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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..
1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.

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So my friend hasn't texted me for three weeks. I asked In school why not and he said his phone broke. But last week his locker broke and I asked what was important and he said his phone. I asked didn't your phone break and he hesitated to speak than said it did break. What should I do?

Something sounds fishy, doesn't it? I would suggest you just call him out on it, ask him why he said his phone broke and then when you asked him another time, he answers with something different. Asking him directly saves you time and stress from wondering why he is acting strange.
Best thing is to call him out and watch his reaction, you'll figure out what's going on enough!

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m/16. yesterday i smoked with my friends and i was with some girls. what are some good ways to start and keep a conversation going

Ask lots of questions, but make sure it doesn't end up like some kind of interview. So once you've asked a question and she's answered, elaborate on her answer.. Carry on from her answer. Like if you asked her, for how long has she been smoking, and she says 5 months, you can say, "oh.. So how many do you smoke a day?" or something like that. I don't know much about smoking as I'm not a smoker, but just remember to make the converstaion flow, be open and collecting. Have an open mind and whatever is thrown at you CAN BE worked with! ;)

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there is a new girl at my school and she joined my group of friends. she has my exact same name which i have a very unique name so its awkward, she is my same hieght except shes super skinny and very outgoing and friendly and is so pretty. she gets along soo good with my boyfriend and best friend and is exactly like them so they talk about alot of stuff i dont understand. i used to spend every single day with my best friend and boyfriend. and now she is with my bestfriend everyday so i am pushed out n never get to see her n they ditch me. then shes always talking about everything with my boyfriend n she has more inside jokes with both of them than i do n always touches both of them n even held my boyfriend he always talks about her but says their just friends. i havent hungout with my best friend just me n her since the other girl came into the picture even tho we used to daily.. im just jelous :( this is literally the first time iv ben jelous so i have no idea how to deal with it usually nothing bothers me.. they both deny that shes getting between us but its so obvious what do i do

Well firstly, you are right.. I would be jealous too! You have got to remind your boyfriend and your best friend that you guys reqally are NOT spending time with each other anymore! They probably are so sunken with this girl that they haven't noticed that they were leaving you out. And if a best friend doesn't understand where you are coming from or see your point of view, then.. Is she really your best friend after-all? As for your boyfriend, I suggest you put your foot down. YOU are his girlfriend, he has to spend some amount of time with you, maybe even more than the new girl. Communicate with him. Let him know where you are coming from and WHY you feel insecure about this, it is ok to feel vulnerable and insecure with your boyfriend. It only bring the two of you closer as you guys are both touched on a deeper level.
They seem to have forgotten what was once there, you, so you have to remind them and remind them that your friendships with the two of them are in serious trouble, and you all have to work on it together. They have to come back to reality as it seems like they are avoiding the truth. See how it goes!

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this may be quite long, but i will definately return the favor to anyone who is willing to read:) i'm 19 years old, second year in college and am doing online (due to ceratin issues). i've known this kid joe for about 5 years. i've always had a crush on him but we became more of friends than lovers. joe will be turning 18 in january, making him a senior in high school. yeahhhh.. age difference i know. he's the only younger guy ive ever liked though and it seems so different because he is so mature. he is the stud of his high school though.. captain of the hockey football and baseball team. all the girls go crazy over him because hes absolutely hilarious and not afraid to do anything and well absolutely GORGEOUS!! welll thats pratically opposite of me. around my girl friends, i'm the craziest of us all and not afriad to be goofy because they know im like that are are use to it but around joe, i'm a conservative girl. i have gotten bettter though. me and joe flirt basically everytime we see each other. he is a little player though.. just figured this out a couple months ago. so i realized that i would rather be his best friend than just another girl..right? the thing is that my cousin is joes next door neighbor and my cousin is the same grade as joe and me and my cousin hangout all the time..well on the weekends. it sucks though because i always go to my cousins hoping that MAYBE ill see joe but he's always on the go with sports and parties. he gets invited to everything, obviously. i feel a bit like a loser hanging out with my cousin in highschool on a saturday night doing nothing while hes out living the life going to parties and hanging out with everyone. i know some of the girls in joes grade and i have hung out with them a couple times and everytime i hung out with them and joe... they're all over joe and of course joe loves it but then i sit there looking stupid for not being all over him fighting for his attention because thats not how i am. me and joe have just gotten really distant over the past year. i see him maybe once a month... we dont text anymore. it makes me really sad. i feel like hes going forth with his life and leaving me behind..i know he cares about me though its just that hes a guy and isnt into the whole texting you first having a long conversation kinda thing you know? hes also going to play hockey next year for a D1 college so i will definately not see him anymore so i want to spend as much time as i can with him now but that doesnt seem to be going well. i dont ask him to hangout alot because hes always busy doing something and plus.. i wouldnt know what to do anyway. ugh just all this running through my mind..i dont know what to do

