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I have a really spoiled best friend and I really can't stand being around her anymore. Her parents have lots of money and my friend gets showered with money all the time. The last time my friend and I went to the mall her dad gave her $200 and said here honey have fun! I have an allowance and I actually have to work to get my money and my friend has never done any work in her life! She wears expensive clothes and has a container ten times the size of a shoebox chock full of makeup she never wears! She makes me so mad! She brags about it too!
Please help me!
Thank you :)

Hey,
You will have to deal with it if she's you're best friend. Some people have to work for money, and some people will get it. The one who brags will have nothing left in the end.
Just tell her that she might jinx herself if she keeps bragging about it and might lose it all, so she should keep that information to herself.

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I'm a 15 yr. old girl in the 9th grade. I'm naturally shy and socially awkward, but I have some friends that I really care about. Sometimes, it seems like my friends ditch me for their other friends or boyfriends and I end up being left alone. Or I feel like I care more than they do. I've tried making new friends, but that is too hard for me to do because I tend to emotionally shut down and push people away. I need help because I'm tired of being alone all the time.

Hey,
You need a self esteem boost.
You probably isolate yourself because you're unsure of where you fit in, or if you even fit it at all. You need to make yourself open up, make a new friend in class,and ask if you can hang out with them,trust me they WONT say no. Unless theyre complete jerks, just choose the right people and you'll be fine. Talk to as many people as you can and slowly you'll develop to be more involved. Good luck.

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My friend always brags about all the things she gets, how can I ask her nicely to stop? I don't mid hearing about it sometimes, but all the time gets annoying.

Hey!
Don't we all have a friend like that.
What you have to do is, seem polite while she's telling you. You have to make sure your comments towards her dont seem like you're being bitter or jealous, as she could easily think that. Just say to her next time she brags that "you shouldnt keep talking exessively about what you have,because you could jinx it and lose it all, just keep it to yourself and be grateful".

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so,i am always lonely when it comes to dating & friends...i havent had a boyfriend since early 2009 and all of my friends are so popular and dont really have time for me...what can i do? i really need some one to help me kill my worst enemy [too much time on my hands] urrg!!!!

Hey,
First of all, STOP feeling sorry for yourself. It's not right! Don't feel lonely, you're time will come for you to be truly happy. Everything takes time and patience. Look at the positive side and enjoy the good things in your life! Like the fact that all relationships come with baggage, tears and arguments! Having too many friends leads to gossip,rumours and fall outs! Be happy that you don't have to deal with that sort of stuff and take advantage of it. Everything happens when it's meant to happen. Keep yourself busy,try things you'd never think of trying! Acting,Singing,Dance! Unleash the talent in you. Everything has it's bright sides, so enjoy the awesome life you have! Good luck and don't fret!

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so this group of friends I leaned back on because i was depressed and needed i guess a non popular click to hear me out. When i was sad and lonely i was like them, but now i am out going and i wanna be closer friends with my REAL friends, that i love. So i'm not really depressed anymore. I just don't want to be around people that were like me in the past, they don't fit in with my click and i don't want to be friends with them, so how do i get out of it? And please don't say "you shouldn't not be friends with hem anymore" They are annoying and bossy and crazy that why there not in my popular friends group, i just want them out. Not to be like a bitch but they really helped me out a lot but i really don't want to be friends with them anymore, and the people i am hanging out with now or my long-time friends are good listeners too. They are more social and out going and loud. Which is exactly my type thats how i am. But i felt out of place a year ago so i leaned on those other friends, but i know i cant have a relationship with both. SO HOW DO I STOP BEING FRIENDS WITH THEM? THANK YOU.

Hey,
OK, I have to tell you I'm completely honest when I give advice. You were basically using them, right? Ofcourse,you actually appreciated them at the time, but not now, as your back to your old self and you want to ditch them. You should tell them that you won't be hanging with them so much anymore, but you still would like to talk to them time to time. You have to say this so it doesn't seem like your abandoning them. Thank them and let them know how much you appreciate them and also, tell them they're welcome to hang out with you and you're old friends anytime! They probably wont, but it's always better to offer. Be sure not to come across as mean/rude, you have to remember that these people were nothing but helpful to you,and were probably the reason you got back on you're feet. Be polite and break it down gently!

