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ok.. i have this best friend.. he means like the world to me.. i love him soo much.. but as a friend.. not as a stocker obsessed way.. and i always talk to him.. and my friend.. like LOVES him.. like she wants to go out with him.. and whenever im with him.. she always gets mad.. so what do i do.. shes my best friend.. do i leave him alone.. or do i stay friends with him.. just never talk to him?? do i stay friends with him.. and risk loosing my best friend?
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Dear,
You don’t have to chouse. If you both liked the guy then you would have to chouse between the two but because it’s not a love triangle so you can just sort thing out. What I mean is that they are both your friends so you are not chousing between a friend and a boyfriend. You should make it clear (tell her) that you and that guy are just friends. I don’t think you should be cold to your guy friend because at the end of the day he is your friend just like you are friends with you best friend and nothing more. She will understand eventually and you can even help her and that guy to get together (you don’t have to if you are not into matchmaking). If you both liked that guy I would say you should chouse being friends with her because you can get over a guy but good friends are hard to find, however that’s not the case. So talk to her (be patient and explain it until she is convinced you and that guy are just friends and nothing more) and whatever you do stay friends with that guy and don’t treat him differently then before because you might really hurt his and your feeling by killing your friendship.
Good luck!
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Ok, so i have this problem. I always dress in black or dark colors and i've been doin this all my life. Some of my friends are starting to get pissed that i'm always dark. they're embarrassed when we go out in public just because of me. They yelled at me but i just told them to piss off. this can become a problem. Should i just keep telling them to shut the hell up and put up with it or try to deal it out with them?
advice is nice...
i don't care if it sucks like hell, just give me advice... (link)
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Dear,
Your friends criticizing you about the way you look is totally wrong and mean of them however do not fight with them over that, cloths are not worth as much as friendship. I think you might consider changing a bit the way you dress, what I mean is for example if you usually ware a bit old fashioned cloths maybe change to modern because black could give you that real cool look. Try mixing black with some neutral colors (e.g. white, cream) if you are not a “colorful person”. But wear something that “says you” not just something that people think you should wear. Of course you might introduce some color to your wardrobe just to see what it is like (do not if you totally hate colorful cloths and feel uncomfortable with them). Just remember be yourself but do not be afraid if change.
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My friend is jealous of me and i didn't think it would be a problem like wahooo she's jealous of me doesn't make a difference. But then i told another one of my friend's that she was jealous of me and like would be at different moods like one day she be sooo nice and caring and loving adn the next day she would be like ignoring me hangiung around other people and like telling me stuff that really hurt me. My other friend said that it is jealously and that she is trying to get me mad at her and then she'll use that against me. I don't believe she'll do that but i jut don't understand her anymore. I feel she might be trying to replace me. I sometimes don't sleep or eat becuse i thinking about what lifew would be with out her and i miss her so much when i try and hang around different people or if i don't talk to her... i don't want to lose her but maybe it might be for the best if she is gonna be really mean and hurt me alot i really reeally don't want to do that. Help me what should i do...?? (link)
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Dear,
I know how disturbing it is when good friends pull away and it’s easy to just point the finger at them and return the favor. However sometimes we need to look closely, it’s possible that your friend is under the bad influence of some of her other friends or she just needs to be mean to somebody. I will explain, sometimes people have the need to get their mean nature out, but at the same time they don’t want to offend anybody so they use their friends. I had a friend who was usually sad and she wasn’t exactly the Cool type so she couldn’t intimidate the people she disliked and what she used to do was say mean things to her friends and pretended it was a joke. Don’t forget that her actions might be a cry for help, not just a change of mind about you. So what I suggest you do is talk to your friend and ask her why she’s being mean to you and tell her that you care about her and that you don’t want to loose her as a friend. Whatever you do don’t go pulling away before you’ve tried talking and helping her. After all friendship is a golden gift.
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