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Q: 16 f

So I just found out my best friend is bisexual . Ok bigg deal right? So why doesn't everyone else at my school see it the way I do? Today in school I sat with her during studies and heard people wispering all sorts of stuff and I overheared one person in perticular say "omg maybe that's her girlfriend" it just pisses me off how people are so sterolistic these days and judge one another for the stupidest stuff I hate drama I hate stress I try to avoid it everyday and now because of that once stupid person everyone is beginning to get the idea that I too am a bisexual and I certainly am not (not that there's anything wrong with being bisexual I'm just saying I wouldn't fitt under that category) and the last thing I want to do is avoid her or stop talking to her because I'm not that kind of person . How do I stop everyone from thinking this way without going to that last suggestion? Or how do I avoid all of this?
okay, first of all i really do not mean to sound like bitchy so just take that into consideration.

if you where really her friend you wouldnt care what people said, like you obviously care way to much about what people think of you, so what if people think stuff about you, you know its not true and thats all that matters, if you stop being friends with her it just shows that you are not a good friend and i do not see why anyone would be friends with you if your going to ditch best friend because of stupid rumors that arent even true, if you do get mad and stuff people will just talk more i mean i dont know i just think it is very ignorant of you if you do that, and then people will just talk more.

and if you really care all that much what people think of you be like honestly you people are immature to think that just because we are close friends means that we are lovers you are stupid. (not you the people) and be like i am not gay or bi, and i really dont care if you believe me but i know its the truth and if you people are really gunna waste time talking and making up rumors have fun cause your just immature.

sorry if that was bitchy, but its the truth.

Q: how do you get guys you dont have classes with to notice you..btw im kinda shy, so i have guy trouble..how do you know when one likes you?? because i like guys,but i never know when to leave them alone, or keep flirting...please help with detail..im kind of scared to get into a relationship..so its harder for me..if i like a guy, how do i let him know..what do i say??help me.
Well the way you can get guys that you dont have classes with to notice you is that if you see them after school or sometime not in school you can be like hey ive seen you around school or something like that and you can just try and talk to him about school at first and then be like hey your pretty cute. or something like that. even if you are shy it might be hard cause im the same way but i took adivce i got once and took a risk and it worked out very well for me.


When a guy likes you he could be a total asshole to you and like act like he doesnt like you and he could get mad really easily and make fun of you alot.
Or
He could kind of be quiet around you and kind of shy seeming. If you know hes not the very shy type and he acts shy around you than that might mean he likes you.
Or
He could always want to talk to you and always try to be around you. Like he would find an excuse to talk to you or be around you or hang out with you or something like that.

ALSO if he smiles alot when your around him and if you see him in the hall or somewhere else he gives you a hugee smile.. or if like he always is poking you or tickleing you or putting his arm around you or hugging you.. or little things like that or if he like tries to make you smile alot.


and about the flirting thing its good to flirt but you dont want to come on too strong.. you want to like kind of laugh and make eye contact and like hit the guy lightly and laugh.. you know... but then like dont overdue it. like you want to leave the guy wanting more of you.

and a good way to let a guy know that you like him is maybe not actually come right out and tell him that you like him. i mean that is one way. but another way is to just kind of give him little hints. like oh i know someone who likes you. and just kind of give him hints.

Or you could just come right out and say i like you.

Or you could have your friend tell him which is a good way to go about it espically if your shy.

hope this helped
and good luckk

♥ kayla

Q: I'm afraid Christina is telling Melanie bad stuff that I said about her, that really Christina said. I can't talk to Christina. Should I bring it up with Melanie?
You should maybe talk to melanie because if christina did say something to her you could set her straight about the whole matter. and if christina didnt talk to her about any of the bad stuff then you can tell her before hand so she doesnt think that you said it about her in the first place.

hope this helped

♥ kayla

Q: Hi,Umm.....I need your advice.Wen i go to school in the morning with my friends wenever i say something they look at each other and laugh for no reason.Why do you think they do that?I feel left out somehow.How can i make our friendship better?Thanx!
Well you could be like when they laugh be like whats so funny? like not but not say it in a mean way or anything. and you could sit down and talk to them about it and ask them why they laugh whenever you say something. You should tell them that you feel left out and you want to make your friendship better. And for the reason they laugh there could be alot of diffrent reasons.. but you should ask them for the real reason. just so you dont like think the wrong thing.

