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Hi All, My name is Tara, 22 yrs breathing, and living in Houston, TX. BORN AND RAISED... I am currently a Junior at UH, and work at a school. I am an education major... so as you can see my life is devoted to service and I love watching my students grow in character and learning abilities.... I will try to answer advice honestly and to the best of my abilities....I've been through alot of ups and downs, but they have yet to stop me... I was that go to friend when my friends had problems as well...
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this is really long, SORRRRYYYYY..... these people who are supposed to be my friends have been ruining my life for awhile now and this is the first time i've been able to explain it since late last year.
so, i've been friends with one of the girls, let's call her Mary, for a really long time. we had some REALLY good times together, and me & her were each other's best friends. then last year, she got a new friend, let's say her name is Barbie (lol first thing that popped in my head) and i was kinda forced to be friend with her too. that was fine with me, and of course i was a little jealous but not enough to say anything. i wasn't really bothered. then this year, everything changed. we were the 3 best friends to each other in the school until late last year, when out of nowhere, both girls completely ganged up on me, telling me i've been bringing them down ever since i met them, that i'm a bad influence, and all this other shit. i was soooo hurt, but luckily the fight only lasted for 2 weeks.. but ever since then nothing has been the same. i never know when they're really ok with me, or when they're secretly thinking i'm ruining their lives or something crazy again! the day before the fight, i had absolutely NO idea anyone was mad at me. they gave no hints whatsoever, texted me and stuff.. then the next day, i was the worst person in the world. so i can never know!
that's fight #1. next one only lasted 1night, but got me REALLY paranoid. I had a twitter, where i would put down all my thoughts and feelings.. it was like a diary. i have friends on there, it was just my owl little world to escape. everyone needs somewhere to vent, and since i obviously couldn't to my "friends" i did to my online friends who actually could help me sometimes! well,of course, Mary & Barbie (ahaha) find the Twitter, and text me telling me how much of a bitch i am for ever being mad at them. ......... like they never. did. anything. wrong. for example, i remember one of the tweets was calling someone a bitch. i was watching MTV for christ's sake! and both Mary AND Barbie accused me of calling them a bitch. on the tweet that was sent like 4 months ago. so they crawl into my own thoughts, and get mad about how i feel. the only reason we resolved the fight is because they both ganged up on me again, and said i had to "confess" to saying what i did. so i did, even though the tweets honestly weren't about them.. so that led me into a spot where i can't be unhappy, ever, and if i am, i can't express it in any way because then i'd be emo therefore ruining their lives.
yes, there's a fight #3, but it only lasted 2 days and it was only with Barbie.. it started on a friday that was an EXTREMELY BAD DAY FOR ME. worst day ever. so i didn't talk much, cuz i couldn't or i'd be "emo". but at one point, i called my mom and she was cussing me out so i had to break down and cry. THAT was the reason Barbie got mad at me. because i cried, she got the idea that i cut myself. not even kidding. she said she hated me, because i was annoying, emo, and i cut myself. ....... Mary was REALLY nice about it all, was on my side (for once) but remained friends with Barbie. Barbie soon acted like none of it happened, and hugged me. never really apologizing, which was becoming a trait. to this day i haven't gotten 1 apology!
soooooooooooo NOW I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO. should i just ditch them or something and become a loner? when they're being normal friends to me i have a lot of fun, but it's too much to handle not being able to think straight. i'm SO afraid of having another fight, i'll agree to anything they say. i sound like a fucking loser right now but seriously, i don't know what to do right now. i'm REALLY SORRY THIS HAD TO BE SO LONG but I really just need some help on this :(
I'm sorry, ditch them psycho chicks. JESUS your too young to have this DRAMA. They are nothing but drama and are bored and having nothing to do but make your life miserable. I mean you've done all you can at this point... don't you feel like a 3rd wheel? I'm sure you can find other friends who would treat you way better. These two chicks can KICK ROCKS!
I have a best friend. We've been friends for about three years, and she used to be a really cool person. She's still a nice person, but she's changed. She smokes and drinks occasionally, sends naked pictures of herself to guys, does so while she has a boyfriend, and hangs out with a...well, slutty girl who is a horrible influence on her. She won't tell me about this stuff, but I hear it from other people. I confronted her about it, and she said she was scared to tell me about it because she thought I'd freak out and throw her out of my life. She only partially admitted to doing these things, and I keep hearing more about her everyday. I have a lot of good people in my life, and a lot of friends. It's sad to me that she's turning into such an insecure moron lately. How should I handle this? It's getting exhausting to be her friend, not to mention it's not a great feeling to see someone you care about be so stupid and lie about it.
Sadly enough, I had the same thing happen to me with a "best friend". Sweetheart, unfortunately there's nothing you can do. You can't not hold yourself accountable for her actions and if you keep telling her over and over again that this is nothing healthy for her then there's nothing you can do. Honestly, you have to sit bit and let nature take it's course and in time, she'll realize the advice you gave her when something goes wrong in her life. I don't wish her bad, but I can almost guarantee that something is gonna happen and that's when she'll open her eyes. Sometimes you have to let people fall on their faces and let them learn on their own... I hope this helps.
You see my best friend has this boy bofreind right. And to me she is spending way more time with him then me. Thats the only person she talks about to. I have been her best friend since the 4th grade he just been her bf for a couple of months. What should I do?
Gurl I am the same boat you are... there's pretty much nothing you can do... but one thing you can do is let her know you still exist (w/o being mean) ask her honestly if she would choose you over him... if not, then you know she's not your friend. And if her and her bf break-up (I wouldn't have no sympathy but) she would come right back to you... you gotta let her know when he's gone don't come running back to me, or you can be a bigger person than me and be there for her..... that's jux my opinion... hope I somewhat helped... God Bless and Good Luck!
i was just wondering, what's a "redneck" ?
A Caucasion Person (if that is how you spell it)
Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?
Because you would give the world just to be with that person. And no matter how many times you tell them how much you care for them, they shoot you with the same speech "I like you better as a friend" Believe me, I have been through the same thing. The only thing you can do is move on. Try not to be around him when his girlfriend is there....that's what I have to do. But yeah, see if you can move on cause you are the one who knows how you really feel about him, and I guess he dosen't wanna discover it. I hope I help! God Bless, Good Luck! Beebyes!
Hey!I'm Casey(girl)and im 14.My friend is also 14 and she is in 6 month relationship with her b.f.They have had sex 8 times and whenever they are together they always do stuff(sex,BJ,makeout,HJ etc.)I sometimes start to think he is using her but then again they r in a serious relationship. Is that the way to go in a relationship? Do you think their realtionship will go far if thats all they do?If u have ne advice please write..thanx!;)
I think it is going wayyyyyy to fast! Well she is too young to begin with! And also since I don't know how their current relationship stats are , I dunno how far they are gonna go...But still I can't get across the fact that she's only 14 and having sex... next thing you know she's gonna get pregnant... and the babies daddi may leave... too much too young. And they are also too young too be soooo serious. But it's her life and she (I guess) can live it the way she wants.... Good Luck! and I hope she makes the right decision! God Bless! Beebyes! ~1ne~
ok so my best friend is absolutely in love with this guy and a while ago he said he liked me more than a friend...should i keep talkin to him?
I say be a friend, and put your friend first, tell her the truth about the situation, and see what she says, make sure you tell her you appreciate her too, so it won't hurt as bad when you tell her the guy you like, likes you.... Good Luck! Hope you make the right decision! God Bless! Beebye! ~1ne~ ;)