectly. Well, apparently our friendship wasn't strong enough for her to want to fix the bad things. She continued doing all of these things and it was quite obvious that she did not even attempt to change at all.
Well, last Friday, we were at a local football game. She completely ditched me to go hang out with some dude she'd just met (while she STILL had a boyfriend.) and flirted with him all night. I happened to run into a guy that broke both of our hearts and we both disliked him VERY much, so I called her to warn her. She said she was "not into that boy drama anymore" which is the MOST ridiculous things i've ever heard come from her mouth. She pretty much starts all the boy drama because she flirts with everyone, cheats on most of them, and then is shocked when she gets dumped by them. Well, just when she said that, something clicked, and I realized "wow, why am I friends with this girl? She lies, she steals my personality, she does everything we told her not to do and doesn't even try to change!"
After that night, I thought about it over the weekend and decided to just not be her friend. I know it sounds childish, but I put a lot of thought into it before I decided to end this 2 year friendship. I knew there was no way I was going to be able to go back once it was done, and i'm glad I did it because it's like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. So much drama has left along with her and i'm so much happier! Unfortunately, eve after I explained clearly, but not in a harsh way, why we couldn't be friends, she just couldn't comprehend why. She's been crying, talking to the people she thinks are her friends, talking about how she has no friends and her dad abuses her ( Which is a complete lie). Anything to make people feel sorry for her, which isn't working. Now, my question is, did I do the right thing? I gave her a chance after I talked to her the first time, and she blew it. Should I have given her another chance?
Thanks so much for taking the time to read all of this!
:)
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ok i think that if she ditches you again then you should turn around and just leave to hang out with ppl who really want to be there for you it really just sounds like she wants attention and this is the only way she knows how to get it so if she keeps acting this way then dont answer when she calls dont acknowlege when she starts drama act like everything is fine and that she doesnt affect you in anyway you need to let her know that your there for her but she needs to be willing to change before anyone else can help her so if you show her your perfectly happy without her drama it might make her realize she needs to lose the act and get real
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okay, this guy x and my friend y have got off a few times, but shes been with other people in between, but he's not cause he quite likes her but she just uses him because he's there. and i've liked x for quite a while, but i have no chance with y(i've known him all my life and we're quite close) but i hate when i see them together or people are talking about them. and i've been really bitchie to her recently because of it; i don't mean to be but i can't help it. what should i do? (link)
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either you should tell the person you like them and take it from there or you should let it go and move on
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Alright, I'm a new member here so this will be my "first" post.. My name is Chase, 13 and am in 8th grade.. I'm kinda curious about a couple of things, and how I should handle them..
I really like this one girl, we started talking for the first time back in March or so.. I thought things were going well for a while, I knew she didn't have feelings for me like I had for her, but I was fine w/ that..
A few months later it seemed that she started liking me, throughout the summer during school break we're talking pretty often and I thought things were going quite well..
Around a month ago, shortly before school started, her friends (which were busy doing other stuff during summer) started hanging out w/ her again. Which I was fine with, 'cause I knew she hadn't seem them much, and then now that school has started, she decided to date this one guy and hangs out w/ all her friends, and it seems a bit "different" when talking to me..
Mind you, we both go to seperate schools..
Any idea what I should do? Perhaps just give it a break and let her spend time w/ this new boyfriend as well as her friends?
Thanks in Advance!
Chase (link)
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i think you are definetly on the right track when it comes to allowing her her space and i think that if you dont let the fact that she has a new boyfriend bother you then maybe if things dont work out between them and you give her the time to realize that you want to be more with her than friends then you could very well have a chance with but try not to rush her ok
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For the past month or so, my best friend has been at soccer camp. There, she met a boyfriend, and from what I understand, they hang out together all day long.
I've been talking to her recently, and I noticed a change for the worse. Her new attitude towards life is "EFF it all".
School is starting soon, so I asked the typical "What are you going to wear for the first day?"
And her response was "I don't really give a crap. It doesn't matter. I'm just going to school to get good grades and do well in soccer".
That has basically been her response to any subject I have raised whether it be school, the people there, life. I commend her for being so determined, I guess, but I think she has a really bad attitude. And I want to talk about silly girl things, or where we want to go in life without getting a harsh "I don't give a crap." or the underlying belief
"I'm going to make the state soccer team, I don't care about other stupid teenagers. Just me and my boyfriend. No one understands me" etc. etc.
It is possible this could change when we actually get back to school since she her boyfriend lives across the country, and while she'll still play soccer, it's not 24/7.
What do I do? What can I do? (link)
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you can talk to her about the way you have seen her change and if she doesnt respect your feelings toward her then maybe you should just let it go and move on and let her hit rock bottom to realize what she is doing
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ok well iv known my best friend for three years and since i met her i really like her alot and well i think i really like her like as in love that i want to be with her. i dont know wether i like girls or not caz i think im straight but not sure caz of my best friend but i dont know wether to tell her i might love her or not caz i dont want to lose her as a friend
should i tell her i love her and would like to be with her even tho shes not bi? can u help
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well you might just be in a phase where your just bi-curious it hppens alot when your hormones start to act up and begin to change with maturity
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so me and a friend have been fighting pretty bad,and we fucking hate eachother.I really still like my ex and we were supposed to get back together,but i heard she hooked up with him today.I can't find out if its true,i tried to ask her but she started being a bitch and wouldnt tell me.It may not seem like a big deal,but it is to me.Im so upset right now.what can/should i do? (link)
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well i guess you can let it go find a real best friend and a new bf or you can continue to fight with your friend and let your ex do stuff thats going to keep hurting you the choice is yours i really cant say much cause i dont know why your friend is a bitch or why you and your ex broke up so there isnt much i can say but i hope whatever you choose to do you get through it peacefully....i honestly would find new ppl to be in my life
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alright so my friend who ive been good friends with for a long time has been ignoring me a lot this summer and i know shes been ignoring me bc she always has her phone with her and she rarely does not answer someone... until it comes to me. so then yesterday i asked her if she wanted to go to a Cubs baseball game with me and she said she'd see if she could go... so then today i asked her and she was like i cant go because my dad had tickets and i said no to him so itd be mean to say yeah to u so i was like alright whatever you wanna hang out today and she was like i dont know if i can im gonna be with my parents today .... but she gives me this excuse everytime so i was just like okay whatever. and she was like just becuause i cant go to the game with you doesnt mean you have to get an attitude with me. so i was like i could care less about the game you've just been ignoring me all summer long and im just sick of it. and shes like i have other friends then you and get an attitude check..and i was like why have you been ignoring me? go ahead give me all your excuses.. i know whats bull or not... and she was just like ha! shut up get an attitude check .. something like that. so i was just like I'm not fighting with you so bye. and the last thing she said was hahahahaha! i was like okay... i didnt say anything though..but she's just been so different this summer like and now shes got a therapist and shes doing all this weird stuff that she didnt used to do and shes been cheating on her boyfriend and her moms been remodling my house so her mom is friends with my mom and her mom told my mom thats she really insecure and didnt like her last school and shit like that..but i dont know. should i just end the friendship? because we've been having these problems for a while. (link)
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no dont end the friendship just let everything go dont keep putting yourself up for her disappointment but be there if she needs you she obviously doesnt understand what kind of a friend she might lose she in a stage where her entire world has been turned around and she might be acting this way be cause she might be afraid that the things she loves most are going to leave her and hurt her so she tries to do it first so she isnt the one getting hurt it might just be her way of saving herself she just doesnt understand you actually care she thinks you are just going to put her down
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