hope this helped
♥ kayla

Q: This boy & I fight a lot, over the dumbest things. Like I'll jokingly say something slightly rude, and he'll take it so so so personally and not talk to me for a week. We are extremely close, and getting in these small fights about every week stresses me out badly. Is there any tips you can give me on how to avoid these fights? (And he jokes too, I just don't take it as bad as he does)
You should try to talk to him about it and tell him that you hate fighting with him over these stupid little things and that you dont want him to take every thing so personally. And that you are only joking with him about some things that you say and you should let him know that because he might think that you mean it seriously and it might hurt him because you too are so close. He might just be more sensitive about these things than you are So you should try to talk to him about it and tell him that your not being rude and your only kidding with him. You could always try to be less jokingly kinda rude to him because he might take it the wrong way. You could always after you say something that might seem kind of rude and your just joking you could say you know im only kidding *name* you know i lovee you!. that would most likley make him feel bad. and you could tell him that when you two fight it really stresses you out and you just dont want to fight anymore.. i know what you mean about fighting with a guy over stupid things and then having it be stressful. If you have anymore questions ask me :)

hope this helped
♥ kayla


Q: my friend invited me to go to this lake w/ her and her friends next weekend and i thought it was okay at first, but then she started telling me more about it. she said that the lake is her friends grandparents and hes the one who wants everyone to go. hes 19 tho and im 15 and i just think its sorta weird u kno? my friend is 15 too but if we both go there will be 6 people there 3 girls and 3 guys. the rooms are seperate so it shouldnt be too awkward bu i have a bad feeling about it. last night my friend invited me to the movies to go w/ him and her and i said no she was like " he'll meet your parents if you want him to he said hed give you a ride" but im here thinking why does he want to meet my parents, he hasnt even met me! then i was on the phone with my friend last night and i was telling her about it and she was like dude!!! he likes you! b/c 2 of our friends told her he did and he had one of them as his number 1 on myspace i asked my friend why and she said its b/c he liked our other friend and he did the same thing to her and apparently he dates alot of young girls. i just think its really freaky, what do i do? should i go next weekend or not, and why does this dude like me, i dont think its just like a lie because i was talking to the girl who initially ivited me online and she was like ya he said hed pick you up i think he likes you and later was when my friend said he did. i dunno am i over reacting??? please help!!!!! (sorry this is sooooo long!)
i dont think your over reacting..
i mean he is 19.. and you are only 15..
and it sounds to me that he does like you and this is not a lie or anything..

i think you should go to the lake with your friend and maybe just see what happens.. and if the guy tries anything be like why do you like me? i dont even really know you..

but if you dont want to go.. dont go.. your friend will understand if you tell her the reason why you dont want to go..

if you do find out for sure that he does like you.. (which you kinda already have) you could try and talk to him and be like well i dont really want to date anyone right now (well that is if you dont want to date him) and say to him i think it would be cool if we could be friends.. or something like that..

hopee i helpedd... goodluckk


Q: my best friend is a guy. he has been going out with a girl in our group of friends (who i can't stand) for about a month. whenever she isn't around, he is goofy and talkative and fun. but when she is there..it's like i'm invisible. he'll answer whatever i say to him with a short answer..but he'll never say anything to me besides that. after a meeting for our dance (we are both on the committee..along with his gf) i tripped him as he was going out the door. usually he would grin and say something clever..but he just kept walking and didn't say a word. i was talking to my friend about it and i decided i would just go along with it while we were waiting for our rides and see what he does. so we just stood there and talked..like right next to him. i didn't say a word to him. once she left, he came over to talk to me. i didn't want to be mean, so i would answer him..and eventually i was talking. i want to talk to him about it..but i don't want to make it seem like i'm jealous..even though i pretty much am. i just don't see why i have to be completely invisible. what should i do?
Well i have a friend just like that!! except he dosnt go out with the girl.. well you should try to not get mad.. even though its very hard ( i know from experience) and if the only reason you dont like her is because of this thing (not saying it is) but you should maybe try to become more friendly around her and know that its not her fault that he acts like your invisible.. (im talking from experince so im not saying this applies to you but if it does ya..) You should maybe try talking to him about it and tell him how you feel and try to talk things out with him... hope i helped..