Firstly, I'm sorry but you have to get over him and move on. Here's why, if someone doesn't feel the same way as you do about them, it usually isn't worth it. He's all young and loving the attention he's getting. By you watching from afar and not moving on, you're only hurting yourself. You've got to understand that, he will be moving away and so you are going to have to move on. I do understand the fact that you have feelings for the guy and you want to spend some time with him. You can't force someone. But what you can do is give them a chance, so ask him if he'd like to hang out with you one day soon, before he leaves. If he is someone worthy of your time, he'd make time for you, and instead of hanging with the shallow girls with no essence and who are only after his physical appearance, he'd pick someone deeper and with genuine essence to spend his quality time with, you.
He's living his life like there is no tomorrow. You should too. You're only wasting time right now. You only live once. Live wisely.

Remember, you are young. You got so much ahead of you. Quit wasting time on people that you find significant in your life when they don't feel the same. Embrace who you are as a person. If he doesn't see you as who you are, then what good is he? Is he worth your time and energy? He's a good friend, I respect that, good and lasting friendships come both ways! ;) It's not just you who has to keep the friendship going, he has to do his 50% part too. And do respect Joe as well, he's all living-the-moment/life, like how you said. Just make sure he knows that you offered him time to hangout and catch up. That's all you can do, and all you are going to do.

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Well one of my friends who i have been really close to since 5th grade has been having boy trouble but its complicated. She had a thing with one of our friends and then were cute together for awhile but then she broke it off with him and has been accusing him of things that she used to like. Like she is accusing her best friend of being all over him but really tey are just talking or something. And the first time she said it i believed her when she accused them of being all over eachother becuase someone else agree'd who was there, but now its just rediculous.And she is telling us not to talk to him pretty much because if we hang out she gets mad at us. I dont know what to do because i dont want to ruin either friendship but i feel like i might flip out on her at any second because she needs to get over it but i dont know how to tell ehr nicely because she is a very emotional person who lets her angry get the best of her way to fast.

Tell her how you feel! Tell her she should get over it, the nicest way possible is probably... Lets say her name is Susan and the guy's name is Josh, 'Susan, I think its time to get over Josh! He is a friend ours and we would like to keep him as our friend! Don't take this too personally, I am just hoping for the best. Please understand! Please!' Tell your group of friends about this quote and ask them what they think and if they agree, so all of you could tell her, so it makes a big impression, but beware not to be bossy and act like you all are a gang! She IS emotional! :)
And about the lying bit, don't mention it to her yet, maybe when you catch her red-handed, lying!

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Me and my brother don't get along but that's becasue he is an ass around his friends.. But normally he is OK after a while. There is this one friend, that I think is really sweet, nie and we really get along. He asked if I was going to this party, that he wanted me to go and stuff.. Well me brother was going and He didn't want me to go because he isn't comfortable with me around him whne he is with friends (But I get along with his friends better than he does and they want me hanging around...) Well.. I asked him if it would be ok if i dated him if i dated his friend. And he said he doesn't care.. But then someone was sayign abotu how his friend was gonna fuck me and shit... And I mentioned somethign abotu i would if he made the mood, and ever sicne then my brother was totally being an ass to me and his friend because of that and ui just dont know.. I told my brother I wont becasue he doesnt want me to and all, I wont even flirt with him anymore...

Just what do you think of the whole situation..?

Your brother is jelous because you get along with HIS friends. YOu shouldn't have told your brother that you won't because he doesnt want YOU to, you should have said YOU WON'T because you don't want to! Brothers are always protective over their sisters no matter how old they are!
If you still like your brother's friend then try continue flirt with him and work something out! Communicate with him, tell him how you feel and it should help!

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