Hello I'm Sara. I'm 16 years old. I love giving advice and I am very good at it. I have helped a lot of people out with their love, sex, drug, ruined lives and turned them around. I hope I can do the same for you if you give me a chance and just ask ME a question. I respond quick so you will get your answer as soon as you write it to me. I do have my own little problems too so we can share together if that makes you more comfortable.
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Ok, well i have this friend named heather. and we both like eachother as a boyfriend and a girlfriend, but we live about 30 minuets apart.. so were just friends. And i'm over weight, and im really thinking about not going to see her because of it.. She says my appearence dosen't matter but, i've just been made fun of and stuff soo much i can't believe her until i see her reaction. Someone please help me.
-Nab- (link)
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This should not matter to ANY girl. But some girls are so low in life that they have to have a partner in life that looks good to make them selfs look better. I think it is wrong to judge someone for their weight. I bet your a really nice guy to huh? I'm a very skinny girl-average size and my boyfriend is pretty big..He is about 15 pounds over weight for hes height. He's 5"6 but im not going ot give hes weight out because he don't want me to. I couldnt care less what people think of him, Its not all there is to a guy, I love him so much, people say we look different together cause I would look GREAT with a jock kind of guy but I hate thoughs types ya know? If she likes you and thinks you are a boyfriend type and she knows you a kind of big it shouldnt matter at all. Be straight forward with her and she should respect that, If not you can do better...Trust me, there is someone out htere for you...I found mine.
HOpe I helped,
xox, Sara
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ok so i have this friend let's call her kk ok so kk and i are really good friends and so is kk and our other friend lets call her taylor so we are all really good friends but kk and taylor leave me out like them just walkin and then all of a sudden they are just walking right next to each other and i am left behind and that really bothers me and then like a few weeks ago another one of my good friends lets call her lizzie ok so me, lizzie, taylor, and kk were walking and then all of a sudden me and lizzie were walkin next to each other and taylor and kk were walkin together and then lizzie got really up set because for one thing she is taylors younger sis like just a year younger and she gets left out alot but i try not to leave her out so she got really upset and went off and cryed so my friend kk went over and talked to her and scence all that all four of us are not aloud to be together at once (i know it sounds stupid but me, taylor, and kk are 13 and lizzie is almost 11 but almost 12 and she dose not like that same things as me, taylor and kk) ok so now kk is grounded from taylor but that dose not make scence because she can talk to me and all her other friends and scence then she said that she is grounding her self from seeing all her other friends and that hurt my feelings and now my mom said that i can't call kk even though i need to talk to her and tell her how i feel because i feel really hurt now because if she can't see taylor then she is not going to see any of her other friends and that really hurts me what should i do? should i talk to her when she calls and tell her how i feel or just talk to her like nothing is going on? and just to let you know i am a christian so no cussing please (link)
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YOu need to tell her (when she calls) exactly how you feel, no differnt, no faking. If she is a friend then she should at least try and act like she is listening...YOu know what im saying? If not then i have no idea what to do for you because my firends were the same way and i just stopped talking to them. I felt left out because okay... I have sarah, brittani, christin and mikayla. well brittani and mikayla had there thing then mikayla and sarah had there thing...well christin is like OVERLY huge and really hugly so she is always left out so we became friends but then she left me for brittani and then they all left me because they all follow one another...now its now me and mikyal because she dates my boyfriends brother and thats what brings us close AND THATS THE ONLY THING...im about ot loose her to because of how she acts...but i tell her how it is-and she listends...try that-sorry so long...i dont know why i wrote all that but i have to go
hope i helped.
xox, Sara
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Ok well the guy I kinda like I just found out has a girlfriend aww i know im sad... I cant get him out of mind, i have a myspace and hes one of my friends on it cause we go to school together and stuff i mean i didnt just meat him or anything and I use to like always look at his sight and leave him friendly comments and stuff but now the picture thats his main is of him and his girfriend kissing... I respect him and respect the fact that he has a girlfriend and all that cause were good friends and Im happy for him i just want to try to think of him as a really good friend and not get sad when i see thier picture... any advide please help...
signed I respect the man (link)
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Why would you say NO to my answer? I think I gave a pretty good one..But oh well-thats what I get for helping.