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18/female

ok so i have this best friend, well i don't even know if i can call her that anymore...we've been best friends for two years, and like any normal set of best friends we've had our fair share of fights. The last year has been running pretty smoothly and we we're inseparable. Then she started tafe, she was doing a music course and she met this girl, they quickly became good friends and soon enough all i would hear about is how close she and this other girl were getting. they even started a band together, when my friend knew how much i wanted to be in a band with her. Months had past and i still hadn't met this other girl yet, but apparently we were ridiculously alike. So we met one day, and i became that awkward third wheel, they would bring up personal jokes between them two that i didnt understand and i felt awkward to say the least.

as the months began to pass, i was slowly fading into the background, the new girl was a better me then me, well thats what i feel like anyway. My friends band has become really successful and its only brought them two closer together. Me and this other girl tried to get along but she thought i was weird and whatnot and i found it hard to talk to her even though we were so much alike personality wise. my friend is no longer calling me her best friend and now i feel so alone and replaced. Just to top it all of the two of them keep on rubbing it in how awesome their band is every time i talk to them.

but what really upset me happened two days ago. Me and my friend first became best friends over the love of a band that not many other people liked two years ago, ever since that day we went to see them in concert we had attended every single one of that bands gigs and meet and greets. So anyway i went to this gig unsure of whether she was going or not. only to get there and see her there with my replacement. the one special thing we used to do together and now it was no more. Just to top it all off, i had an AMAZING experience talking to the band members, as one of them that i have a little thing for actually remembered me. This was a HUGE deal to me because they see thousands upon thousands of faces every day, yet he remembered mine. After i had finished talking to them (and holding up the cue i might add) i waited and watched as my friend and her new bestie went and talked to them, the then came over and i told them that Bradie remembered me. they then rubbed it in that the band was obsessed with their band and that they were listening to their song on the car trip to the meet and greet.

The whole car trip home i had to listen to them talk about how awesome there band is and making my experience seem like nothing, when it meant the world to me. I just don't know what to do really. I mean its really hard for me to make friends and whatnot. I'd love to start a band too, on a side note so i can at least pursue that. Do i still even make an attempt to hang out with her?

Heyyyy!
Firsties, let me just say , you sound like an awsome friend! It's her loss that she seemed to have replaced you. I'm sorry if that sounds mean, but its true. My advice is always 100% honest, so please don't mind! You both have actually drifted apart, further as time went buy. She probably spent so much time with you as you both were inseparable, that she might have felt she needed a little more space? Thats usually healthy for best friends, because if you're always together, you'd run out of things to talk about, whereas if you both are like separated for a while, then you can always catch up with eachother and hear something different. If you know what I mean? But it seems that you're best friend has been too caught up in her new friend that she forgot her other one. This is crucial and you have to do it, if you want her back. You tell her how you feel. Trust me, this is from experience-successful! Tell her how left out you feel, but don't seem "needy"..and she might feel bad and whatever, then if you feel she STILL isn't giving you enough attension, then you move on. Hang out with others, and ONLY speak to her when she speaks to you. Okay? That way when she gets bored of her new friend she will miss you and come back to you. Thats a definate! She won't even need to be bored of her new friend to come back to you, she will just realise that she hasnt been seeing you around as much as she used to and regret the fact that she's pushed you away and think "oh my gosh, what have I done! i need my best friend back!". Sounds unreal, but guess what? It'll happen. She will miss you, let you in on a little secret, If you've been bestest friends, then that Chemistry that bestfriends have, doesn't disappear just like that! good luck!

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okay so an ex of mine randomly started hating me. we were both fine after the breakup and stayed friends. then out of the random he started hating me. and i mean HATING me. the thing is, i don't even know what i did to him but apparently i "screwed him over" and i'm such a "bitch" and a "cunt". i tried talking to him about it and even apologizing and everything but he's so cold-hearted and will not forgive me for whatever i did. obviously i should just drop it and leave it alone but i don't like being hated for a reason I don't even know. what should i do about this? i know its best to just forget about it and leave it but thats the hardest thing for me cause its gonna piss me off until i know what was so bad that i did..

Hey,
No, i dont think that you just drop it and leave it, don't let him walk all over you. You've already said sorry, so don't apologize any more. You have done your part, and that's all you can do, especially considering you're not even aware of what you did and he's doing it for no reason. You need to ask him just once more for a final answer, which is "why" hes doing this. If he doesn't give you a straight answer, you tell him you've been doing all you can to please him by apologizing for something you dont even know you've done! Or if you really want to figure this out on you're own, he's your ex right? The problem could be that he still likes you but you've moved on? This is possible, he could become bitter because you only like him as a friend now, and he can't handle that and people have their own ways of dealing with rejection. But try doing what I said for straight answers. Good luck

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