P.S. hope it all works out!! email me if you need better advice
babyblue11289@hotmail.com

*kLa*

Q: ok well i have this best friend. i love her to death but she gets annoying. she thinks that all the guys love her, and she lies to make people think she is telling the truth. for instance she would be all like "Yah he hugged me and he grabbed my ass" and i would be standing there watching the whole time and that never happened. this happens ALLLLL THE TiME!!!! i dont want to say anything to her because i kno she will take it the wrong way and blow it out of purportion(sp?) it just makes me soooooooo mad because i would be standing RiGHT THERE and she would say sumthing happened to a group of ppl and it never happened and if i say anything she will be like, "uhm yes it did!!!" and say something to embarass me. what can i do!!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?! i rate 5's!!
well i think that you should maybe try and talk to her about it.. and just say in advance i dont want you to take this the wrong way or anything but ive noticed that you kind of seem to exagerate the truth and if she says that it did happen the way shes saying it did tell her that you saw the whole entire thing.. and just tell her that you sometimes get annoyed by it.. hope i helped...

*kLa*

Q: Ok i have a friend and weve been best friends since i moved here in the 7th grade.. until we came to highschool. (9th grade) We just slowly started not talking and hanging out. I miss talking to her and hanging out with her & i do try to talk to her and stuff but it seems like she doesnt want to talk to me. I dunno if i should talk to her about it or just leave it alone and cool down for awhile.. what should i do?
you should try to talk to her about it.. tell her that you miss hanging out with and talking to her.. just tell her the truth.. and be like it seems like you dont want to talk to me anymore.. did i do something? and see what happens with that.. and if shes a good friend she should understand how your feeling and talk to you and hang out with you more.. hope i helped..

*k La*

Q: okay, so this boy that i went out with like about 2 different times told his friend he wants to go to prom with me (yes, i do realize its only september) .. does that mean he likes me?? because its weird. Everytime i come back from away he Im's me right away.. and he talks about me a lot his friend told me. so whats the deal? and i dont even know if i would like him back either...?
of course he likes you!! he wants to go to prom with you and he always IMes you right after you come unaway!! he likes you.. and he talks to his friends about you.. have someone ask him if he likes you just to make sure though.. hope i helped..

*k La*

Q: My friend i kinda like and i went to his house yesterday and he came ut without a shirt on just a towel around his neck.... we talk and talked about how our friends see a guy and a girl talking and they thought they liked eachother but didnt and them i heard tweo more of my girl friends coming down the rode...He said" o ill be right back i have to go get a shirt on' .. y was he okay having no shirt on with me but not his other two good girl friends????? does he like me or does he just feel more comfortable about me
Well.. you cant really tell from just that.. but it seems like based on this that he might like you.. and that would always be good because you kinda like him.. so you should maybe kinda act flirty and like see what his reacation is.. and maybe you can talk to him about it.. and tell him that you kinda like him.. and see what he says to that.. if you dont you might miss out.. or have a friend ask him saying like ya do yo like _____ (your name) cuz it kinda seems like you do... hope i helped...

*k La*

Q: ok this boy i think he likes me i asked like 10 different people if he does and i told them what he does to me like smile and stare.but the past 3 days it wasnt that way he doesnt talk stare or make me laugh anymore....its like he hates me now or something...whats going on
well.. i dont think he hates you.. if he has no reason to.. he might just be starting to like you more and now becoming more afraid to talk to you and such.. but i would just kind of see what happens.. and you can ask him about it... like ask him why has he been acting diffrent (if this continues) and ask him if he is mad at you or something.. hope i helped...

*k La*

Q: one of my GOOD guy friends that i am extremely close w/got a girlfriend. this girl has been on and off with this other guy 15 times and she cheated on him twice. and now that my friend has a girlfriend i'm almost jealous of her. i don't think i like him, but when i see them together i kinda feel ignored or something. but he's not ignoring me... i don't know if i actually do like him b/c i know they wont last long and it'll be a 1-2 week thing, but when he was single i didn't feel this way...
well.. if you ask me.. i would say that i think that you like him you might just not realize it as much when he is single.. you realize it when he likes someone else and you become jealous.. tell him how you feel.. talk to him about it.. from experince dont do anything stupid that will mess up your friendship with him tho... hope i helped...

Q: My friend is mad at me for a dumb reason and she says she does not want to be my friend but I know shes lying, because she has done this before. What can I do to so her I want to be her friend?
just tell her that you want to be her friend and be honest with her.honesty works most of the time.. hope it helps good luck

*kaii*

Q: okay so me and my friends were going to go see star wars yesterday... please don't comment on star wars that isn't what my question's about... okay, so we didn't invite our other friends because they didn't want to see it, and we were meeting some guys there and one of my friends thought that they would make us look bad. I thought it was mean but i didn't comment. Anyways so now one of the uninvited people is mad at us because she actually did want to see ther movie. what do i do?
you should just apologize and hope she isnt mad at you anymore or you can go with her to see it again so she can see it. hope it helps good luck

*kaii*

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