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Aright, well...heres the deal. First of all there is this guy I had liked for about 4 years and things for really rough and we stopped seeing each other...when I say rough I mean he cheated on me with ALL of my best friends. I started working somewhere where I met this girl...she's absolutely amazing...everything about her. To get to the point, I fell head over heals in love with her. We were together for a while...and then I got basically shafted for this other girl who she is now with. Now, I'm moving 700 miles away and I'm to afraid to confront who is now the love of my life and talk to her. Also, my "best friend" confessed her love to me recently and she kissed me...so really everything is ALL messed up. The best friend that now says she loves me, has had a boyfriend for 2 years...if you were me, what would you do? (link)
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Okay so your a girl? lol I got VERY confused for a second when i read that you were with a guy and then a girl and now your friend that is a girl loves you. lol Are you bisexual or something? Anyway...To your answer. If she has confessed her love for you, then she isnt really worried about her 2 year long relationship with her boyfriend so then you should go for it. Make yourself happy with hte person you want to be happy with. Your person you are in love with now is who? Is she a friend, a stranger? If you like her than you SHOULD NOT be afraid to aproach her. Your need to have it out in the open if you want to be happy. Hope I helped. xox sara.
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Okay, so friendship questions are rare for me. This is gonna be long. If you have a problem with that, stop reading right now.
I'm really kind of scared. My best friend, short of sister, I think, is addicted to this guy.
Problem is, they never dated. She liked him, but he didn't like her. Then she got over him, and he liked her.
Then she decided to unget over him.
He's a possessive asshole. He's basically "claimed" her and talks about their married future, and she goes with it, considering him hers as he considers her his.
The worst thing is, though, all her life, her family has considered her the "screwup", so all she's known is displacement and pain. She's longed for real love her whole life, even the "parent" kind of love. Not just the husband/wife love.
I don't even know how to explain this. She thinks he unconditionally loves her.
I have unconditional love. My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage, and he loves everything about me, even my flaws, and wouldn't change me.
This guy, however, he's used her, emotionally abused her, hurt her more than anything, and he's even like, haunting her dreams. He tried to change her. Get her to dye her hair blonde, change her clothing style, criticized everything...
I'm just afraid she's going to end up with him and cause herself more pain.
She's created an idea of him for herself. Things he does, she's given examples...I can see that he's only doing these things because he gets something out of it. He gets a person to possess. Someone to own. I hate him for what he's doing to her, but she won't let me talk sense into her.
I can't talk to him because he doesn't like me anyway.
I don't know what to do about this. This girl is seriously like my little sister. I want to protect her from him. Not from all guys, just from him because I know he's bad news.
He tried to convince me to cheat on my boyfriend with him, and to tell me that if he "really" wanted me, I could be his in a heartbeat, because he's just that good with women, which sickened me from the start. I don't understand what she sees in him. Fine. Whatever, I can deal with that.
I can't deal with him hurting her and making her think he's the last person out there for her (she's had bad luck in relationships).
On top of it all, she's afraid her parents are going to make her move, and they're not sending her to college next year, which is where she should be.
What do you think I should do? I mean, I can't really DO anything. What can I say?
-Siren =( (link)
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WOW, That is a lot to read huh? Haha..But that is good that you took your time to concider typing all that. Okay She is like your sister...So say that. Say ((whatever her name is)) that shes like your little sister and that you care for her and what she does, You don't want her hurt and in pain likee is causing her and that you think it will become really bad news and you don't want her hurt because your afraid that he will end up hurting her and you don't want that because she is like your little sister and you don't want someone that you loved hurt like that. You obviously love her a lot if you care enough to say this but if she does not listen to you then you cannot do anything for her and you need to tell her that. Say at the beginning of your talk to her tell her you cannot help her if she is not going to listen. It will do no good if she does not care. Do you have her trust and honesty with each other so that she will listen to you?? Tell me how it goes. I had a friend like this but i talked came to late and she killed her self over this guy because he told her all that shit and then he told her that he hated her because she wouldnt stop talking to me..She was only 15 years old...Guys these days..But my boyfriend is great also and her boyfriend tried the same thing with me...So I know EXACTLY were your coming from.
Hope I helped a little bit.
Sara.
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