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Is it wrong, as a girl, to continue to hang out with guys that I know are probably trying to figure out how to sleep with me? I know there's no emotional strings...they just want the physical. I still hang out with them though because I think they're fun. I'd never do anything with them because I have a boyfriend and I just blow off their comments and requests. I've also told them that I'm not going to cross the friendship line with them. Is it okay to still hang out with them? My boyfriend knows some of them but he doesn't know that they well...want me. Some are his friends. I just think theyre fun people and I know I wouldn't hurt my boyfriend that way. Everyone is 18-20 in age. (link)
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There shouldn't be a problem. I love hanging out with guys who are just fun and i don't have to have an emotional thing with. And it's definitely normal for a guy to want a hot chick, ya know? Just keep letting them know you're off limits, and if it becomes an obsessive thing or gets a little out of hands, you might want to get your boyfriend involved. Not necessarily in a bad way, but have him hang out around you more. Stay close to him so that maybe you're friends will get the clue that you're serious about your boyfriend?
Hope i helped!
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This takes a little explaining.. High school drama stinks..
I had this really great guy friend, we'll call him David, and one day in October 2006 I realized that I felt more than friendship for him. I was totally in love with him. I told him on New Year's Eve and it really seemed like he had the same feelings and we started hanging out and stuff and we were pretty much "unofficially" going out. Another girl at school, we'll call Brook, who has a very bad reputation and is not not to be mean but is not at all attractive, liked him a lot as well. I found out on Valentine's Day last year that they were officially going out. I was crushed and depressed. David and I were no longer friends and she rubbed it in my face that she got him and I didn't. They dated, but never communicated at all, they only text messaged, nothing else, until right after school started back this year and she broke up with him for another guy I liked, we'll call Pablo. She started dating him, so David and I had slowly gotten our friendship back and he fell for me. I made sure he had no feelings for Brook, and he assured me he didn't. We started going out and had an amazing relationship. We spent all our free time togther and fell in love so fast. It was amazing and we both loved each other so much and had even talked seriously about a future.. All in the six weeks we went out.. One morning he said "we need to talk" and he took me in the hall at school and he had realized that he was still in love with Brook and he had just used me to make her jealous. He had called her the night before and told her and she was breaking up with Pablo the same day. The next day David and Brooke were back together. Me, David, and Pablo are all Christians. David has put on a huge front and is being extremely immature about everything, and his whole life has turned into an act. He could be an absolutely amazing person, but has made some horrible descisions and gotten caught up with Brook. I think they're having sex as well. David always wanted more from me, but I never realized that. I'm still kinda friends with David because I'm still in love with him. Does anybody have any advice whatsoever for this? I love David and it's killing me to see him throw himself away like this. He always has the most sad and lost look in his eyes, and he's completely lost. I want to do anything I can to help him, but I really don't know what to do. I kinda also still have feelings for Pablo and things between us might work out soon. Any advice whatsoever would help! My life is so messed up and I really need some advice on helping it get back on track. I'm spending tons of time in prayer for everybody in this situation, and I just need direction.
Thank you so much! (link)
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As much as it hurts you to see your best friend going through that, you need to think for yourself. find what makes YOU happy and don't worry about him. you may not get over what you had, but you will get over all the drama that happened and the choices HE decided to make to mess things up. All i could say is if you want him to realize that he did mess up, just stop talking to him and tell him that he has a gf (and you have a bf if you do at the time). make him feel bad and realize that he doesn't have you anymore.
i know, it sucks. but if he wants to be a true person, he'll do something about it. otherwise, he's NOT worth your time, tears, or heart.
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Me and my 2 best friends (girls) like my other best friend (guy) i grew up with him and he was my best friend for the last 3 years. I’ve never had a boyfriend (bf) but I told him I liked him and he said he liked me then everything just stopped for 2 weeks i dono why and we did nothing about it and for a week of that i was in dead hate with him id do anything to piss him off but now were really close again (cursing him out to telling him I love him(in a friend way).
i love him but I treat him like my other best friends. They think that’s wrong. I can say anything to him and there is only 2 people in my life that I can him and my friend that likes him. Im just very comfortable around him ill tell him anything. He knows I cut and all, depressed, and struggling he is there for me through it. He made it so much better and makes me worry a lot less about it. I love being around him. We used to talk about our crushes of other people and us, but now when it comes to talking about crushing or love we smile and end up flirting like little kids in a way I love it lol. i cant show sad emotion very well i just had to put that idk why. O and my gothic clothes and hxc music scares him but he loves it somehow.
I don’t know If Im making a big deal about this or what it’s tearing me up. This is the only thing I can’t talk to him about. I tried once but changed the subject after first word… what should I do? I am totally lost.. 13 but 14 next month female : ) hes in 3 months
but today was the best day of my life :) with my friends. (link)
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sweetie you're young. no boy problems, k?
just keep him as a bff because that's always the best way to go if you're not sure. i'm not saying anything for sure, but some best friend relationships that go into an actual relationship end up to where they hate eachother. just keep him because no matter what happens, he'll be there for you and you both know that you like eachother. if you two really are right for eachother, it'll happen but in the future...like....high school maybe. but don't get all riled up about it.
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I have a friend, and she has been my best friend for seven years. Recently, we got in a huge fight, and we weren't talking for three weeks. So i thought we were done being friends. I took her completely off of my top friends on myspace, and she called me crying when she found out. So i put her back on. But while i wasn't talking to her, i started a really good friend ship with another girl, and we became better friends then me and the other girl ever were. Now that me and my original bff are okay again, she thinks were bff's again, when really the other girl is the better friend. But the two don't get along, and expect me to be their best friend. Im so confused. (link)
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you can have more than one best friend.
it doesn't necessarily mean you have to choose one over the other, but you have to let your old friend know that things won't be the same between you two. you're probably excited about your new "bff" because you know, who isn't? but make sure you're not completely neglecting the older one because that pretty much signifies you don't care about what you two have been through
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hello,
ok i've been friends with this boy for a year now..and since May we've been actting like best friends...alot of people ask if were dating.He's amazing. Cute,smart and funny. But like all good things theres a down fall. He's a bit of a flirt and still has many of he's ex-girlfriends in his life. Which isn't a bad thing. I mean i still have ex-boyfriends who i'm cool with...but he acts as if he likes them.All of them.It's like at football games he's all over them...taking myspace pics and so on. Then when were alone he shows how much he cares. He'll give me flowers..and leave a vociemail of the 'Great Escape' by BoyslikeGirls. He says it's "our" song..He'll say things that hit my heart. But i can't tell him how i feel because i just feel so torn. I mean if i want to date someone i don't want them talking to 1543156574 different girls. So what should I do? I feel lead on but i don't want to see it like that...alot of my friends dislike him. I really don't understand him half the time...lame. Help me out.
thanks -xo (link)
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well, he probably acts flirty towards his ex's because he dated them once, so he originally had those feelings towards them anyways. and i don't mean to make you feel bad or anything, but there's a possibility that he does the same thing to all the other girls, unless you KNOW he doesn't. but he's probably not really serious about you if he flirts with all the rest, otherwise he'd tone it down. he probably just thinks "i'm a playa!" and thinks he can get away with it. if you really want to know if he's serious, put him to the test. flirt with other guys and talk about it and see his reaction, or something better if you get what i'm saying.
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