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Q: my friend is depressed. she always tells me her problems and itold her to get therapy bcuz it helps and ive been through it. but after i tell her this she always says "see thats why i cant count on you. you never help me with my problems" she always makes me feel so guilty. How can i help her?
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Just be her therapist. Since you've already gone through it, you can just tell her what your therapist said to you. I'm like a therapist to my friends, and it might get annoying after awhile, but if you don't want to do that, you just have to tell them you're not a professional, and explain how they helped you, if you haven't done that yet. There probably isn't a good way to get her off your back, if that's what you are terying to do, at least, not a nice way, but you could say I'm sick of your complaining, you need to see a professional, but that sounds mean. If you just really want to help, the thing she probably needs most is just a friend to listen. You can't solve all her problems for her, because you probably wont be able to do that her whole life for her. Just listen, and do the things to her your therapist did for you. Hope i could help!
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Q: Ok weell my Friend Jazzy has all of sudden become weight concious. Whenever me and my friends would go to the pool she would always complain about how fat she was and everything. I mean i no its normal to do this but once the school year has started she has still never stopped. Whenever i was wearing a mini skirt she would always complain on how her legs are too fat. I feel really bad though because she isnt fat and im scared that she will want to be around us again, because thats the impression were getting! plez help!!
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Ok, if u are scared that she will want to hang wround with you, then maybe you shouldn't be friends with her, and she can be with friends who understand her wanting to get attention. Just sympathize w/ her, and pretend to care, and if you get sick of it, just ignore it. Hopefully, she'll drop it if she realizes you don't want to talk about it.
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Q: Ok, i'll get to the point. My friend has all these new friends this year, and she seems to wanna hang w/ them more than she would with me. what do i do?
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Just make new friends. u'll be all alone if u have no one 2 hang with, and if she doesn't mean to disclude you, then she'll just get a taste of her own medicine!
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Q: ok so i have this friend... we were best friends last year and the year before but when school started this year she ditched me for this new girl even though i did nothing! and so now- shes moving in march! and she called me and im the only person that knows and she hasnt even told her new best friend and she told me im still her best friend forever and she just was hanging out with that girl because we are on different teams and she is all alone! and so yeah but then we got back to school and she started ditching me again so i am thinking about just telling her wtf we are not best friends but i dont know wahat to do!
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Either she didn't mean to really ditch you, or it's her nice way of saying she's moved on. U need to find some new friends either way, because she's moving anyway, and then you still wont have her around. If you need to know what it is, just sit down and talk to her for a while and find out whats on her mind. remember the truth hurts, so u dont always wanna hear it.
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I like giving advice, so ask me. But if you have a stupid question, i'll give you a stupid answer! No really, try me!
*Not all Dumbs are Blonde
*Why are you reading this?
*I didnt loose my mind, I sold it on eBay
*Never put a coat of nail varnish on before taking off the one under. This is the key to leading a successful life my friend.
*I'm Out To Conquer The World......Ooooo Look Something Shinny!!!
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Gender: Female Member Since: January 16, 2005 Answers: 29 Last Update: April 13, 2005 Visitors: 3513
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